Smooch is Quitting His Job

**Nada.Leona** · 09-17-2007, 02:52 PM

He has been working for the most absurd pair of people I've yet met. Here's a basic run-down of what he's been dealing with:

~ the owner complains that he's never making enough money -- while he's standing there cooking in $300 jeans. He ruins at least one pair a week.

~ the owner and his wife run the restaurant -- he runs the kitchen, she runs the front of house. At least once a night, the owner says, "I don't know what I'd do without her." And at least ten times a night, they are fighting with each other and swearing they're getting divorced.

~ they hired two new people to work in the kitchen, because the owner claims he doesn't want to be in there cooking anymore. On the flip side, he's in the kitchen every night, and sending someone home, because it's cheaper for him to cook than it is to pay someone to cook for him.

~ since they've hired two new people, they've been cutting back everyone else's hours (except the sous chef).

has been getting fewer and fewer hours, and they're always sending someone home.

~ the owner makes mistakes all the time, and tries to blame it on everyone else.

just won't take that.

The straw that broke the camel's back was on Thursday night.

and the rest of the kitchen crew had cooked for the whole restaurant, and it was finally getting time to clean and close. The owner wasn't there that night, but his wife was. She walked in back and

was standing against the counter after just having finished cleaning his side of the kitchen. She looked at him and said, "Why don't you just go home? I haven't seen you move from there all night." And then she left. She hadn't even been in the kitchen all night.

just about quit right there, but the sous is his good friend and calmed him down. He said to the sous, "Why should I bother staying here? I just get degraded and told I don't do anything when I worked my @$$ off for them all night." The owner's wife came back in and said, "Well, you did work, yeah, but now there's the scheduling problem with you going to school and everything--". And

cut her off and said, "I've been here at the same time I've always been scheduled to work, and I'm always here before the other guy who lives across the street! I've been late twice since I started working here and I live on the other side of the city!" And it's true.

After that, there was a catastrophe (the owner's wife's father passed away very unexpectedly) and the restaurant went into chaos, so the fight didn't continue.

of course didn't say anything about it all the rest of the weekend, because of course he feels bad about the situation that just happened, but that doesn't change the fact that he feels completely disrespected and abused. On Saturday morning he woke up so seething angry he could barely function. I called (I was at work and didn't see him when he was upset) and he was being very curt and short on the phone, so I knew he was upset. He's planning on giving them his two week notice today. He's already had two job offers from other restaurants in the city, and will have no problem getting another job.

**pita1213** · 09-17-2007, 02:57 PM

the work situation really stinks and he shouldn't have been treated that way, but it's great he's already gotten job offers!

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 09-17-2007, 03:01 PM

Sounds like a good decision! He shouldn't be treated that way! No one should...

**baxjul** · 09-17-2007, 03:24 PM

Good luck to him!

**i.m.cheap** · 09-17-2007, 04:06 PM

I can relate, my DH works in a similar family owned restaurant. He gets very little appreciation either.

**Libby** · 09-17-2007, 06:36 PM

You know what, I hope your SO gets a job elsewhere. And hopefully the owner will be crotchety enough to send him early WITH his 2 wk pay - since he seems to be good at dismissing people on a whim. This way your SO can get a new lease on life and work where he's wanted and appreciated.

Gosh, sometimes people like the owner need a good slap in the face from reality - meaning all his staff leaving him stranded and abandoned. If he cant respect those he hired and trusted to prepare the food with his name on it then maybe hes not worthy of anything. As for his wife, thats a sad loss but he's been crotchety way before that, so it appears. He needs to learn the hard way, apparently, that the way he treats others does affect them and he also needs to learn that he brings all this misfoturne upon himself. Thats a very painful lesson to have to learn.

I think if the work environment is that toxic to your SO he should go so he doesnt catch the toxicity and bring it home and share it/take it out on you.

Just my 2 cents.

**FrugalMomof3** · 09-17-2007, 06:38 PM

For his own sanity and yours, I feel he's doing the right thing, I am sure he will find a place that respects him tremendously like he deserves.

**Mom23boys** · 09-17-2007, 10:08 PM

I hope things work out for your SO.

**Droppedonmyhead** · 09-18-2007, 04:45 AM

They probably won't stay in business long. Word like that always gets out and tends to ruin the reputation of restaurants. Good luck to him!!! Sounds like leaving is the right thing to do.

**TheRootedNomad** · 09-18-2007, 06:52 AM

Good for him! I hope he gets something wonderful.

**jamie79** · 09-18-2007, 08:14 AM

I hope he can get another job

**Missourimom** · 09-18-2007, 09:41 AM

I wonder if smooch works at the same place my poor daughter works at.

I keep thinking my daughter should put her notice in too.

**Nada.Leona** · 09-18-2007, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by shorty

I think if the work environment is that toxic to your SO he should go so he doesnt catch the toxicity and bring it home and share it/take it out on you.

Oh he doesn't, don't worry. He's very good about that -- he comes home and tells me about it, and I always hug and kiss him and tell him that he's home now where he's loved. Then I serve him food, he takes a hot shower, and we hop into bed for the night. He's really good about not bringing his work's negativity home.