How do you feel about change?

**daddys3chicks** · 01-30-2005, 11:12 AM

I know that change is necessary, but I hate it. I hate that my Daddy is gone. I hate that he never saw my girls. I miss simpler times and less junk bombarding our senses. I can control some of it but not all of it. I miss Sunday afternoon car rides, visiting my grandparents in the country. How do you view change?

**Mom23boys** · 01-30-2005, 01:38 PM

I don't do well with change either. I miss my grandparents so much. I hate that they aren't here for my children the way they were for me. My grandparents raised me and my sister, so they were more like our parents than grandparents. The oldest 2 boys got to know them for a little while, but Dakota was just a baby when they both passed. I often share stories with them all about them. They also go with me to the cemetery when I go to visit and clean it.

**PrairieRose** · 01-30-2005, 02:28 PM

I'm working on "changing" easier.....

I like to try new things but it's hard for me when something life changing is thrown onto me or my family. I think that's natural. I'm trying very hard to go with the flow more and embrace the changes that different stages of life bring. It's not easy and some days I do better than others.

**forestdale** · 01-30-2005, 02:40 PM

I thrive on change. I LOVE it! I see each changing day as a possibility for learning or doing exciting things.

Both my parents have died - my mother in 1993 and my father in 1999 and I do miss my mother every day. But she is the one who taught me that life is something you make for yourself and if you sit around and wait for things to happen you must take what you get.

I live my life with this thought in mind, it's by Thoreau:
"I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practise resignation, unless it was quite necessary. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan- like as to put to rout all that was not life, to cut a broad swath and shave close, to drive life into a corner, and reduce it to its lowest terms, and, if it proved to be mean, why then to get the whole and genuine meanness of it, and publish its meanness to the world; or if it were sublime, to know it by experience ...

**guest2** · 01-30-2005, 05:19 PM

Well...it depends on what kind of change it is. I am thankful for things that make my life easier but I also long for simple times again where I could spend all day at the beach or the lake watching my kids play in the water. I really want life to slow down so that I can enjoy each moment and not be stressed about what I need to do next or get someone from point A to point B. This morning I slept in until 10 a.m. (unheard of for me) and it felt so good not to have a packed day full of "stuff" to do. I savoured my time hanging laundry out on the line enjoying the sun on my face and talking to the neighbor's dogs. I snuggled in the comforts of my husband's arms this morning without worry of having to get up and do anything for anyone. I need more times like today!

**Makat2u** · 01-31-2005, 05:08 PM

I find some changes easier then others. I wish I was able to more of the things I used to do instead of being so homebound due to bad health but I know that this will pass & there is a brighter future ahead & I look forward to that.