More whining!

**baxjul** · 06-20-2007, 09:38 AM

So, yesterday I demanded to go over to my Dad's house. WELL! It is about completely empty! They have been selling everything left and right. I only wanted a couple of things that my mom always said were mine, and they threw them away or sold them! I'm so pissed! They weren't anything big, just sentimental items. So, then I started looking through the desk, were the photo album was of me when I was little, it has always been there, my sister is claiming that she has never seen it!!!!! OMG! I think that she threw it away! I am so upset, with no one to talk to here! Also, there is money in her name that she is supposed to be giving me 1/2 of, I said to her last night, don't forget to go to the bank, she goes "I already did" ..... but she didn't give me anything! She also spent the money Dad had in his wallet $2,000 on her family. I just can't wait to get out of here and go home! I don't even care about the money, I just want the teapot and pictures! How would you handle this?

Tonight I'm going out for wings with my BIL (DH's brother), so I'll get to vent to him.
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</TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>Thanks for listening to me whine! I've just been crying since I've been here!

**Ceashels** · 06-20-2007, 09:41 AM

Lots of hugs for you Baxjul. I'm not sure how i would handle the situation either.

**geckoace** · 06-20-2007, 09:45 AM

wow i don't have any advice but to t out of there and get home

**ktsmama** · 06-20-2007, 09:50 AM

Baxjul...... I am so sorry to hear that this is going on. My sister did basically the same thing!! I am so hurt because we are so close. I am like you though, I justed wanted to get out from under all of the mess!!

Sending good vibes your way. You can make it, good luck.

**freerangers** · 06-20-2007, 09:51 AM

It's so hard to have situations to deal with in the midst of grief. So sorry this is going on for you. Lots of hugs coming your way.

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**jamie79** · 06-20-2007, 10:24 AM

I am sorry you are having to deal with this

**JanieD** · 06-20-2007, 10:37 AM

I think this sort of thing happens a lot... can't understand why, but it happens. It would bother me a lot that she just threw things away or sold them & is being so "I don't know anything about a photo album".

I would want to tell her off, but it won't help matters. Can you talk to her at all? I would hate for you to leave without getting things worked out. It may not be possible though. Hope things get better before you head home! If not, what is it they say... Home is your soft place to fall.

**Jayne** · 06-20-2007, 10:42 AM

Been there, done that, bought the tee-shirt...I know what you are feeling and it stinks that siblings do this kinda thing..I am so sorry hon

...I would just come home with what you can get, and say good -bye to them...they have to live with themselves and what they have done!!...I rarely see my sibs and hate going to their homes and seeing all they "took" ...

**Darlene** · 06-20-2007, 10:46 AM

Wolves catch the scent of ...Grr. I'd be mad, stand up to my sister and ask what the

is going on and be prepared to hop in a cab & bring myself to the airport. If I didn't get some good answers I'd carry on with my life not worrying or wondering how they are. Heaven help her if she starts in with the "Oh, we didn't know you'd care" KMA. They don't care about me and are selfish as all get out, to heck with them. Wouldn't be bitter but wouldn't have a relationship with them either. Would however smile inwardly knowing that karma always bites those kind of people in the butt sooner or later.
I'm sorry Julie.

**Cricket1** · 06-20-2007, 10:58 AM

My mom had the same thing happen to her. Her sisters got to my grandfather's first--took the stuff they wanted and sent a few things to my mom (total trash, too) that she thought that she would like. Oh well, my mom didn't care and was just happy that it was done.

**ubumartin** · 06-20-2007, 12:08 PM

Money and greed do a lot to people. I am sorry you have to go through this. It isn't easy especially after losing a loved one to have to then deal with all of this. Big hugs to you.

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 06-20-2007, 12:37 PM

Originally Posted by Darlene

Wolves catch the scent of ...Grr. I'd be mad, stand up to my sister and ask what the

is going on and be prepared to hop in a cab & bring myself to the airport. If I didn't get some good answers I'd carry on with my life not worrying or wondering how they are. Heaven help her if she starts in with the "Oh, we didn't know you'd care" KMA. They don't care about me and are selfish as all get out, to heck with them. Wouldn't be bitter but wouldn't have a relationship with them either. Would however smile inwardly knowing that karma always bites those kind of people in the butt sooner or later.
I'm sorry Julie.

Well said!!

My brother and sister are greedy and self-absorbed, too!

Don't stand for it. Tell her how you feel, gather what you can, and go home. You'll be relieved just to get out of that situation...

Sending big hugs!!!

**DixieJ** · 06-20-2007, 02:44 PM

I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I think I would speak my mind and then go about my business. She's the one that will have to live with doing what she did to you. Wishing you the best.

Dixie Jean

**freyadog** · 06-20-2007, 02:49 PM

when it comes to their judgement day I would not want to be them.

Barbara

**MarshHen** · 06-20-2007, 03:10 PM

How horrible that you are having to deal with this on top of loosing your dad. Like the others have said, I would just pack up what little there is left that means something to you and come home. I wouldn't even give them an explanation, I'd just get what I wanted and leave.