Online friendships sometimes so sad

**frugalfarmwife** · 07-05-2006, 07:33 AM

I'm having a pretty blue day today, someone that I've known online for years lost her husband in a horrible accident Sunday morning and the funeral is today. I feel so helpless as I'm hundreds of miles away and can't be there for the family. This is the 4th time I've had this happen, the last was just 3 weeks ago a son of another forum member on another forum I belong to was killed in a hit and run. I've also lost a VERY VERY close and dear friend to cancer in March and she lived clear across the country, and another friend two years ago.

It's hard because some people in my "real" world don't realize how real these friendships can be. I'd never met these people face to face but we had so much in common and were very close. Luckily my husband is understanding and compassionate in these matters and here for me.

This death is particularly hard as the husband was the sole breadwinner, my friend has been ill and in and out of the hospital for over a year and their daughter is scheduled for a very complicated surgury the 20th of this month, it's just to much for them and going to drastically change their entire lives.

Hug your husbands, your kids, your friends, sometimes life just changes in a blink of an eye.

Thanks for listening, I know you here in the village will understand.

kj

**PrairieRose** · 07-05-2006, 08:40 AM

Kj, I'm sorry

It's hard when people we've known for a long time suffer and we can't really do much to help. I hope your friend will be ok.

**bee9984** · 07-05-2006, 09:12 AM

I am sorry for your friends loss and I am sorry for your loss too

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It is hard when we get close to our internet friends and they are hurting, we hurt right along with them.

I hope your friend will be ok

**summer breeze** · 07-05-2006, 09:20 AM

((Hugs)) and prayers for you and your friend.

**pammy** · 07-05-2006, 09:34 AM

Big (((hugs))) to you and your friend, so sad. I've got some very good internet friends, as well. It's very hard to be there when you're so far away. I'll keep you and her and family in my prayers.

**miss_thrifty** · 07-05-2006, 10:35 AM

Gig (HHHUUUGGGSSS))) going your way. It's never easy to lose friends > My sympathy to you and this time and loss .

**Buckeye5** · 07-05-2006, 11:09 AM

Hugs and prayers are with you and your friends.

**Mom23boys** · 07-05-2006, 12:34 PM

You are in my thoughts.

**Dixie** · 07-05-2006, 01:05 PM

I am so sorry! I said a prayer.

**Darlene** · 07-05-2006, 03:39 PM

When you make that decision to care about someone else you take the chance to feel so many different emotions, good & bad. I'm sorry you and your friend are hurting.

**staceyy** · 07-06-2006, 01:53 PM

You must be a very caring person to feel the way you do about your online friends. You have the right spirit. Love and frienship are not solely bound by sight or proximity. I'm sure your online friends feel grateful for your friendship and are comforted by your care and presence even if it has to remain online. There are many ways to reach out to someone including the internet and I see you taking advantage of the opportunity. May you be blessed for your kind and caring heart.

**MACMOM6** · 07-06-2006, 10:40 PM

I am so sorry..It is so hard when you lose someone close to you on-line. I had that happen a few months ago. I honestly felt like my friends in real life could not understand that I had lost a truley good friend even though we had never met face to face. I will keep you in my prayers.

Take Care,

**frugalfarmwife** · 07-07-2006, 07:39 AM

Thank you so much everyone for your understanding and prayers, Weds was a rough day to go through, I lit a candle during the time of the funeral service and spent time thinking about all the time we spent talking and laughing.

In the horse world we really have friends all across the country and world and feel like family, lol, a lot of us have sold/purchased horses from each other and have horses that are related so we REALLY feel like family. Heck, one of my best friends is clear up in Washington state and has one of my "kids", don't know if she and I will ever get together but her hubby was here this spring for two days when he drove cross country, he was like family to us.

Luckily my friends husband DID have a good life insurance policy, I was so afraid she'd have to sell the farm and horses and that would have been like selling her family to her. Now they have to get her daughter through a very invasive and dangerous surgery in the next few weeks, luckily their health insurance will still cover it.

Thank you all again,
kj