So, is anyone else tired

changed4life · 09-02-2007, 09:27 PM

of the cattyness (sp?) of women?

Where I live it's rampant. I live in suburbia, avoid PTA meetings like the plague and chose my friends carefully, ensuring that my private life stays just that.

Gossiping is not my style

nor is drama. We have drama queens on every bus stop and street.

Also, has anyone had a what you thought was a really good friend/neighbor for quite a few years and all of a sudden you became like the plaque when someone new moved in?

Some women are so hard to swallow or figure out.

Good riddens to them, though.

Missourimom · 09-02-2007, 09:35 PM

This is why I avoid the PTA at our school. It's a shame really, but I quickly grew tired of watching women smile and act so sweet to another member and then turn around and talk about them. I always wondered if they were doing that to me as well?

Actually, I'm pretty much a loner and always have been....even as a kid. I like being left alone.

Katybird · 09-02-2007, 10:04 PM

I don't think it is exclusively a female trait. I know plenty of men who are the same way. I think that being catty or gossipy is just a bad character flaw whether it is male or female.

ravenmaniac · 09-02-2007, 11:12 PM

Women are catty but so are men. I understand what you are saying. There are certain groups or people I aviod too. My rule of thumb is: If a person doesn't build you up or contribute to your life in a positive way, don't waste your time. They are what I call "life suckers". They drain the life out of you. You don't have the time and energy to give to them.
Life is tiring enough. Why give of yourself to them?

onencgirl · 09-03-2007, 09:09 AM

I can't stand to be around people like that. I try my best to stay away from all the 'drama' that so many people seem to need these days.

LadyNada · 09-03-2007, 09:24 AM

lol I just left an office full of 'em. I think I can count on one hand the number of them that aren't like that. *sigh* I'll be honest with you, I would much prefer hanging out with

and "the guys". And they're really awesome -- they all treat me just like "one of the guys" (except

,

but he's my best friend anyway).

GFNancy · 09-03-2007, 02:52 PM

At my daughter's school, there is one woman who talked to me a lot at first and was all friendly. Then she stopped even speak to me when I said hi. I thought maybe she had decided she didn't like me for whatever reason (maybe I wasn't dressing right - I've been cleaning out my storage unit), so I didn't think much of it. Then there was a school spirit picnic thing one evening and she was all buddy-buddy again. Okay... Whatever..

I think it's kind of amusing to watch the way some women just contort themselves into knots doing this kind of stuff.

Makes you wonder if they keep charts and graphs or something.

Oh well, some people just never get past that high-school clique-ish mentality.

My best friend is just like me. She always had trouble being friends with women because she's not into the game-playing, posturing and cattiness that goes along with it. We became friends because our husbands are friends. Once we saw that neither one of us were like that, we hit it off and have been friends ever since.

Nancy

carlitasway · 09-03-2007, 03:25 PM

I definately miss all my guy friends I used to have. I don't really talk to women. I say hi and drop off the kids and that's it. Everyone keeps asking if I'm going to be on the PTA but I still have a girl at home 3 days a week so the answer is no.

Cricket1 · 09-03-2007, 03:40 PM

I had one of these rants a few months back about uptight mothers. I, too, don't bother with the PTA. Here it is just a bunch of judgemental people doing the same things year after year. If there is something I feel compelled to donate or any way I can help, I just go to the class teacher.

AnnK · 09-03-2007, 03:52 PM

When I first became a stay at home mom I was so lonely. I would feel sorry for myself because I had no friends to take our kids to the park with.
NOw that I have a child in school I am getting back into society and guess what? I dont like it. Friends can be a real PITA if you arent careful. I now have one true real life friend and my online friends, thats plenty for me. When women get together in groups it can be like high school all over again, that s what my playgroup was like. I joined one of those playgroup things and never in my life have I felt like such an outsider.

Darlene · 09-03-2007, 04:16 PM

I can be catty at times, not often but every once in a while~ Meow!

People who have a habit of being mean & nasty get avoided, life is too short.

cab54 · 09-03-2007, 06:34 PM

When my kids were in school and still lived home, I stayed active in PTA, and with all the football moms and did loads of volunteer jobs at school. But I learned early on to watch what I told about my life, especially with 'some' women. As soon as my kids graduated HS, I was done with all of it--and the women. I keep my distance.

One thing I did back when I HAD to put up with these people, for my kids' sake, is when one of them was knocking a person they had just finished being sickeningly sweet to, I would wait till there was a pause in their nastiness, and say something really nice about the person they were slamming. And then walk away. Point made.

bugsmom125 · 09-03-2007, 07:55 PM

i work with all women and i have learned to pick your work friends very carefully, never say anything that you don't want everybody to know

Libby · 09-03-2007, 08:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by changed4life

of the cattyness (sp?) of women?

Where I live it's rampant. I live in suburbia, avoid PTA meetings like the plague and chose my friends carefully, ensuring that my private life stays just that.

Gossiping is not my style

nor is drama. We have drama queens on every bus stop and street.

Also, has anyone had a what you thought was a really good friend/neighbor for quite a few years and all of a sudden you became like the plaque when someone new moved in?

Some women are so hard to swallow or figure out.

Good riddens to them, though.

Great example of cattyness to other women?

My gf whom I met back in highschool. I've known her for about 15'ish years now give or take. She turned 30 and wanted to have a group dinner so she could finally mingle her friends. (same as I did back in Jan) Her two best friends from elementary shool (known her for 25 + yrs) and one of their bf's went in on a gift for the birthday girl. A gift card for the mall, not so bad right? $40 value. Um divided by 3 = #13.30/each. I know its the thought that counts but Im sorry - someone you've known for that long and claim to be best friends with and you cant even think of a gift??? And then THREE of you go in on a small gift card?! OY I know they're not frugal, they're always wanting to go out to fancy restaurants, drinking and dancing every weekend but $13.30 for your best friend when you buy yourself new clothes, shoes and get your nails done each week??? Ouch.

I got my gf a webcam b/c I know she doesnt have one - cost me all of $20 woo. Her new bf of 2 months bought her two tickets to go see the musical 'We Will Rock You' thats gotta be well over $90/ticket b/c it was when I went.

Again, I totally understand the being frugal aspect but a simple small gift is sooo much better then a slap in the face. My gf is seriously wondering why she has remained friends with them this long. She was very much in tears b/c at the dinner one of her life long friends complained how she didnt have money to get her own dessert and that she had to pay for the birthday girls dessert with the sparkler in it. Well we all saw the bill - it was FREE. So realisticially we had to pay? It would've been an extra dollar on each of our tabs.

Again - OUCH!! Poor girl, I hope she can keep the positive memories only from her 30th birthday. Now to me thats catty.

Drgnfly423 · 09-04-2007, 12:58 AM

I just recently re-evaluated my relationships with come "friends" that I've had since elementary school. I decided to quietly end one. She was just too much to deal with.

I work in a small office, we used to to only have 3 women total working there. We recently hired 3 women for some new positions. One of them is a raging gossip. It's terrible. She's even told me that she likes drama and to stir the pot. So far I think everyone has finally caught on and has ceased telling her anything. She twists what you say to suit her agenda. I have never met someone so manipulative. It's really too bad, because I thought at first that we could be friends outside of work, now I dread even talking to her. Last week I reached the end of my rope and talked to our office manager about it. (I still have some guilt from this)

This experience has reminded my why I need to be a little more guarded. Just becuase someone is out of highschool physically, doesn't mean they are mentally.

I'm thankful for the great group of people that we have here. I do consider you guys my "friends".