My DH is making it real hart to be frugal !!!

**oct2667us** · 02-05-2007, 09:28 PM

Well let see so far sence christmas my Dh has got a 1500 Bed, 3000 washer and dryer , and now to day he comes home with a car wich he said was for me. that cost 8000

Dont get me wrong I love the car butttttttt I have been verry sick and we really could have done with out the car

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-05-2007, 09:50 PM

I am sorry your DH isnt on board, have you talked to him about this?

**nwmissourigal** · 02-05-2007, 10:02 PM

It is really hard when one of you isn't on board. You all really need to talk and see where each of you is heading and make sure you are working toward the same goals. Hopefully you will have a meeting of the minds..Blessings and good luck..Kathy

**thrifty gal** · 02-05-2007, 10:37 PM

I am sorry about your dh not being on board. Big hugs!

**annymoll** · 02-05-2007, 10:42 PM

Hang in there and keep setting a good example for your family. I know you have been working very hard to be thrifty, it isn't always easy. I sure hope you are feeling better, I have wondered how you were doing!

**jade73** · 02-05-2007, 10:44 PM

i am so sorry for this I started out by myself it was very lonley.And one weekend I told my husband you have to see this we took the whole wekend and we looked over what came in and what went out.i tried to show him the changes i have made turning the heat down eating leftovers but until he saw it from that month to the next he did not get it.I hope it gets better for you HUGS

**Cricketlegs** · 02-05-2007, 11:37 PM

Gosh, I am sorry.

Have you tried writing down all the debt with amounts and the monthly bills and then your income and showing it to him?

Is that something your personal situation would allow you to be able to do?

Good luck!

**bumplett** · 02-06-2007, 07:39 AM

just give it time, I'm sure you will win out by setting the example.

**Sundae** · 02-06-2007, 08:01 AM

Sorry to hear you are not feeling well.

I am the one being frugal in my house and now my daughter knows about coupons and choose an item that was the fullest on the shef the other day too.

Did your dh shop around to get the best price on what he bought?? I does sound like maybe he wants things to be a little easier for you, washer/dryer/car and as far as the new bed at that price it should last the rest of your lives--so put your mind into that one and enjoy it, if ya know what I mean

Keep up the good work on your end and share what you do with him, maybe go on-line and search for special discount coupons or % of on those big ticket items and show him things like that.

Hope you feel better soon,

**geckoace** · 02-06-2007, 12:06 PM

im sorry i was recently in the situation where DH was not on board and i know how frustrating it can be. he finally snapped out when he realized our "brokeness" would limit our son.
but maybe if you get your ducks lined up show him a budget and the debt maybe some consequences of his spending. and don't take his money away from him up front just sort of show him the scarifices the household will be making explain to him why. he will eventually see (hopefully) and start getting on board. and don't do what was doing screaming at him and crying everytime the light bill comes LOL

i wish you the best, feel free to pm me if you need to

**3-boys-4-me** · 02-06-2007, 01:45 PM

Everyone here is nicer then I would be in that situation.

DH and I would be having a chat, right after he returned everything. I would be so irritated if DH bought a car without me being there. That's just too large of purchase to make without the other knowing. That's a lot of money.
Good luck. I hope he really listens to what you have to say.

**oct2667us** · 02-06-2007, 07:01 PM

I feel the same way !!! DH should not have bought a car without me being there!!! He said it was a gift for me but I never would have picked out the car he did. well I am just going to start over and get a budget for all the new stuff. It is going to be tight but may be he will see now what I have been trying to do. Thanks all for the help.....

**Michelle68** · 02-06-2007, 08:55 PM

Originally Posted by 3-boys-4-me

Everyone here is nicer then I would be in that situation.

DH and I would be having a chat, right after he returned everything. I would be so irritated if DH bought a car without me being there. That's just too large of purchase to make without the other knowing. That's a lot of money.
Good luck. I hope he really listens to what you have to say.

--Michelle

**Hollyhandi** · 02-07-2007, 07:27 AM

Yep the bed the washer and dryer and the car would all be going back the next day.
He's be sleeping on a matress on the floor untli he learned a lesson.
I won't pay over $500.00 for a car for me and if he did there would be H*!!
to pay.
He has a good truck because he's on the road every day. I only go shopping or run errands and don't have any car right now.

**Dexter** · 02-07-2007, 10:39 PM

I say this with sincerity, but I think you and your dh have bigger problems than money. I can't even imagine. At all. Period. I can't wrap my brain around it. oct, I would have him sit down and do the budget. Have him really see what he's doing to you all financially. Big hugs to you!