Just Terrible!!

**emily_hope** · 05-11-2007, 12:30 PM

My DD17 calls me this morning from the school in tears. She was crying so that I couldn't understand her and her best friend took the phone from her to tell me what was going on.

Today was the day they received their yearbooks. The Seniors were all getting together in the gym for the yearbook dedicaton. Lo and behold, they get their books, thumb through them and.......... she is NOT in it. They left her picture out. They also left out 2 other Seniors.

She goes to talk with the teacher in charge of the yearbook and yearbook staff. She acted as if it were not really a big deal. She said to my daughter that she WAS in the yearbook, that she had her Senior page. Well, we paid dearly for her senior page. The point is she has gone to school for 14 years (including pre-k and kindergarten), she is at the biggest moment in her life, and they have left her out of the class photos as if she didn't even exist and this teacher thinks it is no big dea. The teacher told her that she could have a page printed for my DD to add to her book. My DD said, but I'm not in anyone's book. My DDs best friend was with her and she said "I want a page for my book, she's my best friend." Another male student was standing nearby and he said "I want her in my book, too." The teacher said that they could not print a page for everyone, only for my DD. Then she told my DD if she wanted to they could go talk with another teacher at the school that handles the funds and ask about giving my DD her money back, but if she got her money back she would have to give the yearbook back. WHAT??!!?? We don't want the money back, we want the problem rectified! My DD told her that her parents would be coming up there. The teacher said that was fine but there was nothing to be done. Then my DD said, "If my step-Dad comes up here, it won't be pretty." She loves her step-Dad and knows that he is there for her and that he won't take any BS!

So, DH was in town and I called to see where he was. He was about 2 minutes from the school. He said, "I'm heading there now." He went to the office and asked to speak to the principal and the teacher in charge of the yearbook. The lady at the desk asked him what it was about and he told her it was about a screw up in the yearbook. She directed him to the head principal. Of course, she had not heard anything about it. They went to her office and she called the teacher involved and my DD to the office. He let the principal know that the teacher in charge had not handled the situation very well. She should have said to my DD that she would check into things and see what could be done instead of trying to brush her off and act as if it were no big deal. Once everything was said, the principal asked my DH what he would like to be done to make us happy. He told her that he wanted the company that printed the books to print a page with her on it for EVERY yearbook that was purchased at the school. She said she would take care of it. So she is going to try and get the company to print pages with each student that was left out. The pages will have a sticky back and you can place them over the existing page. I hope she handles this and that they can get them done before school is out in two weeks.

There is so much going on with school getting out and DD graduating and trying to get her into college. My nerves are shot.

**cebsme** · 05-11-2007, 12:38 PM

Thats just messed up.

The same thing actually happened my senior year as well. I do believe it was rectified by the company sending out sticky backed pages for every single book that was purchased. So they will do it.!. Was a few years ago but i have about 10 of the pages that needed fixed, and everyone i know got the replacement pages.

The teacher in charge of the yearbook did not handle the situation well at all and I hope that your DD and her classmates get what they deserve a complete yearbook.

Heres hugs to you and your dd!

**lullaby80** · 05-11-2007, 12:39 PM

Well that stinks! Not cool from the teacher to brush her off like that.. But hopefully the pages will come within two weeks.

**Hollyhandi** · 05-11-2007, 12:59 PM

So sorry for your DD Emily-Hope

**Minner77** · 05-11-2007, 01:07 PM

I've got a graduating senior, and I know that at this stage all it takes is the threat of a broken fingernail to crash a world! (I'm using gender-neutral phrases; he cares a lot, of course, but I GUARANTEE you his girlfriend would still be crying from the mere possibility!)

There's so much pressure on these kids right now. Shame, shame, shame on that teacher for not showing even a modicum of compassion.

~Mary

**tbs727** · 05-11-2007, 01:16 PM

Poor thing, I hope she feels better about all this mess soon!

**Marie78** · 05-11-2007, 01:26 PM

I hope they get this situation taken care of quickly. That was a huge mistake the year book made. I remember 11 years ago, when I graduated from H.S. I was very stressed out. You are an adult now, you are saying good bye to your child hood as you have always known it. You are getting ready for college or a job and finishing finals and everything was very emotional. I would have freaked out for sure if I was missing from the year book. I am so glad that your Dh went to the school and handled it, the teacher in charge of things must have been stressed also (but wasn't very considerate of your dd).

**Mumzy** · 05-11-2007, 02:37 PM

I am so sorry that happened to your dd. It looks like it was handled in the beginning very poorly. She had every right to freak out. But is sounds like the band aid in the end will work. The silver lining could be she will 'stick out' ahead of the rest of them. Or is it too soon for a positive pun?

Any way congratulations to your family and the graduate.

**Cricket1** · 05-11-2007, 02:40 PM

Oh the poor thing! That's sad! I'm glad your dh got it rectified.

**wanderlusting** · 05-11-2007, 03:00 PM

I feel for your DD. I hope the company sends out the replacement pages out soon!

**jamie79** · 05-11-2007, 03:18 PM

I feel for her. I know what you mean about the kids being freaked out, Ods has been freaked out all week about his A.P. Calculus test. This kid never freaks about anything and never studies and gets all A's . He was a studing fool all week. I cant wait for the next two weeks to be done. Oh and hes graduating and did NOT want a yrbook.

**emily_hope** · 05-11-2007, 03:27 PM

Originally Posted by Mumzy

The silver lining could be she will 'stick out' ahead of the rest of them. Or is it too soon for a positive pun?

It's never too soon for a positive pun!! Thanks.

And thanks for all the sympathy everyone. Just send good thoughts and prayers that it will be made right before school is over.

**Ceashels** · 05-11-2007, 03:27 PM

My heart goes out to your daughter... she must have been devastated. I am glad there is a plan of action to rectify the publisher's error and that the Principal was there to handle the situation appropriately!

**itsahumanzoo** · 05-11-2007, 03:32 PM

It's really terrible when a teacher, someone who is around kids everyday, can just brush off a student's feelings like that. She should never have told her "Oh well there's nothing I can do about it." I'm glad I never knew any teachers like that. I remember graduating, and it wasn't really that long ago. I think I was more stressed about it than I was my wedding!!