Grandfather died this morning.

[Tracy]

My Grandad has been very sick for a very long time. He passed away this morning around 6. We live in Ontario and they are out in Alberta, my dad and his wife, my grandma and so that is were my Grandad funeral is going to be held.
My dad has offered to fly my sister and I out to go. Here is the thing I don't want to seem selfish to any of the family but I am scared to death to fly. I am having a panic attack just thinink about it. So I probably won't go, I have a history of anxiety problems and was housebound at one point. Did not leave for any reason. I worked real hard on it and there are still some things I can not bring myself to do. Like fly or shop by myself. But I know my dad does not believe me that I am that scared to fly. I want to go I really do, but at this point I know if I tell them to buy the ticket I will get to the airport and not be able to get on the plan, if I even made it to the airport. I am having an anxiety attack now, even thinking about getting on a plane.
I miss my grandad, and my family and I don't have a good relationship. I have not seen my grandad since I was 10 I am 27 now. My dad and I hardly speek, and my grandma and I never had a good relationship. Sigh I am not sure what to do. But I don't think I can get on the plane.

[Missy]

I don't know the answer. Wish I did. I do know that mourning doesn't happen in one place or another, it happens in your heart. So if you don't make it your mourning over your grandfather will be no less valid. I hope you can go. Good luck either way.

[FrugalMomof3]

I am so sorry for your loss, you and your family are in my prayers

[Marie78]

I am sorry for your loss and you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. (Hugs)

[Darlene]

I'm sorry.
As far as you going, I wouldn't allow family members, especially those you aren't close to make you feel bad about not going. You can mourn his loss and remember the good times from right where you are.
If possible you you should seek out help (therapist)to not let these phobias run your life. Your future is worth living as fully, happy & free as can be. You can have that & deserve it. Cheering you on & sending you a hug.

[Mom23boys]

I am sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

[JerryG]

HATE, HATE, HATE to fly, too. I get physically ill . . . but my job used to require it so I relied on drugs.

I agree with Missy - mourning is in your heart, not in a place. Do what's right for you and Grandad will understand.

Thots and prayers.

[emily_hope]

I am so sorry about your Granddad. I am not afraid to fly, but I do have other things I fear. I understand you not being able to fly. You have to do what is best for yourself. Don't let them guilt you in to doing something you are not comfortable doing. Everyone grieves in their own way. Do what is right for you. You are in my prayers.

[PrairieRose]

I'm so sorry for your loss I hope that you come to a decision that you can live with regarding the trip to and from.

[thrifty gal]

I'm so sorry. Hugs and prayers.

[Radish4ever]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[Lady Jennelle]

I'm also sorry for your loss, sweetie.

*Hugs*

Love,

Jennelle

[Jaded]

I'm sorry about your grandfather, and about your dilemma. My mother is agoraphobic, so I can relate. I fight hard every day not to be like that. Sometimes I find myself withdrawing into my own world and my own house, and I force myself to go out.

But it's true, grief doesn't take place in any certain place.

[GMA21]

to you for your loss. As far as not going don't feel bad if you can't make it because of your fears. Take care of yourself & remember the good times you may have had.

[patra]

I am so sorry for your loss....Ive suffered terribly with anxiety in one form or another for most of my life, so I understand how you feel.Mourn the way that is best for you...

patty