I'm a little worried...

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-16-2006, 03:33 PM

Hubby is going away tomorrow and not coming back till Sunday evening but I am a little worried....

Houses, apartments and businesses in the area are getting robbed left and right.

I am worried because my older son doesn't usually get home till 10:30pm and then it's only me and my daughter in the house all alone.

I am keeping a knife in my room just in case and have planned an "hiding" place (we have a central air system in the house and the way to get up near the ducts is in through the master bedroom, I figured it we heard something we would hide in there and no one would think to look there since it's in the master closet in the ceiling). The space up there is more than enough for us to fit and keep quiet.

I guess it really upsets me because we work so hard for the things we have and people just want to break in other peoples home and steal them, I have heard that home owners are getting shot too.

Any advice?

**Darlene** · 02-16-2006, 03:43 PM

Invite a friend to stay over, lock your doors & windows and keep the phone nearby.

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-16-2006, 03:45 PM

Honestly... I dont have any friends

BUT I will keep the phone nearby, I will have the cordless and the cell with me all nights.

**webjoba** · 02-16-2006, 04:58 PM

Leave some lights on - this is one time not to worry about the electric bill. I think it less likely people will try to break in if they think someone is home - they will always try the easiest places first so make sure its obvious someone is home.

Yes - keep that phone by you at all times.

Any chance your son could stay in or get in earlier? Or maybe you could arrange to check in with him on the phone each hour so you have contact with someone and he will know you are OK.

But - try not to stress too much - the chances are still slim and don't forget - nobody else knows you are home without your husband.

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 02-16-2006, 06:13 PM

my dh works 3rd shift, so its just my 4 kids & myself at night. my dh has worked 3rd shift for 7yrs. at first, i was so nervous & jumped at every little noise. i'm very used to being alone at night now. it took some time. but some good ideas are, leave some lights on, not sur eif you have a dead bolt lock (i always feel alot safer with a dead bolt lock), and of course keep all phones by you at all times, keep your porch lights on, and make sure all windows & doors are locked at all times. do you have a dog? my dog is the sweetest dog ever, but if someone came into my house, he would bark (he wouldn't hurt a soul, but at least he would bark)!! if if you need to talk or have any other questions, please post message me. i would be happy to talk to you!! otherwise relax, things will be just fine

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-16-2006, 06:17 PM

That's true....

- I can keep some lights on.
- I have a dog who barks (but wouldn't hurt a soul)
- Keep the phone with me at all times
- Lock all doors and windows

Thanks everyone!

**guest32** · 02-16-2006, 06:59 PM

My dh is out of town for 6 days. I'm home alone.....I'm sort of used to it, but I keep my two friends with me.
Mr. Smith and Mr. Wesson
Sorry if that's not PC....but I can certainly take care of myself if need be.

**Pepper** · 02-16-2006, 08:01 PM

Try not to stress too much about it. Sounds like you have a good plan in case you should need it. I know its impossible not to worry about it, but try not to let it overtake you. I'm sure there are several of us here at the village who would be more than willing to chat with you if need be. Don't hesitate to ask

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-16-2006, 08:03 PM

Thank you ladies... I even talked to my older son and asked him to come home a little earlier while dad was gone, he said ok.

**SewCrafty** · 02-17-2006, 12:29 AM

Sounds like you have everything under control Tracy. You will be just fine, you have made a plan and that is what is important.

I know it is hard staying alone the first few times, but it does get easier.

**my4littlebuffaloes** · 02-17-2006, 10:12 AM

My dh will be gone for 3 nights next week. I am very nervous. I plan on keeping the outside lights on all night. I will check all windows and doors every night to make sure they are locked. I have a phone by me, but will keep the cell phone by me as well. I might even leave a light on in the den, so it looks as if someone is actually up still. I have 4 kids but the oldest is 7, so I have to present a brave face. I am dreading it though. I just keep telling myself that people do it all the time. There is a widow that lives a couple of doors down. She is by herself all the time and she seems to do fine.

I hope things go well for you!

Jennifer

**PrairieRose** · 02-17-2006, 10:42 AM

Traci have you considered leaving the t.v. on for noise? My dh used to work nights sometimes and I was always jumpy at first. After a while I got used to it and it didn't bother me. I slept with my bedroom door open, had a dog, left the kitchen sink light on (could be seen at the street) and sometimes would leave the t.v. on. I'll say a prayer for your safety. I know you'll be fine

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-17-2006, 10:49 AM

Thank you everyone... It's not like I have never been alone but with these robberies going on in the area, I am a little worried.

I will keep the outside light on and the hallway light so it looks as if someone is still up and if I go out anywhere I will leave them on as well.

**halloweenfreak** · 02-18-2006, 09:15 PM

my husband changes shifts every 28 days, so for almost an entire month and weekends on the next month its just me and my son by ourselves every night. it took me for ever to get use to being alone. i kept every single light on in the house and slept with the tv on and a baseball bat at the foot of the bed.
a friend of mine had a security system installed and since she referred me i could get one installed for free. i jumped at the chance. sure its 36 dollars a month, but i def. think its worth it for us. not only is it a security system but a fire alarm as well. if we are out of the house, the monitors will call us and let us know what is going on. not to mention we got a 20% discount on our homeowners insurance. so actually its only costing us about 16 dollars a month.

**cspp04** · 02-18-2006, 10:59 PM

there is no one that shares the worries with me here. i am a single mom. every night i check that the door is locked properly and then i crawl into bed. i used to worry every night when i first moved out with my children but now i give it little thought. because i'm used to being the 'protector' i can close my eyes and sleep easy at night. in 8 years, we've had alot of uninterrupted nights. i'm sure you'll be fine.

tips like leaving the lights on are good ones. do what you need to for your peace of mind. with time, you'll learn to relax more.