*sigh* Mother sending me money

**Jaded** · 05-20-2007, 02:07 PM

Well, here I am, over 50, and still having to take money from my mother to help with bills. It makes me feel so worthless sometimes! Of course, it was unforseen that the insurance would double, and that I would injure myself at work, but I feel like I need to be doing better.

I feel so discouraged. I know if I stick with this job, there will be good money in the future, but right now, it just sucks!

So I took my $25 birthday gift check and went out and bought myself some stuff from the garden dept. at Home Depot. The fertilizer I wanted, instead of the cheap stuff from Wally World, a plant I had been LONGING for (still, only spent $4.95 for that), some Roundup (which is a necessity around here in the summer), and some seeds. I don't feel guilty. It did cost more than my $25 check, but I felt o.k. about that, because at least that check paid $25 toward it. Only about $36 overall, which was less than the cost of the Roundup, which I would have bought anyway.

I am just discouraged. I'll be o.k. I'll try very hard to pay her back, even if I have to get a second job.

**SammeyG** · 05-20-2007, 02:22 PM

I feel the same way sometimes. But I have had to borrow money from her once in the last 8 years. So that I could pay one bill. I felt bad for asking her for it. But at the same time that dh and I paid for her vechial insureance when she was driving one of our cars last year. So then i didn't feel so bad when I thought of it that way.

**DJ1972** · 05-20-2007, 03:14 PM

I think it's awesome that you still have parents to lean on in tough times...both of mine are deceased and I am only 35. I know before she passed away, my Mom seemed to enjoy helping any of her kids, she said her biggest fear was that when her kids were grown they would no longer need her.

**geckoace** · 05-20-2007, 03:27 PM

my moms helps us when we need it and i know all she wants in repayment is for us to help her when she needs it. dont be discouraged or feel guilty be happy in the fact that she cares enough to help you and just try to be a good steward of her money.

**kaykwilts** · 05-20-2007, 03:30 PM

Don't get discouraged. I am sure things will get better for you. And I am sure that your mother is more than willing to help you because you are her child. Mothers have it born in them to do anything for thier child.

**pkellyc** · 05-20-2007, 06:25 PM

I too would not have anyone to borrow from. Well, I could borrow from my mil but I would rather be homeless.
Things will improve and think of the garden supplies as food for your soul.

**littlemotherhaywood** · 05-21-2007, 02:15 PM

When we moved here a lot of stuff went down for us financially and we had to borrow some money from dh's grandmother. I felt so small, really. She didn't mind though and we paid her back (which is more than most of her kids manage to do). It is nice to know that someone out there still loves us enough to care to help when we need it. I would try not to feel badly about it.

**ladymiser** · 05-21-2007, 02:26 PM

Hey forget about it.....Mommy's love to be there,I am a mommy to a 27 year old son and 22 year old daughter...They borrow as is needed..It is for important stuuf like unexpected bills and emergensies...Just don't be a mucher...I tell my kids one day you may need to take care of Mommy and Daddy..So what can I do for you???

I hope!!!