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04-09-2005, 06:38 PM #1Registered User
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I am so mad!
Dh went to the store KNOWING that our grocery budget was $40 and spent $100 on groceries!!! How am I ever goign to get any frugal mindset when he keeps blowing it?
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04-09-2005, 07:31 PM #2Registered User
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Big hugs! Believe me, I know where you're coming from.
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04-09-2005, 07:41 PM #3
Time to sit down and have a chat with him. Show him what comes in, what goes out and where and tell him how frustrated you are with the struggle your going through. Sometimes it takes men a lot longer to learn the frugal mindset that it does us women.
Also how about an allowance for him. When he has spent it on whatever he wants, he gets no more.
And last but not least, I guess you'll have to do the shopping.
I don't send dh shopping for groceries ever, for that very same reason. Even if I make a list, he still comes back with items not on the list and usually its junk food.
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Yeah, like mine did tonight! ICE for heaven's sake!!?? We *have* ice trays!!Originally posted by homesteadmamma
I don't send dh shopping for groceries ever, for that very same reason. Even if I make a list, he still comes back with items not on the list and usually its junk food.
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04-09-2005, 10:20 PM #5Registered User
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Well, we use the envelope system-- so if the items I plan on will cost about $20, I might send him with $25- there is no way I'd send him with the entire grocery budget at once (nor would I take it myself) and I wouldn't let him take the checkbook or credit cards either.
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04-10-2005, 03:32 AM #6Registered User
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my hubby is the same! I do the shopping and make him stay home with the children 
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04-10-2005, 09:54 AM #7Moderator aka AmyBob
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Show him what else you could have done with the extra $60 he spent and figure out how long he has to work to earn $60. Realizing how much he has to work to earn $60 might make him think twice before he spends that much again! Then, explain exactly what he could have gotten with $40.
It takes time, but dh's, too, can be swayed to the dark side!
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04-10-2005, 12:35 PM #8Registered User
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Cash only ususally works as then he doesn't have a choice. Also if you set it straight by saying "if you can't do this then I will just have to do it myself". A challange usually gets the point across and if he thinks, that you think, he can't do it then that may work. Otherwise you may want to do it yourself or have him go with you.
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04-10-2005, 06:16 PM #9Registered User
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I don't think I would send him to the store any more!~*Michelle*~
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