THis is not right!

[Dancing Lotus]

MY mil called at 8:30am to ask me if I could take her kids. She droped them off at 9am. She did not say how long she would be. She told me she had to take her son and his roommates to do laundry and she couldnt take the kids becuase there was not enough room in the car. It is now 7 hrs latter. WTH!?!? I was assumeing she was going to drop them off not sit with them. What is she doing, watching the clothes dry. Im so annoyed becuase my house was not ready for any kids today. We are painting the bathroom and the cabenits , the bathroom is tore up with no door on it and the cabenit is taken apart and spread out in the living room. I was suppose to have the last coat on before dh got home so he could put it back. I can not paint with 5 small children running around. PLus the only thing these kids have done is fight all day. How do I tell her its time for them to go?

[baxjul]

Call her cell and tell her to come and get them, that you have things you need to get done! Are they her kids?

[Cricketlegs]

Does she have a cell phone?

[Darlene]

You call her and tell her that times up, you have things you need to do. I'd also let her know that she didn't mention doing anything except laundry and that next time you'll need a definite time that she will be back or you will not be available. You don't mind helping out but geesh...you are not a doormat.

[Dancing Lotus]

Well , yes she does have a cell. I feel a soft spot today becuase her Dad died this weekend. But her leaving the kids with me has nothing to do with that. I have the hardest time standing up for myself when it comes to her.

Yes they are her kids.They are acctualy her grandchildren but to make a long story short they are hers.

[latierra84]

when you start to feel like you stand up to her, think about those little ones running around, with hands full of paint.. touching everything! and her sitting at home.. with clean laundry in her closets (and clean laundry in her son's closets).. eating an ice cream cone and watching dr. phil.

that should rile you up enough to give her a call.

[Dancing Lotus]

It's ten minutes to 5 and she just now came to get them. I cant believe what she said to me. They have been home all day, she didnt get the kids becuase their Dad cut his foot and didnt want to deal with the kids.She left here with every intention this morning to pick the kids back up within an hour and didnt becuase Dad didnt want the kids around. She didnt even call to tell me. What they heck is the matter with people.

[Darlene]

It's ten minutes to 5 and she just now came to get them. I cant believe what she said to me. They have been home all day, she didnt get the kids becuase their Dad cut his foot and didnt want to deal with the kids.She left here with every intention this morning to pick the kids back up within an hour and didnt becuase Dad didnt want the kids around. She didnt even call to tell me. What they heck is the matter with people.

First time she's done this? She could have done something else with the kids besides dumping them on you. My guess is she's done something similar before because she knows you won't say anything. Next time, "Where will you be and when will you be back?"... nothing wrong with those questions, perfectly reasonable. You deserve common courtesy Ann, next time make sure she gives it.

[annymoll]

They have been home all day, she didnt get the kids becuase their Dad cut his foot and didnt want to deal with the kids.She left here with every intention this morning to pick the kids back up within an hour and didnt becuase Dad didnt want the kids around.

These people chose to have or adopt children???To me, something is not right.

[FrugalMomof3]

Ann, I am sorry you had to deal with this today, next time she asks for a favor make sure she is specific, I feel it was unfair to you to have to watch them all day because their dad didnt want to deal with them.

One day she's going to need someone to watch them because there is true emergency and how she treated you today, she might have lost that chance with you.

[leezza]

Anne,

Always have an excuse.......you do have caller ID don't you???? how about an answering machine......let that pick it up and only call back if you want to. And the answer with the MIL is, " Oh, I'm so sorry I can't do that, but have a nice day".

Remember this: Good Ole Anne, is sick of being good ole anne : )

Good Luck,
leezza

[Libby]

Um not to be rude but for such a stupid thing as him not wanting kids around b/c he broke his foot, HE can high tail it to the library where its mandatory for some peace and quiet.

I'd send her an invoice just to show her what your time is truly worth. Put an estimate on there to show how much it wouldve cost you to hire someone to complete all the chores/reno's on your home you were planning to do and probably wouldve suceeded in had she not dropped her kids off on you like that unplanned.

If he deserves peace and quiet in his home you deserve advance warning and a chance to negotiate when, where and for how long you will have her kids. You're not a doormat nor her slave at his/her beck and call.

Thats truly not fair of her to cry wolf and you should mention that b/c each time she fakes an emergency you're not going to believe her when the real one happens.

Sorry if this post comes off as offensive but I truly cant understand why people dont extend common sense and respect yet expect it in return. Pity them? PFFFT!!!

EDIT - I wonder what who they're going to drop their kids off to next for tomorrow, surely his foot cant fix itself in just one day. Grrrr.

[lisettelovebug]

I guess I am one of those people who don't get over things too easily. If it was me I wouldn't watch them again for a really long time. That's just inconsiderate for her not to call and ask you if you could keep them longer. When dh and I went out to dinner for anniversary and wanted to then go and walk around mall to make room for dessert, we called my mom who was watching them, made sure the kids were being good and asked her if it was ok.
She should not assume that you will watch the kids ALL day!! Laundry takes what? two hours at the most? I would have done up a bill for every hour after that for babysitting... $2 an hour per kid!!!

Lisette

[Katybird]

That does stink, your MIL was very inconsiderate but she is your MIL and you are stuck with her. I would not be rude or disrespectful but the next time she ask you to sit for her grandchildren I would just tell her that you are sorry but you already have plans for the day. If you tell her that each time she will eventually get the message and then hopefully she will realize that she abused the privilege of having you sit for the kids.

[Dancing Lotus]

The sad thing is these kids know that Daddy was at the house and they were not allowed to go home becuase Daddy didnt want them.


For anybody who wants to read all this I will tell the story.

There are three kids. My bil and his wife are losers. They are addicts and alcholics. Daddy was just in prison for over two yrs. While he was in prison the wife had a party one night with some junkies and a neighbor called the cops. The kids were taken right away and grandma has had them since. Grandma was raising them anyway so the law just made in official. Now they are grandmas kids. NOw mom is outta the picture and Dad just got outa prison two weeks ago. He doesnt want to live with the kids so he is staying at a friends house. ON sunday he was mowing the grass and cut is foot on something.Really is was a very minor injury.

Monday morning he called mom and asked her to come get him so he could do some laundry at her house. She has a truck and doesnt have enough room to fit the kids and him so she asked if I would watch them while she went to pick up the Dad. She was going to come back and pick up the kids right away. Well when she got back to her house "DAD" asked her not to get the kids becuase his foot hurt and he didnt want to deal with them. SO she just left them with me all day wihtout a word.
When my dh got home I told him what she did and he was very angry and said that he is goint to speak with her and tell her that we will not be watching the kids anymore. HE is also going to tell her that she needs to decide if those kids are more important then the "Dad". And he is going to tell his brother that he doesnt get to decide these things.

PLEASE dont judge me by what I told you about my inlaws. I assure you wer are nothing like them. And I dont approve of any of it.