Furious at DH.

**Edelweiss** · 11-21-2006, 02:13 PM

We have to repaint our living room because when we did it the first time, the second can of paint didn't match the first one. So, DH and I agreed that we'd do it over the holiday for Thanksgiving. Then, last night DH said that he'd asked his dad to help, which I was none too pleased about. As much as I appreciate my FIL's help, he does a half-assed job with stuff and I'm a perfectionist. And a control freak. I'd rather do it myself or pay a professional than have something done poorly. Plus, when someone offers to do something for you for free, you can't really complain if they don't do it your way. Whatever. I gave in and FIL went to our house today to paint. DH called and asked where the paint was. I told him there was almost a full gallon in the office closet. An hour later, he called again and said that he'd just left Sherwin Williams and that he'd bought TWO GALLONS of paint! Apparently, FIL decided that one gallon of paint wasn't enough so we needed 2 more! As if that's not bad enough, DH paid $41 for the Sherwin Williams paint, when I only paid $12 per gallon when I got the paint at Walmart! And, Sherwin Williams doesn't let you return unused paint. I'm so angry I could scream. This is another reason why I hate my FIL to be involved with anything...he always makes a bigger production out of it than it needs to be, and it usually costs me more money. I can not wait until we move somewhere far, far away from DH's family!

**Cele** · 11-21-2006, 02:19 PM

Wow, that has to be so frustrating for you--I'm sorry to hear you're stressed. Does DH know how you feel about FIL "helping"? I totally agree there are times when it costs less in the long run (both $$ and mental health!) to hire a pro.

**dmvezina** · 11-21-2006, 02:38 PM

Oh no, I'm so sorry!!!

**Edelweiss** · 11-21-2006, 02:44 PM

DH knows exactly how I feel. Probably more so since I hung up on him because I was angry and he was patronizing me. I just can't believe that he would just go out and buy 2 gallons of paint without even calling me first, just because Daddy said so. The real problem here is that DH thinks his dad is better at these things than he actually is, but DH wouldn't know handy if it fell on his head.

**Missy** · 11-21-2006, 03:00 PM

I can TOTALLY relate. Hugs. hope it gets better.

**HandyMom** · 11-22-2006, 03:47 AM

I know how you feel. That's how I end up doing almost everything here myself. Then I complain that hardly anything gets done. I get mad at myself for not accepting help but it's my own fault.

At the very least, I hope they did a nice job since they used good paint. That's less work for you, hopefully. And I'm jealous. I have a whole inside of a house that desperately needs walls cleaned and painted and I've only got the bath and one bedroom done!

**lottaLove** · 11-22-2006, 07:13 AM

This must be frustrating for you. I'll keep my fingers crossed that they do a good job, and it doesn't need to be redone *again*

**nuisance26** · 11-22-2006, 08:17 AM

~I've had this happen to me too, perhaps on a larger scale. FIL took DH with him car shoppping and DH was the one who came home with a car. Never consulted me before spending $25K. Of course we were only engaged then, but I was ticked! It may take awhile before DH is on board with you, frugal-wise. I think he probably just thought, wife wants me to paint-I need more paint, and never thought to shop around. My DH still does this sometimes. And it's also possible that your DH and FIL feel that using a better paint will get a better result. Some of my DH's biggest money mistakes were and are when he's trying to impress me. Anyway, I feel your pain. Take a deep breath and try to keep in mind what this week is supposed to be about!

**FrugalMomof3** · 11-22-2006, 08:24 AM

I am sorry this is happening to you and know how you feel, just cross your fingers this doesnt happen again.

**Buckeye5** · 11-22-2006, 09:18 AM

Don't just hate when this stuff happens?? You are not alone, I think anyone who has been married can relate to the DH doing something like this!!It makes the wife CRAZY!!!!! Thinking of you.

**kabin63** · 11-22-2006, 09:22 AM

Wow! I think I would be upset too. sorry this happened to you.

**favesis37** · 11-22-2006, 09:23 AM

thinking of you and hoping all goes better

**Edelweiss** · 11-22-2006, 10:18 AM

Well, the good news is the painting is done. The bad news is that now I have to paint all the crown moulding because they didn't bother to tape. Oh, and I now have 2 extra gallons of non-refundable paint in Balsom Beige. At least I already have the white paint to re-do the moulding. It's going to be a long weekend, I think.

**Darlene** · 11-22-2006, 02:19 PM

Glad the paint job is something you can live with after your turn with the crown molding.
If ever anyone has extra paint from a newer job I'm betting groups like habitat for humanilty would love donations.

**MarshHen** · 11-24-2006, 12:09 PM

LOL, I remember when we were building the new house, hubby thought we could save money by painting the whole inside ourselves instead of letting the professional painters do it. Well, I nipped that idea in the bud really quick. Especially when he mentioned that he would hire his two brothers to help him. The professional painters were in and out quickly and did a beautiful job. The brothers would still be painting right now as we speak and we have been in the house two months now.