I can`t beleive this is life...

**simplemom** · 06-04-2002, 09:16 AM

I work so hard, giving 100 % of myself to my children since their birth...I am just totally exhausted of being a mom.

My kids are 13, 11, 9 and 4. Each are at different times in their life. Each have so much differents needs. I know I can`t fufill all their needs and neither my dh, but oh...is it so hard to cope with all this. They are sooo demanding in different ways!

Something has got to change here because I can`t do it anymore...

Don`t worry. It isn`t big problems, but mostly bad temper problems with middle two and all but the 4 yr. old, have lost their brain(lol!) I have to repeat, repeat, repeat---put your clothes in the laundry...I have to argue with the one who is supposed to fill up the dishwasher...and tell the third one to put his bike helmet ALL THE TIME!

THEY ARE DRAINING ME...

Any one OUT THERE? HELP!

**Michelle** · 06-04-2002, 09:49 AM

Awwwww Lucie I know exactly how you feel. I say the same thing over and over and over, and they still don't do whatever I am asking them to do. "Kathryn get dressed for school. Kathryn did you get dressed yet? Kathryn, it's almost time to leave...let's go! Kaaaaaathrrrryyyyynn!!!! Are you dressed???"

My biggest issue now is their fighting--they fight from the minute they wake up till the minute they go to bed. The only peace I get is when one is sleeping or when K is at preschool.

I don't know why I just made this a post about my troubles...just wanted you to know that I think a LOT of us feel the same way you do. Too bad there isn't an easy solution...or is there? Hmmm anyone have any ideas for us?

Chelle

**simplemom** · 06-04-2002, 12:34 PM

Thanks Chelle,

So I`m not alone with fighting and arguing children...

But what are we going to do! Seriously...I dream of a calmer life.

**bamamomto4** · 06-04-2002, 01:34 PM

Oh my I am with you both! My kids are 12,3,and 1...My 12 year has a job of sweeping the kitchen floor every night and washes dishes about 4-5 times a week.She KNOWS her 'job' is sweeping EVERY SINGLE night but yet why am I having to remind her EVERY SINGLE night!! But does she need to be reminded to blast her radio....swim in the pool everyday...play video games..OF COURSE NOT!!!!!!!
And laundry is a another story.She will wait till she has NOTHING to wear to get her clothes washed and then expects me to drop everything and go wash them cause she has nothing to put on!!!!
She is constantly arguing with Katie and acts like her mother!

And of course Katie and Jackson fight over toys and FOOD ALLDAY LOL They each want the last fruit loop......But hey..I vote they are ALL FRUIT LOOPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I love my kids,but somedays I need a break!! Don't we allllllllllllll

**cody15650** · 06-04-2002, 03:11 PM

My kids are teens & it doesn't get any easlier, I still have to tell them to do the dishes or burn the garabage, just keep repeating myself. After all these years you would think it would have soak in. I THINK NOT! I think all kids are the same. Tell me if you come up with any really good ideas.

**Jerseygirl** · 06-04-2002, 06:01 PM

Good luck-you ladies have the hardest job in the world. What am I about to get myself into????

**dz_blonde_girl** · 06-04-2002, 08:10 PM

My husband and I had our 9 year old write out his own list of "responsibilities". He has a morning list starting with 1) go to the bathroom. It includes all of his morning duties. The afternoon one includes checking the trash and walking the dog. He knows he better have everything on his list done before he asks if he can do something else.

**mustang80** · 06-04-2002, 09:02 PM

We're here for you simplemom!

My DD's are 13, 10 and 6 months. The older ones fight over clothing, alarm clocks, who goes first in the shower, etc. etc. etc. etc..........you get the picture. Yet deep down, they are each other's best friend. Throw a baby into the mix and WOW! I don't homeschool my kids, so that does give me a break 9 months of the year. I couldn't do that simply because I couldn't make that kind of committment. My kids would end up getting jobs at 13 or something. My DH is not very helpful, so the kids and housework are all on me. This was hard when I worked the last five years before the baby. I was not the mom I wanted to be. I was the

that came home every day at 5:00.

Now I love being home with my kids. Granted I have girls, so I don't know what its like to have boys running around. My girls and I are good friends too, but they have their moments. Just this morning DD1 shot me an evil eye while we argued about her hair. I could have killed her. At 13, her attitude is just below the surface, and I would like to keep it there.

You're not alone, we all go through trials of raising a family. DD3 is my last and I am taking time to enjoy her. DD1 and DD2 are older now, and in a few years they will be off on their own. I can't imagine not having them around. Alright, now I'm going to cry.....

**simplemom** · 06-04-2002, 09:40 PM

Thanks Danielle...

Your words are of some consolation to me.

But, today was not the best! I`ll surely get more courage soon.
To top it off, my 13 year tells me he doesn`t believe in God and laughs this at my face!

Not that I push my kids into being perfect believers and going to church every sunday, but I truly thought all the efforts of love and the sincere prayers at supper or other special occasions through out his life had some type of impact on him! Is there something I`m forgetting? I`ve always believed, but maybe it`s a phase some teens go through? Can you relate to this Danielle?

I`m trying not to take it personally and I certainly don`t want to be pushy, but I admit that I am decieved and mostly in myself...how is it possible that my son says he does not believe in God?...

I am positive that I have been a loving mother and that I`ve always kept God present in our lives especially in the simple everyday little living miracles that happen.

Oh well, maybe I just need some care time for me and just stop worrying about all this. He is growing up. I guess it`s normal he`s questioning our beliefs and our values...

A sincere thank-you to those who have taken the time to read and answer me. I really needed it.

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 06-05-2002, 12:33 AM

I am glad to know my kids are normal--they fight all the time. When it's quiet upstairs, I immediately call up there to see if they are still alive or if they have finally killed each other.

**Gloria** · 06-06-2002, 05:38 PM

Lucie, my boys are 8 and 6 and yesterday was the first day of summer vacation for them. I had to break up 3 fights before 9:30 in the morning. I already feel so tired and underappreciated. I love them so much but I don't know if I'm going to make it through the summer sane!
Not a lot of advice here, but I just wanted you to know that there is somebody else in the same boat. This Mommy job is tough, isn't it?

**simplemom** · 06-07-2002, 10:48 AM

LOL! Sure is tough! That`s why my DH is taking the first three weeks right after school ends for our vacation! I don`t want to be alone this year, when the boys are adapting in being together all day! :surprise:

Will we survive the summer?

**TheFrugalDiva** · 06-08-2002, 10:01 AM

I think my grandmother had the best solution! She fed her 10 children breakfast....then told them to get outside and dont come back in the house til suppertime...LOL

*sigh*~~~dreaming wistfully of simplertimes and quiet places~~

and does anyone else find that when the older children are at home......that the littlest ones all of a sudden start acting like little monsters too???

**simplemom** · 06-08-2002, 02:04 PM

That`s exactly what happening to my 4 yr. old when his brothers are home!

Wow! Your grandmother was a courageous woman! 10 kids! How did they do it?

LOL!

Like you said, if they played outside all day, the good air and open spaces should have helped a great deal. The kids then didn`t have their heads filled up with the crap our kids see and hear everywhere on tv and everywhere else.