DO you ever feel like you are the only one trying to save?

**oct2667us** · 12-11-2006, 05:37 AM

My DH got to love him but he fights me every step of the way trying to save money . He dont want to go to the free store . I can't let him see me re use the coffee or tea . When I do find a cupon I want to use he is like no way. I tell him that this is it on christmas but he dose not stop, he buys more. I tell him to go where gas is a lil cheaper he wont stop. he wants to buy every thing New.

**dmvezina** · 12-11-2006, 06:50 AM

My dh isn't as bad as yours, but he also isn't as frugal as me. It's so frustrating. He will leave lights on, tells me the dishes won't get clean using the miser water setting, etc etc.
I was mortified when I got the electric bill on Saturday. My last one was around $160 I think and this one is $195. Granted, the water pumps were working overtime alot lately and I'm sure that has alot to do with it. But, I only use the dryer for about 10 loads a month for bedding.

Well, I just wanted to say you're not alone!!! LOL

**MarshHen** · 12-11-2006, 07:14 AM

My dh is really good at being frugal until he finds an old motor he thinks he can rebuild. He does get them through trade or very cheap, but he winds up spending $$ to rebuild them, and then he doesn't always get all the $$ back he spent. It drives me nuts, and he is getting a bit better with it, but still it drives me crazy!

**jenloveschip2001** · 12-11-2006, 08:43 AM

My husband is pretty much onboard with me, but sometimes I feel like his mother. He has an expensive hobby of collecting toy John Deere tractor. These tractors can cost in the hundreds. He gets mad because I don't get it, I can just thank of alot more useful stuff we need insted of tractors. He doesn't get to buy them very often and he understands that that is a want so we don't have to much trouble over the issue. I just look at it like wow for what that one tractor cost I could buy a whole wardrobe at good will. He also has a lawn mower thing. We have three ridding lawn mowers, and of coarse one is a John deere. When we first got married though he wasn't very frugal at all because his mother wasn't. She shopped at an expensive grocery store, bought expencive name brand products, so that is what he was use to. The first time we went shopping together it was interesting because I would put all the generic brands in the cart and he would be wanting the higher brands because that what he was use to . We about fought over the laundry detg. because I wanted purex and he wanted Tide. Which I like Tide but we where kind of on a budget. He has come along way in 5 years.He is almost as frugal as me know.Was your husband raised frugally or not. I think that make a big difference. Sorry so long.

**MarshHen** · 12-11-2006, 09:22 AM

LOL, I have been using Purex for years and It works great for me. I will only buy Tide if I have a coupon and it's on sale as well. If I have a greasy stain, I put a little Dawn on it and it's gone.

**oct2667us** · 12-11-2006, 02:26 PM

Originally Posted by jenloveschip2001

My husband is pretty much onboard with me, but sometimes I feel like his mother. He has an expensive hobby of collecting toy John Deere tractor. These tractors can cost in the hundreds. He gets mad because I don't get it, I can just thank of alot more useful stuff we need insted of tractors. He doesn't get to buy them very often and he understands that that is a want so we don't have to much trouble over the issue. I just look at it like wow for what that one tractor cost I could buy a whole wardrobe at good will. He also has a lawn mower thing. We have three ridding lawn mowers, and of coarse one is a John deere. When we first got married though he wasn't very frugal at all because his mother wasn't. She shopped at an expensive grocery store, bought expencive name brand products, so that is what he was use to. The first time we went shopping together it was interesting because I would put all the generic brands in the cart and he would be wanting the higher brands because that what he was use to . We about fought over the laundry detg. because I wanted purex and he wanted Tide. Which I like Tide but we where kind of on a budget. He has come along way in 5 years.He is almost as frugal as me know.Was your husband raised frugally or not. I think that make a big difference. Sorry so long.

well his mom did not have much money so I would think he was.He had a verry hard child hood. so I know he did not get every thing new.

**Nada.Leona** · 12-11-2006, 09:40 PM

and I are pretty lucky -- we're both good at saving money when we need to. We have to pay off his debt first and foremost, but after that, we can start saving for the travelling we plan to do here in about five years-ish. I can't wait, I'm so excited.

**nwmissourigal** · 12-11-2006, 10:27 PM

My husband and I are pretty much on the same page, but he is more frugal than I am most of the time. We save for a rainey day, but I must confess, I am the collector of tractors....only mine are Allis Chalmers. I have 3 but they have all belonged in my family and I have had them restored. It is an expensive hobby, and hubby complains some, but he sure enjoys using them when he needs to. I know that there are other things we could do with the money, but we don't eat out, our kids are grown and have families of their own, we both work outside of the home and are not extravangant by any way shape or form..I just love AC tractors...so I don't feel to guilty about it. But I have to remind my dh about all his hunting stuff that he "has" to have to the tractor thing works out for us. I know, an odd collecting habit for a girl..hehehehe...Blessings..Kathy

**pkellyc** · 12-12-2006, 03:27 PM

For 22 years now. If I didn't save we wouldn't have anything.
When we were first married I used to give DH a coupon to go and get his hair cut. He would take it and never say a word. One day I was in his truck and opened his glove compartment and guess what came tumbling out? Could it have been a years worth of coupons? Yes.
He has gotten better over the years but he is still not frugal at all.

**TheRootedNomad** · 12-13-2006, 01:39 PM

Most Certainly!!!! DH tries to be good in that he let's me run the money and doesn't balk very often if I say we don't have it. (Hands over his check every week for an agreed upon $35.00 a week allowance, which has went up over the years) There are some things, even when we were running REALLYlean though that he wouldn't give up, such as non-generic soda, cigaretts, bacon, a car. He grew up getting whatever he wanted (including McDonalds EVERY night) and has no sense of being frugal. His philosophy would run more along the lines of everyone working more rather than my spend less one. Over the years we've come to semi-common ground and generally don't argue over money......there are days though where I wonder how we're ever gonna get ahead with what he costs us. Example....just recently at a kids birthday party he was playing kickball with 8 to 10 year olds and catching the ball split his pinkey bone lengthwise cost: we're up to $2800.00 out of pocket so far plus LOTS of missed work and we're not done yet. Odd medical issues like these are frequent, such as his growning scar tissue which means almost every procedure has to get redone since the scar tissue screws it up. Sometimes I think "geez if this is what we're looking at with him in his early 30's Lord help us when he hits his 50's, 60's, 70's. I'm gonna have to bury money under a tree so it doesn't all go to doctor bills. He efuses to learn to eat new things (such as rice and beans) meat and potatoes only. Cable is a necessity and if I send him out for something he doesn't comparison shop unless for a large ticket item......sorry kinda vented here. I know he's trying and is getting better, and I know the medical bills are "mostly" not his fault but it does sometimes feel like I'm the only one trying to save.

**frugalnana** · 12-14-2006, 12:33 AM

Dh and I are pretty much on the same page. The only thing he forgets is to turn off the lights. Sometimes I will be in the bedroom watching a show and come out and all the lights are on. But I think that is our son also.
Our son is not frugal but he is learning.
Dh and I were out looking for christmas gifts for our grandchildren and I ask him what he wanted for christmas and he surprised me by saying just go to the goodwill and get me something. But I already had something else in mind and was hoping he would say something close to what I had wanted to get him.