I have only three friends with whom I talk to locally. We rarely go out and do anything, but I do attribute it to having no time with school. I've also always been a little socially shy. I also prefer the company of those much older than me. I have many more friends on the internet that I've ever had around me at home. I love some of these friends like my own family. I'm on a small email list of ladies whom I consider some of my best friends. I'm hoping to make a few friends when I move in a couple of months and find a job. Is anyone else like this?
Yes, I definitely have more internet friends than ones IRL. I think it's more convenient as I can email, chat, etc any time of the day. I have a few IRL friends, but I'm forever thinking of calling them when they're not yet awake or already in bed. Our life stages are such that they don't have kids yet, so this complicates things as well.
One local 'friend' (I use that term loosely) drives me insane. LOL The only thing we have in common is homeschooling and we don't even agree on the approaches that we use for that (which is fine because that's the nice thing about homeschooling!). She doesn't go out at night period so we would never hang out in that respect anyway. Our 'friendship' really consists of talking on the phone and I hate to talk on the phone!
My other local friend I have a lot in common with. She is big time into shopping yard sales and thrift stores, loves the beach, homeschools, and has many other interests the same as me. We do daytime stuff together mostly (yard sale, get together at her house or mine, our families have lunch or dinner together at one of our houses, our families meet at the beach, etc.). She's not into homesteading, organics, gardening, natural living, etc. though so that's why I love all my Internet friends that I can talk about that kind of stuff with!
I can honestly say that I have no in real life friends....my only friends are on the internet....the people here and on two other boards I visit....I have been hurt so many times by people who claimed to be my friends that I tend to keep to myself...I don't really like it this way, but I can't seem to change it...I have tried to connect with neighbors, but thay are all in their own little clicks and are very unfriendly
Same goes here....I have never had a good experiences IRL friends. I have no girlfriends to go shopping with, or to the library, or the bookstore, or second-hand shopping. It really kinda sux too. Plus, I am so shy, that I cannot make friends. Whenever I am around new people, I'm the quiet one who sits back and just listens. And of course, who wants to invite the quiet girl back numerous times, which is what it would take for me to warm up, to just sit there and not be involved?
I too consider all my friends from the internet my true friends, but I don't even talk to them on the phone. I don't know if that counts or not. I don't have any friends in this town, but I do consider my fiance my very best friend in the whole world.
I have several aquiantances, but only about three or four people whom I would call true friends. My best friends are a married couple with this gorgeous baby girl. Besides them, I have one great guy-friend and one great girl-friend. I have a couple of friends through my husband, but those four people above are the ones I would go to if I ever needed anything. Other than that, I have some great friends on the internet who I can share anything with. I think it's great to have such connection with people, even though you might never have met them, nor may ever meet them, in real life.
Yes I too have loads of internet friends and not really any IRL that I could call friends, just aquaintances. Mike and I are not ones for socialising, preferring to be with each other. We are each others best friend.
My one good friend is a guy who is like a brother to me. He's a friend to us both.
Julia
There are a few women here that I guess we are friends. We ave hung out some but really don't have anything in common. All my friends are online, too. I'm hoping to make new friends IRL once I get moved to New York
I too have more internet friends than irl. When I lived in town and had neighbors close by I was the social butterfly, lol. My closest dear friend lived 1&1/2 hrs away and I'd drive to visit with her for a night or 2 every now & then. Now I'm living farther away from all and don't really keep in touch with anyone. The df and I just drifted farther apart when I got tired of being the one to always travel to see her and our lives got busier with the children growing up.
I have many online friends and few especially dear to my heart friends that I feel very close to.:heartsm:
Thank goodness for the www, it has brought so many together to share & care for one another.
I have several RL friends but I have many online friends as well. I think being a stay at home mom/wife is not very conducive to making lots and lots for RL friendships. You don't get the opportunity to meet as many people as you otherwise would.
teddymaker: I'm the same way! I had such a close group of friends, but we went to college and went our separate ways. We keep in touch every now and then. I see a few of them maybe once a year.
The friends I made in college live so far away that the only time I talk to them is through IM or email. It stinks. Haven't seen any of them in years, either.
In real life, I have my boyfriend and that's about it. It's kind of depressing. I miss the close comradery of female friendship. There are things that women just understand and "get" that men can't. But, it's always been harder for me to make friends with women than men for some reason. I have about four really close friends that are men, and I have one that could be considered a friend that's a woman. None are local.
I probably have more online friends now (here) than real life. I know lots of people in real life, but you guys probably know me better than my IRL acquanitances (sp?) do! Most of my IRL close friends are in different places in life-- no kids, not married-- so I don't see them nearly as often as I used to. There's a group of women that I work with, but we're all busy with our own families outside of work, so we only get together a few times a year.
I joined a MOMS Club a few months ago in order to meet some other moms IRL and I've really enjoyed that. I'm starting to consider some of those girls as friends now, too.
I'm blessed to have some really great friends both here and locally that I get to see quite often. I also have many other friends that live far away but we still keep in touch and when we are able to get together, it seems like no time has passed.
I have only one friend IRL, she and I work at the same place and have known each other for about nine years. We talk on the phone occassionally, but never go anywhere together. ALL of my other friends are right here in the village. Well, except for my best buddy, DH.
I have several aquaintances. I get friendly it seems with people who use and abuse my friendship. My best friend, as many of you here know, is Melody. We have known each other since high school. Apart from her, I haven't anyone I would concider a friend IRL. But the flip side of that is that I concider my friends here at FV just as mucha a friend although I have neve actually met in person.
I have more "intown" or "in person friends".
It is hard for me to make friends on-line, I never know how genuine people on-line are and in person I am a good judge of charactor so in-person is easier for me.
That being said I do have a bunch of on-line friends I would love to meet in person and have an in-person friendship.
I think I have more online friends. I have one true RL friend but she's older (I'm 32 she's 43). I have small kids,hers are older. We use to get together every weekend and do things but not so much since Jayme was born.She lives just down the road from me.We talk on the phone several times a week.
I know people from church and around town but noone that I would really call a true friend.....just people i know and are friendly to lol
I'm especially close to one aunt (my moms baby sister) and semi close to my sister. My sister is all about money and shopping at malls etc where as I shop at thrift store and try to save money...we're a little different but still close.
I have 2 close online friends I have known for years.One I've known for 6 years,the other 3 years.We talk everyday either by email or instant messenger.
I have a hard time meeting and trusting people online.It's easy for me to open up and tell people things but it's always that they stab me in the back. I'm very trusting and get hurt a lot
Did that make sense? lol
In addition to my other reply I chat, IM, email all my "in person friends"
I find that a much better was to keep in touch then the phone since it can be done any time BUT we get togethern person too.
This was a very interesting thread for me to read -- I don't have many friends and don't have a best friend. No one to just call up any time and chat, y'know?
I spend a lot of time on line, but have never made great friends here, either. I love talking to people but it's kind of like "disembodied voices" --- I've never made a real connection.
As a group, I've noticed a lot of people here whose words I like to read. Looking forward to getting to know you better.
All you guys are like my family, You all know about me then anyone else. I have a great friend and we go out 1 time a month talk everyday. I have friends at church i see on Wed and Sundays.But i stay home most of the time. People in this town are snobs if you didn't grow up here forget it.
I occasionally talk to my three best friends from high school on Facebook, but they're all more into it than I am. One of them lives about 40 minutes away and we hung out for years, but haven't for the last several years. I got tired of doing most of the calling and didn't care for her son who has issues that she and her dh can't seem to see. I have one RL friend that is almost 30 years older that I've been friends with for almost 22 years. She's from Liverpool and she and her dh lived here for years, but moved to Kentucky about six years ago. I see them now only about every couple of years or so, but we talk on the phone. I have one online friend that lives in England that I met online in a chat room 13 years ago. We have each visited the other and email and exchange birthday and Christmas gifts every year. I have one friend from church that is 20 years older and we rarely get together. Other than that, you guys are my friends.
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