Do you ever dream of living someplace else? long vent.. sorry!

[lullaby80]

I wanna move so bad. This area is getting too snobby, the summers are way too hot and humid and everything seems to revolve around money (big houses, new cars) or religion. What really stinks is that DH works for an industry where there aren't many choices of companies to work for, the only two places I'd ever move (places with his industry) to would be back to Northern California or to Seattle. I really miss the liberal/green way of living in CA and while I had tons of friends there, I haven't been able to make any friends here. Sure I've tried but there just hasn't been any connection and since we've lived here for over two years already, I'm getting kinda lonely. But right now moving is our of the question, DH's company is paying him to finish his M.S. and it'll be another 3 years before he is done with that. I simply don't wanna live here and more importantly, don't want to raise my child here once he starts to go to school. So most days I wish we could move on and leave this beautiful but terrible state behind us.

Do you ever dream of living someplace else where things seem to be better? Are you planning on moving? Where and why?

[AheeK]

It's rough to have to live where you don't want to. I am a country girl through and through and I had to move to a large city to go to school. Coupled with the fact it was my first time out on my own, it wasn't a very enjoyable experience. Everyone said I'd get used to city life, but I didn't. I hate crowds and traffic and noise. I HATE having people be able to see into my backyard; it creeps me out so badly that the only time I'm out there is to mow the lawn. But, I stuck it out because it was the only way to get what I wanted. Now, finally, after five long years, I'm moving back up north to take a new job only 45 minutes from my family. It's like a dream come true. Hang in there, Sara, someday you'll be able to move too.

[Telephus44]

I don't think so now, but we lived in CO for a year - we're from MA - and I felt the same way. I had a very tough time trying to make friends, and everyone I met was polite but not genuinely interested in getting to know you. It almost felt to me like everyone was pretending to be happy all the time.

Fortunately, we moved back home. Had we stayed another three months we would have made out much better financially, but there's a certain price to pay for sanity.

Hang in there!!!

[AmyBoz]

Yes. I long for New England, like Maine or Vermont. I just want a different life.

[Neeley]

We plan to move to the Orlando area in a few years. We may live in a large city, but things move so slow here. I am so sick of living in Alabama's version of Mayberry.

[FrugalMomof3]

I am with you on this one, and although I would love to move my goal is to be able to move and pay the new house off with the profit I make with my current home (pay off mortgage make a profit and purchase the new home with the profits).

I want to move to Kansas or somewhere where the cost of living is low and if we purchased the new home paid in full, we would be able to get a job making enough to pay taxes and normal utility bills. While that may seem like a dream and right now it is, we plan to stay here 6 more years (when DD turns 18 and that's the final child) then we will sell our home, make atleast a $90,000 profit and move somewhere else.

I totally know how you feel though, I want to move too, the neighborhood is turning to crap, drugs, shootings, etc... and if I could I would move but right now it's just not possible.

[sdrjeolsen]

I know how you feel. I, like AheeK, am a country girl thru and thru. All I knew was farm life. When I got married we moved to Chicago (dh's job). I literally cried every day for 6 months. I hated it, but finally got used to it. We had many friends there so that made it better, but I still longed to live in the country so bad, I can't even describe how badly I missed it. Then we moved again, another state, but still city. Finally after 21+ years of marriage, we have finally bought our dream home on 40 acres. I feel so blessed. I would never have dreamed in a million years that we could have such a wonderful place to live.

Don't give up on your dreams, they will come to pass, sometimes it takes more time than we want, but hang in there and don't give up.

[pita1213]

yep trying to leave the same darn state, sara. but i grew up here and were south of you. but it's getting so crowded it's almost impossible to drive. there are only 2 roads that go north-south so when there are accidents, you go nowhere.i'm also not thrilled with the zoning for the schools. my kids end up on the bus for almost an hour so they can boost test scores at certain schools because of where they house certain programs. we want to move to ME where dh is from.

[3pups]

I wanna move so bad. This area is getting too snobby, the summers are way too hot and humid and everything seems to revolve around money (big houses, new cars) or religion. What really stinks is that DH works for an industry where there aren't many choices of companies to work for, the only two places I'd ever move (places with his industry) to would be back to Northern California or to Seattle. I really miss the liberal/green way of living in CA and while I had tons of friends there, I haven't been able to make any friends here. Sure I've tried but there just hasn't been any connection and since we've lived here for over two years already, I'm getting kinda lonely. But right now moving is our of the question, DH's company is paying him to finish his M.S. and it'll be another 3 years before he is done with that. I simply don't wanna live here and more importantly, don't want to raise my child here once he starts to go to school. So most days I wish we could move on and leave this beautiful but terrible state behind us.

You've almost said exactly what I'm feeling right now. We're military and currently stationed in NC. I hate it here! The people are not friendly, we don't seem to fit in anywhere and it's just frustrating. We lived in Phoenix and had a wonderful time. I miss it almost everyday. I'd move back home (cincinnati) if I could also.

I feel your pain!

[Dancing Lotus]

This is how we ened up where we are now.

About 6 yrs ago we bought a home in one of those close communities, little yards ,big rules. You get the picture. Well I hated every single second. I basicly stayed inside my house for four years. Most of my neighbors were snobs and even going shoping in my community ment getting dressed up. I had to put on my makeup to go to walmart! NoT Kidding. When the houseing market went crazy we decided it was time to sell , and we sold our house in two days for a 110,000 profit. We now have a home in a small area that mostly rednecks live in. Im so happy here and Im glade that we tuffed it out so that we were able to buy this place. NOw for my next move I'm thinking Hawaii.

[AmyMCGS]

I've always dreamed of leaving Ohio... in my head, Arizona sounds ideal, but I've never actually visited there, so I'd have to visit to know for sure.

We wound up staying here, about fifteen minutes from where we both grew up, after we got married for several reasons. I do love our house (we built it) and I like our community, but I still have that "itch" to go see what life is like in other states.

To me, moving into a new city/state and starting all over sounds like a great adventure... I know that some military families probably would think I'm nuts.

[Jaded]

I've had a dream, sort of a loose plan, to sell my house and move to S. Georgia. I hate Florida, all but the weather. I want to go back to the south. I miss the warmth and friendliness of everyone there. I miss people chatting in the aisles at the supermarket like they've known each other forever, when they only just met. I miss having people wave at you as they ride by, even though you don't have a clue who they are, and neither do they you. I miss being in the country, where the air is cleaner, and you can grow your own food.

I'm so over Florida. I moved here for the weather, but it isn't enough. I could sell my house here and buy a house outright with the profits in S. Ga. and then I could save. I need something like that to be able to make up for all the losses in current years.

So yes, I know exactly how you feel. I want to tell you that my son lives in Seattle, and he absolutely loves it. I've heard a lot of people say it's a great place to live...all but the fact that it rains so much. I could never live there because I couldn't stand the rain.

I hope you get your dream. I'm working slowly on getting mine. It's still there, in my mind, I just have to make it come to fruition.

[FarmerSue]

I grew up in a community opposite from this farm life. I new some of the people on my street growing up and that is about it. Big highschool, fun community but not too many really personal relationships.
Now HERE everyone knows you and your business even if you don't want them to. The biggest house in town is selling for about 150k. Everyone waves, everyone says hello and if you don't your a you know what. The school is smaller and needs a lot of volunteers, all the community clubs are looking for help so you are welcomed with open arms.
I can't ever imagine moving, can't imagine encountering traffic, cows in the ditch is about as close to a traffic jam as we get!
Hope you find what you're looking for!

[Stella]

lullaby80 , you read my mind. I live in Northern CA and all I want to do is move. It is way too expensive to live here anymore. The town is one big tourist destination. I want to move to Oregon someday. I want to be able to buy an older house with some acreage so I can have horses again. This town is nice to visit, but completly unaffordable to live in.

[annymoll]

Our son lives in what would be considered northern California. We loved it, expensive or not, what a beautiful area.Would like to be there in a heartbeat, although we also like our little area in bum-you know what Missouri.The grass is always greener............