My dh just throws money at me!!!!

**ravenmaniac** · 09-09-2007, 12:13 AM

This morning I asked my husband if he received his reimbursement check from his FOP for the conference we went to in Louiville, KY. They paid for his airfare, not mine. Dh got crappy with me and said yes I got it a few days ago, where do you think I got the $50.00 I gave you? Mind you I had a dr. appointment with a co-pay of $15.00 and an outstanding balance of $40.00, so you do the math. I asked him if he was going to put the $300.00 back in our checking account for the ticket. He says no that's his money! Mind you the reimbursement check was for $500.00 plus. You're wondering where the other $150.00 went too, right? So he takes the other $300.00 out of his wallet and throws on the table in front of me and tells me here take it all, I don't want any of it! Then storms out of the room. So I took it and thought thank you very much a*#@*!%.

**nuisance26** · 09-09-2007, 09:50 AM

~Good for you, Carrie, I would have gone ballistic! My DH did a 12 week stint out-of-state for his work last year. Along with the free flights, free hotel suite, free luxery car rental, restaurant food and gas reimbursements, his supervisor gave him a cash bonus and giftcards. We had a big 'discussion' about whether those gift cards were a personal gift(dh keeps and spends)or a work bonus(household money). I don't think he agreed with me but I won when I reminded him that I deserved a bonus too for staying home with 2 toddlers for all that time by myself. He was out eating free steak every night while I scrambled eggs or baked a potato in the microwave.

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**Laurie in Bradenton** · 09-09-2007, 10:03 AM

We have these discussions often also.
Depending on how the budget is I sometimes let him keep the money. Otherwise he feels like hes always giving and never getting. Since he never pays the bills he has no idea how much it costs to run our home. When I try to explain it he never wants to hear it. So in order to keep peace I sometimes let him have alittle mad money. Don't know if I'd let it be 500.00 but then he never gets that much at one time from somewhere.

Laurie in Bradenton

**robyn** · 09-09-2007, 10:36 AM

My DH is usually really good about this type of stuff.

Every once in awhile he does a side job or gets a cash bonus from work and he always splits it with me.

That type of bonus money typically becomes our own spend however we wish $$.

He blows his on whatever he wants but 9/10 I spend mine on the kids or I put it into our household money.

**pita1213** · 09-09-2007, 08:00 PM

dh's reimbursment money come in his paycheck and goes straight to pay back the cc he used for his meals and airfare. he doesn't get anything extra, just exactly what he charged. so thankfully we don't have to have discussions like that. he does get a quarterly bonus and we usually talk about where that goes. usually bills or car repairs though with a little bit for fun monay for him.

**ravenmaniac** · 09-09-2007, 11:01 PM

Thanks for listening everyone. I just wanted the money back we put out for the plane ticket. Especially since that's what we agreed on in the first place. The other $200.00 was his to spend as he wished. He did get to spend $150.00 plus of the $200.00. It's not my fault if he didn't budget his spending money correctly. He's okay now. I think he realizes money is tight. We owe the IRS $2,800.00 and now the oral surgeon $1,800.00 for our daughter's wisdom teeth extraction. That's why I keep telling him we need an EF.

**Edna_E** · 09-11-2007, 04:55 PM

Glad things have settled down a little. I think it is wise to try to plan in advance what expenses will be repaid from a reimbursement check - I would expect airfare, hotel, etc. to be repaid, but if there was extra would probable consider it to be under full control of the person receiving it. That said, however, I think I'd get my feelings hurt if they didn't do something nice to me too and just spent it all on themselves.