Mental Health Dumping Ground - rant

**madhen** · 03-06-2006, 11:40 PM

Okay, I had a crappy day, so I am doing this to try to clear out the clutter. By writing down all my gripes, I hope to move beyond them. Today was not great. Tomorrow is another story.

Gripe 1: Got a letter from my internet provider that it has not been collecting my monthly fees since November 2005, and due to a glitch in their system, they haven't gotten around to notifying me. So now I have to pay five months of monthly fees all at once, right after promising myself I wouldn't use my credit card anymore.

Gripe 2: Had a co-worker do a really rude thing. Left a message for me to call (via email), then five minutes later, called my supervisor and complained that I hadn't called him back yet!! I smoothed it over with my boss, but still irritating!

Gripe 3: SO (significant other) left for a week-long business trip today. Every time he called to check in (driving about six hours), he just griped about the weather and how tired he was, or he left me sitting there ("hang on a sec") while he took calls on his business cellphone. When I got irritated at having to sit and listen to him talk to someone else, he got irritated at me and said he'd just call when he got to the hotel.

Gripe 4: I am on a board of directors for a local club. The elected president of the board missed our last board meeting. She then sends out an email with a bunch of mis-information, both based on her being clueless as to how finances work and based on her not having the information discussed at the last meeting. Damage control now at maximum level.

Gripe 5: I have the bank account down to a science, and think I have everything worked out, but then my bank refuses a reimbursement check because the vendor didn't indicate whether the $400 should go to checking or savings!!! Now, I have to wait about another two weeks for that, and meanwhile, all those things I have perfectly balanced are starting to crumble.

AND I HAVE A HEADACHE!!!

Okay, wow, I feel much better now! All that poison out of my system and ready to face another day!!

Anyone else who just wants to do a negative mental flush, feel free.

**suzysaver** · 03-07-2006, 12:48 AM

Oh man, I'm really sorry.

I really understand the husband on the phone, my husband will call me in the morning before I leave for work and complain about his really bad day, and it changes my whole mood and starts my day off on a bad note.

The internet provider.. I had something similar happen with my cell phone provider, I wouldn't realize I hadn't received a bill for a couple months and then all of the sudden here comes one for 3 months...Ouch! Lets just say no more contracts for me, only go phones.

Funny how even the little things can really get to you, I came home from work and my husband was asleep in his chair and the heat was a chugging away.....felt like 80

Then when he was rinsing his plate from dinner he leaves the hot water on full blast, while he is digging around in the fridge.

I try so hard, why does he ruin it?

Well Madhen, tomorrow is another day...it's got to be better? right?

guest7 · 03-07-2006, 07:31 AM

I have no mental gripes- but if do- it's important to throw them.
good job!!

**FrugalMomof3** · 03-07-2006, 08:08 AM

I'm sorry MadHen you had a bad day.... I am having one already today...

Hubby's gone all week fixing up some things at this job but we have a torn up kitchen and it's been torn up for months now.
I guess his job is more important than his home.

**Michele Annette** · 03-07-2006, 11:20 AM

**inneedofhope** · 03-07-2006, 12:50 PM

Ugh! That $400 in limbo would burn me up. too! Why not just put it into on or the other instead of sending it back, or better yet call and ask your preference?

I'm home sick for the second day in a row, Upper Respratory Infection. I'm hot, then cold, Tired, then can't sleep. Luckily my coworkers are happily covering for me and my son went to school for the day, so I can rest. But the house will not clesn itself! I don't have the energy to even try to tackle any of it, so I can look forward to a weekend of vigorous cleaning when I feel better.

**madhen** · 03-07-2006, 01:24 PM

Thanks to all for the pains of sympathy!

Yes, my other bank, if it is in doubt, will just deposit into my savings, figuring (rightly) that I can transfer it into checking if I want. But my little archaic credit union obviously couldn't figure that one out. They actually sent back TWO reimbursements, one for $400 and the other for $86, but I managed to get the $86 re-deposited. I called too late on the $400 - it had already been re-sent with the same info, so now I have to wait for my bank to reject it again (because it is all done by computer, I am told, so they can't go in and manually accept it), so that my FSA account can MAIL it to me!!

SO's, whether they be hubbies, partners, boyfriends, or otherwise, can be a major cramp sometimes, can't they?

I sometimes wish I could get into my SO's head, because while I know he loves me and wants me to be happy, he sometimes does things that are so contrary to that philosophy, I just can't even fathom it. When we then get into a huge argument, and I finally get him to explain his actions, it usually boils down to him not thinking more than one step ahead, and not realizing how it would affect me. You can almost see the "duh" moment hit when I explain why I'm irritated. He tries, though. I kind of equate him to my dog, who has natural prey instincts that get him into all sorts of trouble, because when they hit, he ALWAYS gives in to them, even though he knows it is wrong and that I won't be happy. He still does the things he knows I hate, but he is truly repentant afterward!

How do you stay mad at a dog (or an SO) who is cringing and asking for forgiveness before you even start yelling?

Inneedofhope, it sounds like right now you are inneedofrest! The house won't fall apart in a week or so. Take it easy and take care of yourself first!!