Thanks everyone

[Sundae]

OK your probably wondering why I am thanking you gals, well here it is...

Yesterday DH had to go to the dentist at 2, asked if I wanted to ride along, really he can't go to any dentist or doc. by himself hes a little kid in that area, any ways I said yes since I needed to do a few errands in town. He comes home for the appt. asked if I got the mail, expecting a cattle check, I said no that I planned on getting it when we left, we have a long drive at our house to the mail box, he gets pissed and says HE has to always be on top of things, so he takes his bath to get ready for dentist, I go get the mail, write a check out to the bank to pay off on our debt that we have against the cattle, get to town and its 15 before his appt. I asked him if he wanted me to drop him off first, because we will be passing the bank that I need to go to, he asked if there was a cut off time to pay on the note, yes 2:00, save the interest for that day, so we go to the bank, he grabs the check and asked if it was already for the bank, I say no that I always write up the deposit slip inside, I like having the carbon copy, pissed again.
So I am sitting in the van just about in tears, then I think of this board and how people come here to vent, ask advice, share and so forth. Well a few minutes later he comes back, and I give it to him, holding tears back but I spoke my mind!

I told him "I haven't done anything wrong all day but in your eyes I haven't done anything write... then he goes on about himself working so hard, I tell him I never asked him to feed all these cattle, I'm not telling him to get a couple of other buildings going to increase his work, on which he is thinking about, we have more then plenty for the rest of ourlives, he talks more and then appoligises. geesshh he can be a real a.. sometimes

So thanks ladies for letting me share my little story on how you helped me in this situation. Sorry it was so long

[annymoll]

Girl, good job for keeping yourself composed.I too look for support from the boards and often when dealing with my husband I look to the wonderful advice given by a lady named Kellie on this board, "All men do stupid things, just varies by day and degree".Has helped me through and kept me sane many times!

[MarshHen]

If your DH is anything like mine, he was probably on edge anyway about the dentist appt.. I've been blessed with strong, healthy choppers and have only had maybe two cavities in my whole life. DH has problems all the time and he goes to pieces every time he has to go to the dentist. A few years ago, I went along for moral support, which I didn't have to do, but I thought it would make him feel better. Anyhoo, we are sitting there in the packed waiting room waiting for them to call him back, and he is about to come unglued he is so nervous. I reached over and took his hand and gently said "relax honey, it's gonna be O.K.." Well, he snapped at me and told me I didn't have a clue how he was feeling and I needed to leave him alone. Oh, and of course everyone in the room heard this. LOL, I smiled, leaned over and looked him in the eyes and said "but sweetie, he is only filling a tooth, not extracting a 6 lb, 10 oz. baby from your tootie!" Everyone fell apart, even the receptionist. He has since changed dentists and will not allow me to go with him anymore, LOL. I understand that he was nervous, but that's not an excuse for being snappy. He recently had a wisdom tooth cut out and I never heard one complaint, even though I did baby him afterwards cause I can imagine it was painful, but he never let on about it.

[claimsgirl66]

I am new to the boards but I am finding just venting by getting stuff off your chest (in- person to your husband as you said) or typing it here, well ,it can do a world of good !
Acknowledging something is bothering you, instead of suppressing it, is half the battle in trying to feel better about a situation. Kind of like keeping a journal. But here you get affirmation you are not alone.

[Mom23boys]

Sending you a hug. I am glad you were able to speak to your Dh about your feelings.

[favesis37]

this place is a god send!

[Darlene]

to you Sandy! And hope you post more!
We all have ups & downs with our loved ones and others, lol. So glad to be a part of such wonderful people who give others the knowledge that they are not alone, do have something to add to any discussion and that we can do/be anything we want. Your opinion counts. Together we know/can do just about anything. Frugal Village is a sum of it's parts & all of us are part of it. Jump on in if you haven't and continue to do so if you have.