Help, do you think it will get any better?

[rachelMcK]

Ok, so Ive gotten crappy at posting on here. And I've discovered that in doing so, I've doomed myself and my future. Yes, its not an exaggeration. When I don't go on here DAILY, I spend like there's no tomorrow, and regrettably (and as if by clockwork) tomorrow does come, and we're short money. We've had a very very bad few weeks. It started with crackheads and cockroaches. First, the cockroaches. The people across the hall from us (about 10 of them in a 1 bedroom) lived in filth. We didn't know that. At one point the putrid smell of their apartment got so bad, we needed all windows open and about $50 worth of candles and other smelly things. We had no idea where it was coming from. Then they moved out. The Super showed me what they lived in for 2 years. The floors were black with filth, garbage up to my ankles throughout and rotten food on the counters (or what could be the counters, I don't know because I couldn't see them). And cockroaches EVERYWHERE. And then they moved into our apartment. So we're currently battling them. The apartment across the hall from us was rented to other people who turns out, are drug-dealers. We had a late-night coke deal outside our door as we were coming home from Tim Hortons one night. So needless to say, we're trying to move but are so-far unsuccessful. Then, we went to visit some friends in Kitchener. On the way home, on the 401 in 40 degree heat (celsius), our transmission blew in our car. We were a hour away from home, and so we needed a tow. Everything was good until the driver informed us that our CAA was expired, that was a $400 trip. Then to fix the car was another $1000. There goes our savings for a new place. Then, At work, we were informed that our scheduling hours were being cut. So I have now gone, from 40-hours a week, to 18. Again, very stressful. I can't seem to even schedule an interview in the field I've studied in (thereby making me feel like the 30k education was absolutley pointless). Then, I find out on friday that the tattoo parlour that I got my ink done at (and I researched it like crazy) was shut down because their sterilization equipment hadn't been working properly for a YEAR!! I was told that I need a blood test for Hep and HIV ASAP. So I'm absolutley terrified at that point and nearly suicidal (honestly). Then my DH gets this terrible infection in his leg that caused him to be off work for a week (and a late-night hospital trip). So we lose money there. Then I find out that my manager position has been cut and I'm back to making 75 cents less an hour and being a cashier again. Then on the weekend we found out that people that we knew died in a fire.

So those of you who have had a bout of bad luck, tell me. Does it get any better?

On the upside, I applied for a job this morning, just got a call back for a position (in a call center..ick) thats full-time and I will get paid $5 more than what I make now...I'm worried that it will be terrible like everything else right now.

So what do we do??? I need encouragement.

Thanks (that was really long)

[lwlynch]

Wow, seems like every time you turn around it is a mess. Keep your head up and keep plodding along. Make small changes and you won't be so overwhelmed with trying to be frugal and get through a rough patch. I always try to remember that either I am to learn a lesson or another door is about to open. Try to find the positive. Hang in there. I will throw a prayer for you your way.

[GMA21]

things will get better, just hang in there.

[sdrjeolsen]

Wow, so sorry to hear of all the bad luck, seems when it rains it pours. Do you have someone you can move in with just temporarily till the cockroackes get bombed or sprayed or something? Keep posting here, you have lots of people that can support you. If you are battling suicidal thoughts, I think you should call someone, a pastor, help-line or even just a close friend and unload on them. If you have faith to fall back on, spend some time meditating on that.

As far as all the problems, it will get better, right now it might seem bleak, I know there ar members here who have gone through some really tough times and they can tell you you will come out okay.

I think getting the call center job is a step forward. It's more money. So you can start saving up again for the new apartment. Cut back on spending and you will be okay. Let us know how the blood test come back.

sending a big hug your way, things will right themselves with some time.

[frugalfarmwife]

Hugs to you!! I've also had times when I feel like I live in a "wack-a-mole" carnival game, every time I stick my head out I get WACKED AGAIN!!

Go for the new job, make SURE that hubby takes ALL the antibiotics he was prescribed (I'm big on nagging people to use prescriptions correctly, lol!) And take a breather, the two of you go to a park for a picnic, heck go for a walk.

It will pass and as was said above, I'm sure there is a lesson in it somewhere.

And GO FOR THE NEW JOB

kj

[Jayne]

I'm so sorry you are having such horrible luck ...I hope things get better !!

[pip]

Yikes! Try to keep your thoughts focused on what you are working towards. It sounds like a lot of crummy stuff going on, but it can't last forever. Try to come here often for inspiration and support.

[rachelMcK]

Thanks so much, its inspiring to know that so many care! As for the suicidal thougts, they passed after I researched the possibilites of having any of the diseases I was tested for. No results yet, but I guess no news is good news in this case! I'm going to try to make it a habit of logging on here everyday for some inspiration!

[monkeywrangler71]

Please try not to worry too much about the diseases. Call your doctor and ask for the results so that you can put your mind at ease - chances are they won't call you unless there is a problem, so you might end up worrying for weeks over nothing. The tattoo parlour has reopened and there is no evidence that anyone has been infected, I'm sure you'll be okay.

[PurpleButterfly]

I totally understand how you feel rachel, I am in the middle of a downpour of bad luck myself. I am ready to put my umbrella away. Hope things work out for you soon!

[Mom23boys]

Hang in there! Things will get better; it just takes time.

[Michelle68]

Rachael, sorry to hear about all your bad luck. As others have said, I think it would be a good idea to go for the new job especially since it will bring in more money. Don't give up, things will get better. Sending good vibes your way.


--Michelle

[watchingpennies]

Stay positive and keep checking back here. I actually notice the same thing. I don't seem to be quite as careful if I am not checking on these boards at least once a day.....things go wrong and then there is a ripple effect - although nothing quite like what is happening to you - but keep in mind that you will get through it and I am sending good wishes your way!

[frooz]

The call center job could be a blessing in disguise, we all work jobs we don't like at some point simply for the $$$. Think postive. I always remind myself after a streak of bad luck that things could only get better from hereon!

[many houseapes]

AWWW sweetie, we're going through alot of crap too - one thing right after the other & I can tell you that it will get better. All of this will be over with time.I know its rough...but it won't be forever. chin up. Sending you big hugs