I'm so frustrated UPDATED

**fernykins** · 10-12-2005, 01:02 AM

I have a situation dealing with my neice. Mind you I raised her from the time she was 3. She has a little boy age 3. This little boy took 2 kittens and killed them on puppose. He bragged about it. Now she wants to believe that it was a normal thing. I know it isn't. She needs to get some help for him ASAP. I don't think she will. It takes away from her and what she wants.... I dont understand why. I just want to get her to understand he needs help before he does something even worse.... Please keep her and her son in your throughts and prays.... that she will do the right thing for her son.
Fern

Well she did take him to see someone, and he has been dx with ADHA....... Anxiety disorder and Bi polar....... now since he is 3 he cant be givin any meds for them....plus the bi polar and AHAD meds counter act each other. I still don't think that is everything.
But they are suppose to be helping her deal with him and working with him. So we will see if she sticks to it....... She is not one to stick to anything........ I cant take him because of all my health problems.. My grandsons who live with me will play on my bed if I want to rest. Nick won't let me rest..... I just hope and pray she is getting all the help she needs and that she follows thur.

**forestdale** · 10-12-2005, 01:12 AM

She certainly does need help for that little boy. I hope he gets it.

**PrairieRose** · 10-12-2005, 10:35 AM

Absolutely needs help with that little boy and to consider what might cause this type of behaviour in him.

**Dedlered** · 10-12-2005, 10:37 AM

Yes, help is needed and soon. I hope that she gets it

**Mumzy** · 10-12-2005, 11:39 AM

Perhaps she doen't know where to turn. That can be hard to admit to anyone. May I humbly suggest that you hand over a list of names and numbers to her. That way, you have at least lead the horse to water.....

**Michelle** · 10-12-2005, 11:52 AM

Originally posted by Mumzy
Perhaps she doen't know where to turn. That can be hard to admit to anyone. May I humbly suggest that you hand over a list of names and numbers to her. That way, you have at least lead the horse to water.....

This is a great idea.

I hope she gets him the help he needs and SOON.

**amysh** · 10-12-2005, 04:52 PM

I found this on a website, although I have not been able to verify its truthfulness, I've definitely heard this before. I would be very worried about such a young child exhibiting such behavior. Very scary. Either he didn't know it was wrong, in which case it is his mother's place to make sure that he understands how cruel it was, or he *does* understand, in which case he needs some sort of help, desperately.

According to FBI profilers, the American Psychiatric Association, law enforcement officials in the US and child advocacy organisations, people who hurt animals are likely to move on to even bigger "game" - their fellow humans. Cruelty to animals is considered one of three symptoms that predict the development of a psychopath. Says Robert Ressler, founder of the FBI's Behavioral Sciences Unit, "These are the kids who never learned it was wrong to poke out a puppy's eyes".

**Mamaw** · 10-12-2005, 07:21 PM

Is there another family member who might also help in convincing your neice to get her son some help? Sometimes it helps to hear the same thing from different voices. I will keep that little boy in my prayers

**pip** · 10-13-2005, 05:47 PM

I hope that she will take her boy in for an evaluation and professional advice. The earlier these things are dealt with, the better. Good luck!

**Mom23boys** · 10-13-2005, 05:54 PM

I hope she takes him for help. I wouldn't give up on trying to convince her. She can start with her peditrician and he can guide her in the right direction.

**Kimberlina** · 10-13-2005, 06:08 PM

First, I know this must be VERY hard for you.

Please know I will be thinking of you all.

Fernykins, I have read the same thing in profiling books, and have heard it before.

Second, I don't really know HOW you might do it, but I think you really need to step in here and do SOMETHING. What ultimately matters is not that everyone feels good, including the neice, but that this child gets help. If an adult did this, or even an older child, they would be arrested.

Urge her again to do something- I don't know who the right person to contact is in this instance- I would think a child psychiatrist, but it YOU are the one who needs to make a call, you will need government assistance to force your neice's hand. Maybe an anonymous call to CPS will give you the info you need to proceed.

This should not be your responsibility, but since the mother is doing nothing, PLEASE help this little boy.