Feeling a bit blue...

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 08-01-2007, 05:25 PM

Found out a few days ago that my best friend is moving. She's hoping to be out of here in about 3 months.

I'm happy for her because I think it will be a good thing in her life. But, I'm going to miss her.

I've had 3 good friends up here and 2 have already moved. Now she's going, too.

I'm fairly shy and it takes me time to make friends. I'm not even sure what to do with myself after she leaves.

My Dh is still here and he's my best friend and all...but it's not the same as having a friend who's a girl. KWIM?

Anyone else out there shy? How do you make new friends? Can I cry now?

**Jskell911** · 08-01-2007, 07:02 PM

Oh, I so know what you mean. O haven't even introduced myself to my neighbors and we moved here in Sept! Ironically I work as a car rental agent at an airport so I deal with people all day and am friendly. Guess I'm just quite an actress.

But anyway, I have such a hard time making friends. Always have. DH thinks it may be because I have Aspergers like DS, although I was never diagnosed.....

Hope you get a new "girl" best friend soon!

**Jskell911** · 08-01-2007, 07:03 PM

Ok, that sounded awful. I didn't mean to replace your best friend. I just meant another close distance why.

OK maybe this is why I have a hard time making friends LOL

**Dancing Lotus** · 08-01-2007, 07:30 PM

I have the same problem. IN fact I havent had a female friend for over a year. I wait for others to persue a friendship and it never happens. IN fact I think one of my neighbors thinks I weird becuase I dont come out of the house much and I often hide inside when they are all outside. I guess I just dont feel like I have anything to say. Plus I worry to much about what I look like. I dont wanna get to close if I dont have me makeup on and lets face it since I never go out I dont put on makeup.

Im sorry your friend is moveing but I guess you will have to take this as an oppertunity to meet someone new.

**FrugalMomof3** · 08-01-2007, 07:37 PM

As with AnnK, I too am like that, my friends are my neighbors but my new neighbor is a male so not like a real friend I can talk to about thing,s, KWIM? I have a hard time making friends because I always feel that no one will like me or the way I do things should I mention it to them. I want friends but find them hard to make.

**Jaded** · 08-02-2007, 12:01 AM

Awww...I'm so sorry! My best friend is going on vacation tomorrow for nine days, and I'm going to go crazy! I hope mine never moves away.

Life sucks sometimes.

**Jessiquita** · 08-02-2007, 12:52 AM

I'm so sorry to hear that!
My best friend lives 2 blocks away, and I get palpitations at the thought that one of us might move to another neighborhood one day. And we work together! I can't imagine what I would do if she moved out of state or something.
I don't have any advice on the making friends thing. Since I'm in theatre, I'm constantly forming friendships with new people, but the catch is that I never know how real they are. It's a million times better to make a few (or even one) quality friends than a hundred acquaintances. It's also a million times harder.

I wish you the best of luck.

**Daisygirl** · 08-02-2007, 05:57 AM

I am kind of anti social to start with, generally content with my own company and that of my kids. That being said, I don't have a lot of trouble striking up a conversation (I work in customer service so I can talk to anyone). I am so sorry you are going through this, and I wish I had some advice, but I only have hugs to offer.

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 08-02-2007, 02:02 PM

Yeah...I'm sad. I'm trying to think of things that I could go DO where I'd be around others for a chance to make some friends. Any ideas? All I could think of was a quilting class and a drawing class (things I'd like to learn to do).

**Dancing Lotus** · 08-02-2007, 03:12 PM

Originally Posted by Luv2BeFrugal

Yeah...I'm sad. I'm trying to think of things that I could go DO where I'd be around others for a chance to make some friends. Any ideas? All I could think of was a quilting class and a drawing class (things I'd like to learn to do).

Those are great ideas. You would be bound to find someone you have something in common with. Talk alot and be social , dont be affraid to be the first one to suggest a get together outside of class.

**Droppedonmyhead** · 09-30-2007, 06:56 PM

I feel your pain. Had the same thing happen to me when very dear friends of mine moved. The husband had gotten a transfer and the day they pulled out in their UHaul, I thought I was going to die. I cried my heart out that night.

Remember, even though she isn't there, you can still talk EVERY DAY if you need to. Plan to visit her soon after her move. If you can, try to visit her when you can help her arrange her new home.

**guest002** · 09-30-2007, 07:25 PM

By the time I find a good friend we move (military). Thank goodness for the internet and being able to chat online and KIT. I'm sorry but I know how you feel and it just stinks.

**Opal** · 09-30-2007, 07:46 PM

I haven't had any best friends for years. At first it was cause I was busy with kids, then I just got to tired. Lucky for me I found this site. I followed a link to figure out how to treat my daughters illness. Yeaaaaaaaa that worked, her infection is gone, now she is on the road to being healthy, which she hasn't been (she has asthma) and I will rarely if ever have to put her on antibotics. In the course of doing this I found a treatment to go along with what I was already doing for my chronic fatigue, now I am on my way to healing. So, now I will have the energy to make friends.....

To the OP, the quilting and drawing classes are a great idea, two birds one stone, learning and making friend. There is a place online called Meetup, you can find people with your interests and they actually find a place to meet in person. There are like hundreds of different groups. You could also use that as a way to start your own group, if you were so inclined.

http://www.meetup.com/

**lwlynch** · 09-30-2007, 07:57 PM

I am sorry. I had a friend for a good three years and then she moved also. I know that it is hard. I really am very good at making friends, yet as I get older I am more selective.. maybe too selective. I guess I just get tired of the ones that aren't honest and truthful. Well anyway, hang in there and one door closes and another one will open, with someone new, just when you need a friend.