VENT!!

**baronmom** · 05-22-2006, 10:47 AM

Thursday is my son's 7th birthday. Friday I am going to have a birthday party for him with 7 of the kids from his class. So far, there is only 1 coming to the party. 3 people called and said that their son can't make it. 3 people I have not heard from at all. One of those people is on vacation in FL so I know that they won't be there. So, there is only a possibility of 3 people coming. I never have parties and this year I decided to do it because my son really wanted one. Now I am so regretting it because of all this hassle. I am so afraid that this will hurt my son's feelings. I know I am upset about it. The thing that really makes me mad is I sent these invitations out two weeks in advance. They were suppose to call by yesterday. So far two have called today. Don't get me wrong, I am glad to finally know one way or the other if they are coming, but What is wrong with people these days. When you ask them to RSVP, they don't bother. UGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!

If I had known that so many people would not be coming, I may have had a chance to reschedule if I had known a head of time. Now I know why I do not have parties

**miss_thrifty** · 05-22-2006, 10:57 AM

sorry to hear that your upset. I'v been there too. Sometimes people get busy and just take it for granted if they'll go or not send there kid. I hope everyting works out, I remember my oldest years ago sending out 10 and 2 showed up. he was so hurt, but kids are stronger then what u think. Th ones that wanted to be there, are there.

bg · 05-22-2006, 11:43 AM

I am sorry that you're upset. Could you try to explain to your son the situation? That people got really busy and although they would love to come, they may not?

**leezza** · 05-22-2006, 11:49 AM

BaronMom,

Hey, if only one kid is schedualed to come maybe you could do something fun for the boys like a movie, swimming, or roller skating.......then return to your house for the treats and cake.....

I am so sorry and hope it all works out for you.

Regards,
leezza

**baronmom** · 05-22-2006, 12:19 PM

He seems to be taking it ok right now. I just don't want him to think that no one wanted to come to his party. I was trying to come up with something else to do now since there won't be as many here. It was only going to be from 6-8 so it is not like there is really a lot of time to go and do something. I will figure it out and make the best of it I guess. I just feel so bad for him. Especially when some of the kids have told him that they are going to be coming, and then I get the call from their mom that they are not.

**PrairieRose** · 05-22-2006, 12:48 PM

I know it's hard. I'm sure the reason the turnout isn't going to be so good is b/c it's such a busy time of year with end of the school year and all.

**FreesiaE** · 05-22-2006, 12:53 PM

Sorry to hear that

However, I will say that it is a three day weekend, and maybe people are doing lots of family stuff. I'm sure the cake will be delicious regardless!

**Cele** · 05-22-2006, 12:54 PM

I have found children's birthday parties to be fraught with parenting politics. A few things I've seen happen:

A child isn't allowed to attend because your child didn't attend his party

Some won't let their kids go if the invitations left out some class members (i.e., not a "blanket" invitation).

Some parents have safety concerns (i.e., guns or other dangerous items in the house) and won't allow their children to go to a home where they don't already know the parents

There are sometimes religious or faith-based issues that would prevent a child from attending.

Finally, there are people who are simply thoughtless and can't be bothered to RSVP.

I think your son will take his cue from you on how to react to the party attendance. If you take in stride as "one of those things" that can happen, I'll bet your son will too. Good luck!