Graduation - How to decide which grandparent gets to come?

**Rhonda** · 04-01-2005, 12:35 AM

My son will be graduating from high school in May and admission is by ticket only. If it rains, graduation will be held indoors and there will only be 4 tickets given per child. Naturally my husband, myself and my daughter plan to attend, but how do we decide which grandparent gets the 4th ticket? What is fair? My mother-in-law is adament that she gets to come, but my son prefers my father. I also have a mom and step-dad. How would you handle this?

Thanks for your input!

**dolphin** · 04-01-2005, 01:01 AM

Geezz! I never heard of tickets for graduation!

I don't know how you're going to decide. Good luck with this. I'll keep good thoughts for you and your family .

**mom2matty** · 04-01-2005, 01:06 AM

That is a very tough thing to deal with!! My dd graduates in June and we were given 4 tickets with the option to purchase more. I couldn't imagine having to decide who to give that 1 ticket to.........

I hope you are able to figure it all out!!

**Daphne** · 04-01-2005, 06:51 AM

that is a tough one but if it came down to it I would let your son decided - it's his graduation. Good luck!!

**sunshine** · 04-01-2005, 08:14 AM

I wouldn't . . . . . meaning I would't allow any of them to attend. It will create WAY to many bad feelings down the road, and puts you and / or your son in the position of playing favorites.

I'd rather give the ticket to someone else in the class to use, rather than deal with years of anger.

On that note-- you could check with other members of the class to see if they have tickets they won't be using.

My son is also graduating in May--- they get 4 tickets for floor seating, but any one can sit in the bleachers. We give the floor seating tickets to the grandparents. Dh and myself sit in the bleachers with our friends. Dd playings in the band and gets to sit with them.

**mom22grls** · 04-01-2005, 08:30 AM

I agree with sunshine.

**PrairieRose** · 04-01-2005, 08:34 AM

I'd either do what Sunshine suggested or I'd hold a lottery drawing in full view of everyone. Have each grandparent put their name in the hat and let a child draw one name out. That would be final, no discussion. There's really no other fair way and the grandparents "should" be able to understand that.

**KKCondrey** · 04-01-2005, 08:39 AM

Man that sucks. We got 7 incase of rain (which it did) when I graduated, but luckily the guy I was dating my sr. year had all out of state relatives so he just used 3 (his mom, dad and sister) he gave me the other 4 so my whole family was allowed to come.

That being said I agree with sunshine.....if other tickets can't be found from classmates that don't need them I wouldn't let ANY of the grandparents attend. Its more importanat that the parents and siblings be their first and foremost. Ask the grandparents (better yet tell them, like we told mine) that in case of lack of seating due to graduation being inside instead of outside, that you all will go out for a late lunch/early dinner (cap and gown and all so they can have pictures) prior to the ceremony or you can go out afterwards depending on post graduation events that your son will be attending.

I hope it all works out. And if it is indoors and your extra ticket won't be used, have your son ask his classmates if anyone needs an extra ticket for a sibling/girlfriend/boyfriend and let them have it.