Need to start my own thread--vent, sort of.

**Hoosier Momma** · 02-03-2007, 09:27 AM

I didn't want to hijack jkelstaten's big announcement thread (congrats again!)

I just realize that my last cycle started on New Year's Day (or maybe it was the day after--it's been stressful lately so I can't remember). That means I am on day 34 I think. I really lost track. I thought for some reason I was only a couple days late. I'm starting to freak a little. Not because we don't want more kids, but my dh probably will not take the news well (of course I said that. Money is so tight right now it's not even funny.

I want to take a test, but I want to remain ignorant, KWIM?

**Telephus44** · 02-03-2007, 09:32 AM

I just wanted to send big hugs your way - while I've never been the shoes you're in right now, I'm hoping that the stress of the situation passes soon!

**acidcookie** · 02-03-2007, 09:52 AM

Originally Posted by Hoosier Momma

it's been stressful lately so I can't remember ...

This could be the cause.

**Nada.Leona** · 02-03-2007, 10:08 AM

Have you had any drastic physical changes recently? Medical diagnosis, gained weight, etc.? Those can cause you to be late. Either way, high-tail it to the doctor ASAP!!

**kaykwilts** · 02-03-2007, 10:29 AM

If you are on day 34 you are not that late. Don't stress out too much yet.

**Jill B.** · 02-03-2007, 11:00 AM

I know what you are going through. That happened to me one New Year's Day I realized it had been a while since I had a period and I was starving. I did take a test the next day and now I have a 14 year old daughter. She is great and we called her our surprise baby.

I did, however, cry and cry since I worked full time and we had 3 other kids. I had no idea how we would manage since life was so hectic and just not any fun. That was when I became frugal and went to part time work. You find ways to work with it.

I don't know if that is any comfort but if it is another child then you do get used to the idea. I hope that it is not another one since it is not what you want. Good luck. (PS - I am sure DH will notice something is up sooner or later so you should get a test and take care of yourself)

**jkelstaten** · 02-03-2007, 11:10 AM

hugs to you either way!!

A couple months ago I was a full 9 days late and was still negative and then AF came.

but on the other hand, when I got pregnant with DD#2 and I already had a baby that was only 5 months old I was really stressed. It took me a long time to accept that I was preg. and actually be happy about it and I think that's what drove me into post partum depression after I had her. I suggest taking a test so that you have time to adjust to the thought and you don't sit around driving yourself nuts wondering....

**Emerald_Mommy** · 02-03-2007, 11:51 AM

Sorry for the stress and confusion. 34 days is not even late for me, as my cycles are always a bit longer than the "normal" 28 days (sorry for TMI!). However, I tend to trust that instinct when you think you're pregnant. With each of my girls I found out really early that we were expecting because I just "knew" no matter how soon it was.

**justpeachy92** · 02-03-2007, 12:31 PM

Dang why did I open this thread, you made me realize my last one started 2 days before the new year. Though I am not going to stress about it yet, I have never been regular. With all 4 of my kids I waited till I missed 2 periods before I tested.

**baxjul** · 02-03-2007, 01:42 PM

Best of luck to you also!!!!!!

**Hoosier Momma** · 02-03-2007, 01:46 PM

Well, I am usually fairly regular...28-31 days is my normal cycle. I usually spot for a day or so before my period starts...this month, nothing yet.

I can't complain too much...we have an extra bedroom, with 3 kids and 2 nieces have plenty of baby stuff, grandparents nearby or within a couple of hours away. Our insurance coverage is really bad compared to dh's last job (he used to work for ExxonMobil). Money is just way too tight right now, but dh finally got his W2 from his current job today, so we can get our taxes done now. He has a big project at work he has been working on for over two months and if his plans work, he will save the plant $280,000 a year. This could translate into a BIG pay raise (maybe up to an extra $20,000/yr). That
would make life so much easier!

Usually when I am this late, it means I am pg. I had much more stress last year with our move and househunting and still stayed regular. I haven't been sick (except for a tummy bug several weeks ago which lasted just a couple of days). My weight is staying the same.

Who knows?

I am just wondering how dh would take it. He was shocked when we found out #3 was on the way (got pg a year after #2 was born), but it only lasted for a matter of minutes. Then he was VERY happy. We have always wanted four or five kids (I should mention we are Catholic and use Natural Family Planning, but I haven't charted in several months). I know my mom and mil would be ecstatic. This would be my mil's 6th grandchild in nine years (4 girls and one boy so far)!

Thanks for 'hearing' me out. I am waiting a couple more days and then I will probably test. Next Saturday is my 34th birthday...could be an exciting one!

**AheeK** · 02-03-2007, 02:22 PM

Good luck with the test! Whatever happens, I hope your dh will support you!

**kabin63** · 02-03-2007, 08:57 PM

I realize I am about ten years older than you, but in November I had a very strange thing happen. I spotted for about 3-5 days. Not normal for me at all. I had just had a pelvic done. Well, it should have been time for me, but all I did was spot a little tiny bit. So after another week I took the test. I thought "Oh Man!" My husband was worried too, he 11 years older than me. Well the test came up negative and I had the two test package. So, I did it again. Still neg. But when another 3 weeks passed I got back to normal and have been since. Sometimes it really is the stress that causes it, but I can understand the worry. Hope it all works out the way you want it to. Oh, and sorry for TMI.

**nwmissourigal** · 02-03-2007, 10:58 PM

Try not to worry to much. Things happen for a reason. After my first to children I was told that I couldn't have anymore and 5 years after my second child..suprise I was pregnant. We were elated because we had resigned ourselves to just have 2 children...and then we ended up having another one. So i kinda raised two families...was it worth it...YES!!!! Blessings..kathy

**miss_thrifty** · 02-04-2007, 12:42 PM

Great big hugggsss!
Try not to fret too much it usally makes it come even later from the stress.
I always knew i was pregnant after 2 weeks, I was sick as a dog.