Keep working , mom is not helping.

**Dancing Lotus** · 08-21-2007, 06:03 PM

Thats what I just said to my dd. I told her it was time to clean up and she looked right at me and said NO I AM GOING TO PLAY. I pointed my finger at her to warn her and she grabbed it and bent it back! Oh NO , I can not believe she just did that. After a stay in time out I put her to work and this time I am not going to help. She can do it herself.

This is not my little girl , lately she has been testing me and I really dont know how to handle it. We are trying to clean out the toys but now I am thinking its time to lock them up.
lol she just walked in and told me she couldnt finish, I told her I will throw away any book that she doesnt put on that shelf. That got her moveing.

**Dancing Lotus** · 08-21-2007, 06:08 PM

update- My dd just made me laugh tell I cry.

She came out of her room and yelled at me. She said " Ann, I am brakeing up with you. For real." LOL she is 5

**Missy** · 08-21-2007, 06:10 PM

well, then. LOL. Now what?

I don't know what to say, lol. Good luck!

**Marie78** · 08-21-2007, 06:16 PM

Good luck, it sounds like she is testing you today

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**Luv2BeFrugal** · 08-21-2007, 06:30 PM

Yeah...sounds like quite the test...at least we know you'll pass.

**sdrjeolsen** · 08-21-2007, 06:55 PM

That's their job...to test the parents.

**baxjul** · 08-21-2007, 07:04 PM

Awww, how cute! Good luck!

**McD** · 08-21-2007, 07:05 PM

What a sassy pants!

Wesley has been bitten by the sassy bug lately and I just tell him we don't talk to mommy like that because mommy deserves respect...of course by the time I'm finished with my spiel he's off to playing. Of course he's only 18 months.....

Have you just tried to be unresponsive when she is like that? That works with a lot of kids--they're doing it to test you, get a rise, and if you just don't acknowledge it or say, I"m not going to respond to you when you speak to me that way, a lot of kids kind of snap out of it.

**jamie79** · 08-21-2007, 09:18 PM

stay firm and dont let her get away with it.

**annymoll** · 08-21-2007, 09:56 PM

It would not be a happy day for any five year old child in this home that twisted mama's finger back. That goes beyond "testing" to me.To me, that is abusive behavior by the child.Not good.

**PB&J** · 08-21-2007, 10:06 PM

Just wait til she tells you, You are the meanest mom in the whole wide world! lol

I had 2 boys before a girl. The boys are pretty laid back, but Savannah?! No way. She is so dramatic. It is so hard to keep a straight face and to not laugh at some of her drama.

**Dancing Lotus** · 08-22-2007, 08:54 AM

Originally Posted by annymoll

It would not be a happy day for any five year old child in this home that twisted mama's finger back. That goes beyond "testing" to me.To me, that is abusive behavior by the child.Not good.

She didnt twist it , more like holding it. Thats abusive behavior at my house also. We do not tolerate any physical abuse at my home. Trust me she wont be doing it again.

**LexTysMommy** · 08-22-2007, 09:17 AM

Must be something in the water lately. My two have been pushing me lately too! Good luck..stay calm...stick to your guns...try not to laugh to her face..altho it was kinda cute! LOL

**FrugalMomof3** · 08-22-2007, 09:26 AM

I agree with annymoll, pulling the finger back is not testing, that's just not good beahviour but yes in some aspects she is testing you.

Try ignoring her until she is done with the task she has to complete and if she comes out of her room before finishing give her a timeout. Believe me it works, my 11 year old DD is sooooo great, never has she talked back, smacked, raised her voice or even tested me since she was 5, guess she learned her lesson?

**LovingTheChaos** · 08-22-2007, 12:58 PM

Five is a tough age. I have a very, um, spirited 5 year old. She has been known to hit, mostly her siblings. She will 'fake' hit at me, & is promptly punished for it. Then she will go weeks acting like the perfect little angel, helping her younger siblings, mom & dad. Then suddenly, the horns pop out & you jsut don't know what is going to come out of that mouth!

The finger pulling was a test - one that was passed by mom from the sounds of it. There are children who will test physically, as well as mentally, if they all came out perfect, they wouldn't need parents...