Just a little ticked off

**northernmom2boys** · 12-18-2006, 04:14 PM

Ok heres me vent.I walk my two boys to school everyday,they are 5 and 9 and have a 10 mins walk.There are two little girls that also on accassion have to walk home from school(in my opinion too young to walk alone)So anyway my dh and I know the parents and I figured while the girls have to walk home and my boys like walking with them that I would go the long way home with them when we see them .Ok now the youngest little girl is in my best terms a brat sometimes,she pushes my youngest into the ditch ,but I dont say anything.So tonight we are leaving school and the oldest says we are not allowed to walk with you anymore.So I see her father and I tell him what she said ,well one of the girls said it was my boys who were pushing them.I was so livid that I just said oh thats fine and walked away.
I am the first person to admit when my kids are being bad but mine are freaking angels compared to these ones.
I think what makes me more mad is that both parents cheat on eachother and lets just say are not great examples,but my kids are bad and arent allowed to walk with them.AHHHHHHH LOL
OK I FEEL BETTER NOW
Thank you all for letting me vent
Merry christmas

**YankeeMom** · 12-18-2006, 04:36 PM

I think by not saying something to the little girl when she pushed your son, you did your children a disservice. I'm not coming down on you at all, because I know exactly what you are coming from. But by letting that girl get away with pushing your son...well. It could set a precedent that will allow that girl to continue to abuse your child and lets your child think it's okay to let other people walk all over him. Just a simple, "we don't push people, that's not nice". Maybe a word to her parents. I definitely would have set the father straight about the whole situation when he told you the girls said your boys were pushing.

**northernmom2boys** · 12-18-2006, 04:50 PM

Oh I have said to the little girl not to push ,I meant I said nothing to the parents

**YankeeMom** · 12-18-2006, 04:53 PM

At least now you can wash your hands of them and not feel guilty about them walking on their own. I can't believe the tiny kindergardener's that walk home, farther than I drive my kids home, every day. It's sad.

**baxjul** · 12-18-2006, 05:17 PM

In our school district if the kids are in K or 1st grade, they can't even get off the bus in front of their own house alone. A parent, or other approved person has to be standing out by the road. If not, then they get taken back to the school.

I'm glad that you feel better, sometimes it just helps to vent!

**frugalnana** · 12-18-2006, 05:25 PM

When the father stated that your boys were the ones who pushed the girls, I would have corrected him and I would have also told him that you told the his daughter not to push others. That maybe she got upset because you corrected her and that is why she told him a lie.
I still would mention it to the dad the next time you see him. I would just say that you didn't want to embarrass his daughter for her rude behavior, but you wanted to make sure he understood that she did the pushing and that you saw it.
I agree with Heather, by not correcting the situation, your son could feel its ok for others to push him around. When my oldest was in biddy football there was a boy who kept taunting him and calling him cheeseburger boy. He wasnt fat but he had started getting bigger (his height just hadn't caught up with the rest of him). Then we were playing against another team and that boy took his helmat and hit my son in the head. That was it for me. His mother was a teacher at the school my son went to. The kid was laughing and his mother didn't say anything. I went up to her and asked wasn't she a teacher, she said yes. I said I guess instead of teaching a hoodlum she had raised a hoodlum. She just looked at me, then she told her son that he was grounded and that until he learned to respect others he wouldn't be going anywhere for a long time. Later in high school that boy and my son were friends. But my son also learned that when someone tried to be a bully he let them know that he wouldn't stand for it.

**northernmom2boys** · 12-18-2006, 05:48 PM

thank you all for the support.Sometimes it just feels good to vent and let it all out lol
I myself would appreciate somebody making sure my kids were ok if they had to walk alone but I guess they dont feel the same

**kabin63** · 12-19-2006, 09:18 AM

Coming in a little late on this. I have never, nor would I ever not correct my DD for her bad behavior. That being said, I am also known for correcting other children when their behavior is bad. There are many times I have seen parents not correct bad behavior in their children, and I am just bold enough to say something to the child about it. I would rather be thought of a as a mean mom than to let a child think they can behave that way.
I am not judging you in anyway, but I would have definitely set the father straight about what really happened. As parents we don't want to see or believe our child would do something bad, but face it, our kids are kids and they need correction. I try to be gentle, but firm in my approach with other children, but my own DD only needs a look from me to know I do not approve of the behavior. It's too bad that these two little girls have parents that are so self centered and neglectful of them.
JMHO

**MarshHen** · 12-19-2006, 09:28 AM

I think you did all you possibly could in the matter, and I hope and pray one or both of these little girls don't have to have a Amber Alert issued for them. Makes sense I guess though that if the parents are not concerned for their safety, why would they be concerned about their behavior. This is very sad!

**northernmom2boys** · 12-19-2006, 04:55 PM

Oh I saw him this morning and gave him a piece of my mind.I told him that I think his little girls need to do a little confessing to their behaviour and they just sat there guilty as all.I told him I am not walking with his kids on purpose,if I am leaving school and they are walking I am not going to change my route just to appease his little angels.And that he knows my boys and they would never push two girls in a ditch when I am there.And what kind of person would I be if I allowed it.He said well we want them to walk alone and when they tell us stuff we believe them .I said my peace and dont have to deal with these people evryday so I am not going to worry about it.I just know if it were my kids having to walk as far as they do at hte age of 9 and 8 I would appreciate somebody at least keeping an eye on them .Oh well\
Thank you all for listening to my vent