Well my 15 dd is not getting back on on myspace!!!!

**oct2667us** · 08-31-2007, 10:34 AM

I had been off line for a while so I was not able to look at my dd myspace page. But when I DID

I seen noting but bad words on her page and the pics I found of her(which she did not put on at my house!!!) where way to sexy for a 15 year old girl. To top it all off I found where a 19 year old guy that lives in our town was trying to get her to have sex. I was in tears!!!. so as of to day my DD can not get on line for a while and all chatting stops. as for myspace she will not be back on there till she is 18. Have you see myspace ? Most girls that are 15 and under are halfe dressed. do you think there Moms and dads know? It is so hard to keep up with a teen. Oh and I called the cops on the 19 year old . Do you kow what he told me. GRRRRRRRRR even if they did have sex she is 15 and he would not be in trouble. It is like we have to lock our dd up to keep them safe.

**ktsmama** · 08-31-2007, 10:47 AM

I think that myspace is a scary place!!! I am so glad that you checked her site before it was too late. I don't use it, but I do periodically check my ex and his wife's space (not stalking!!) to make sure they do not have any pics of DD10 on there. He has no common sense and would not think twice about putting a child's pic on his space.

For what it is worth, I think you are a great parent (whether your daughter thinks so or not) for monitoring what your child does. If more parents cared about their children, I think that we would see an entire different society.

**frugalfarmwife** · 08-31-2007, 10:48 AM

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this, even though the internet is a WONDERFUL tool it is also such an incredibly dangerous thing in so many ways. There are so many dangers out there especially for youth.

You did the right thing, she's going to be very angry but that's just to bad, she needs to know you ARE there watching out for her.

Good job mom, hang tight!

kj

**changed4life** · 08-31-2007, 10:52 AM

My daughter is 15 and I found the place to be nothing but a "show-all" and a rah, rah page for teen girls. My daughter was allowed to join, but when I looked at her friends pages and a few pics my daughter posted that was the end of that.

There will be no more MySpace in this house. Ever!

**latierra84** · 08-31-2007, 11:03 AM

this is making me think that i should make one to keep watch over my kid brother and sister. - hmm... alot of people at work have them and i know that our supervisor watches over their pages and so i had just decided to not make one at all, but reading this makes me think that i should get one just to watch over the kids, and not really use it for myself personally. because i know that both of their pages are private.

**Neeley** · 08-31-2007, 11:34 AM

My DD (14) and DS (12) both have had Myspace pages forever. I also have one. I have had no problems out of either of them so far. They know that their dad and I monitor the pages regualrly and are well aware of what is acceptable and what is not. I also monitor the pages of many of their friends and report to the parents what I find whether it is good or bad. So far nothing really offensive has been found among our circle of friends.

We have never allowed the kids to IM or chat online with anyone.

We have programs on our computers that email us everything the kids do online word for word as an added safety measure.

**YankeeMom** · 08-31-2007, 11:42 AM

Mine are not allowed on MySpace. They are also not allowed to post ANY pictures of themselves. No chatting/im-ing either. I know, we're mean.

I also check the browser history EVERY day and have all of their passwords. I know every step they take on this computer. They use my computer which is right next to the living room & there's no privacy at all.

no l33t-speak either!!

**emily_hope** · 08-31-2007, 11:43 AM

Job well done! I have seen lots of things that offended me on young peoples' myspace sites and I always wonder if their parents know what they are doing. You did the right thing.

**baxjul** · 08-31-2007, 11:49 AM

My dd isn't old enough, but I've heard of some that are really bad.

**DAAC3DEC** · 08-31-2007, 11:52 AM

There is nothing worthwhile about myspace and should be GONE!!!! My 19 year old has only been on for a year, (that I know of)

when she found out that I saw her page, she went private.....long story short had someone at work request to be a "friend" so I got back on---since she doesn't know that I see it, I have to watch what I say.....she is pretty mild compared to some, but it is all UGLY!!!

**DAAC3DEC** · 08-31-2007, 11:54 AM

Originally Posted by YankeeMom

Mine are not allowed on MySpace. They are also not allowed to post ANY pictures of themselves. No chatting/im-ing either. I know, we're mean.

I also check the browser history EVERY day and have all of their passwords. I know every step they take on this computer. They use my computer which is right next to the living room & there's no privacy at all.

no l33t-speak either!!

WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

**always2busy** · 08-31-2007, 11:57 AM

My solution works pretty good. My kids are not allowed on othe computer unless they have permission. Then it is only for school project and me or my hubby are watching what they are doing. We don't have to worry about what they will see.

I know we are weird but my kids have never seen anything inappropriate on the computer. We also don't watch TV. We don't have cable, and we don't get any channels at all. We do however watch tons of movies. I preview movies and decide if they can see them. The TV these days is just about as bad as the internet. I don't think you can be a good parent and not monitor what your kids watch.

**karone** · 08-31-2007, 06:47 PM

i signed up for myspace when zack and i were together and didnt get onto it until a few months ago. a friend invited me to look at his page so i did. sadly with zack's page the only mention of merrick is by zack's sister asking for pics.

**sixfreds** · 08-31-2007, 07:15 PM

My daughter (14) does have a myspace, I check her myspace all the time and I deletea any pictures that I think she shouldn't have on there and monitor who she has for friends and who says what.
It is my job to keep her safe and she wants a myspace so I know her password and I check it all the time.

Eileen

**Libby** · 08-31-2007, 07:47 PM

I think its great that you parents ARE monitoring your child(ren)s activities on the internet but I have been thinking one thing while reading all of your posts. What happens when they make their page 'private' and you cant see anything? Or they promise to your face about deleting their space and then creating another one under a whole other opposite nickname from their friends place and access only from there?

Its a tough job to be a parent but sometimes you just have to trust. I hope none of your chil(ren) get into any trouble from being on that site. I personally dont want to 'advertise' my all for just anyone to see. Same with facebook.