Just need a moment to vent...

**Edelweiss** · 01-26-2007, 01:03 PM

I am really irritated right now about the lack of courtesy some people show.

My sister-in-law, 7 years my junior, had to have an emergency appendectomy this morning. She is a Freshman at the local community college, and I offered to contact her instructors as her doctor said she can't return to school for the next week. One of them responded to my email that SIL will be missing a lab quiz next week and that he will require documentation from the hospital AND he will need to speak with the doctor in order to allow her to make up the quiz. I can understand the need for a doctor's note, but it seems a little outrageous that he also needs verbal confirmation.

The other thing that really got my goat was that, while I sent a very formal, proper message, addressing him as "Professor" (even though he's not really a professor) and closing with my first and last name, he responded using only my first name. I know this is not something that bothers most people, but I really dislike when people are so familiar without invitation. I find it disrespectful and it really irritates me.

Ok, I'm done with my fit now.

**Megareader** · 01-26-2007, 01:18 PM

What in the world does the professor need to speak with the doctor for? Proof your sister-in-law was in the hospital should be enough for him. The doctor certainly won't discuss her medical condition with this guy.

He also needs to learn some etiquette. Using your first name was not what he should have done.

**YankeeMom** · 01-26-2007, 01:25 PM

All that for a QUIZ??
A final exam, maybe. But a QUIZ?
Methinks the prof thinks too highly of himself and his class

Show him the hospital bill. Jeesh.

**Edelweiss** · 01-26-2007, 01:30 PM

That's what I was thinking. Plus, it's not even a full class...he's just the lab instructor. The stupid lab is only 1 credit hour!

**Hoosier Momma** · 01-26-2007, 01:55 PM

Ask him if he would like to see her appendix in a jar as further proof.

j/k (sort of)

**Katybird** · 01-26-2007, 03:08 PM

I think that you should email him back and inform him that due to HIPAA regulations that her MD will not be able to discuss her case with him, inform him that you will be sending him an official notification from the hospital and a school release from the MD and that you will be forwarding copies of all correspondence to the Dean to assure that your SIL is not penalized for her illness. He sounds like a bully and I bet when you let him know that you are not going to allow that he will back down.

**Missy** · 01-26-2007, 03:14 PM

Let the FV-er's at him!!! Kathy could draw up a letter, and we could all get'im!!

**cheappearls** · 01-26-2007, 03:15 PM

Originally Posted by Katybird

I think that you should email him back and inform him that due to HIPAA regulations that her MD will not be able to discuss her case with him, inform him that you will be sending him an official notification from the hospital and a school release from the MD and that you will be forwarding copies of all correspondence to the Dean to assure that your SIL is not penalized for her illness. He sounds like a bully and I bet when you let him know that you are not going to allow that he will back down.

There shouldn't be any reason to talk to the doctor since the doc wouldn't tell him anything anyway.

**yankeegal** · 01-26-2007, 03:49 PM

I agree with the above, oh so wise posters.....This guy sounds full of himself.

**LastDragonfly** · 01-26-2007, 04:01 PM

Kathy is right, HIPPA rules even over schools. I would contact the Dean of Instruction anyway just to inform the Dean. I bet that's not even school policy to speak with a dr. can't be.

**MarshHen** · 01-27-2007, 12:32 AM

Oh my, I think you addressing him as "Professor" must have gave him a swelled head. The jerk probably printed your email and framed it. What a

!

Off with his head!

**MarshHen** · 01-27-2007, 12:38 AM

Me again, I do hope all goes well for your neice with her surgery and she has a speedy recovery. I feel for her having to go back to class with that over stuffed lab rat.

**bumplett** · 01-27-2007, 12:46 AM

Originally Posted by YankeeMom

All that for a QUIZ??
A final exam, maybe. But a QUIZ?
Methinks the prof thinks too highly of himself and his class

Show him the hospital bill. Jeesh.

some people just make you go

**suzysaver** · 01-27-2007, 01:40 AM

What is wrong with people?
Was there any get well soon wishes for her recovery?
This guy can't be following policy, and I would contact the Dean also.
Good Grief..."HOW RUDE".