something just for me

[Dancing Lotus]

I have decided that in the spring I am going to do something just for me.
No reason , other then to make myself happy.
When dh started back to school I was a little jealous becuase I had secretly be thinking about takeing some classes. I have decided that I am tired of waiting for my turn and Im just going to take my turn without permission.
MY dh is a wonderful husband , he is suportive and cares a great deal about the things that I want. BUT he also thinks that its all up to him to get me things that I want. He is going to school so he can make a better liveing and I understand that but Im not sure he understands that what I need can't be bought. I need something that is just mine. I want to be proud of the person that I am. Right now I just feel sad about all the oppertunites that I waisted.
I did got to a community collage and have a general AA but I can honestly say that I got nothing out of it. I wasnt mature enough to realize how lucky I was to have parents that paid for that and I squandered it by not applying my self to anything to wasnt fun.

I want to take some english classes. MY spelling is horrible and so is my punctuation. I knew all this stuff at one time but the last 8 yrs of staying at home and reading childrens books have turned my brain to mush. Sometimes I feel like my I.Q. is droping by the day.

Dont know why I wanted to shair all this but thanks for listening.

[Holly]

There's not a thing wrong with wanting something just for you.
Best Of Luck to you

[DAAC3DEC]

DON'T PUT YOURSELF OFF, JUST DO IT AS SOON AS YOU ARE ABLE--SOMETIMES US MOMS AND WIVES GET LOST IN THE SHUFFLE MAKING EVERYONE ELSE HAPPY...........HUGS!!

[sdrjeolsen]

Good for you! I think its good to continue excercising your brain...I understand the mommy brain mush feeling

[Jaded]

I understand your plight. I have two associate degrees, and neither one of them ever got me anywhere. I've long thought of getting a BA, but with the job I'm in now, by the time I got it, I'd be in management anyway, and making good money, so I decided not to.

Still, I'm a knowledge junky, so I'm constantly online, reading, learning. See if your community college has a free literacy program that will help you with your grammar and spelling. That way, you'll get what you need, and then you can go from there to further classes of whatever you want to learn.

I'm proud of you for taking this step! Men do not understand sometimes that we have emotional as well as physical needs. I will pray for you that this leads you to where you want to be.

[Dancing Lotus]

I dont know that a literay progarm is what I need, I just need to brush up my skills. I can read just fine , infact I read daily. As a child I was always above grade level I just havent used my brain for the last 8 yrs and its a little rusty.LOL

I could be wrong but I think that any free literacy program would be to teach adults how to read. Myabe I misunderstood you.

[coltsmama]

Good for you! Most wives and mothers are guilty of putting anything but there most basic needs aside for the (sake) of the family. Including myself. I hope you are able to find what will make you happiest.

[cab54]

Think how great it is that when you say you want something for yourself, it is not some silly bauble or 'stuff' but an education!! I think that is terrific! It is true, we lose so much of our former education while staying home with kids and getting little or no reading done. GOOD for you!!

[frugalfriend]

Good for you Ann! I'm sure you will really enjoy it! I love English and language and spelling (all of it!) and have always read tons! In the meantime, try stepping up reading books you are interested in (along with reading to your kids). Reading helps so much in learning better punctuation and spelling and is enjoyable at the same time.

[latierra84]

i know the feeling (about IQ dropping almost on a daily basis). i feel like i used to be so knowledgeable about history and current events and politics and now... i honestly feel like i have no idea whats going on in the world around me (current events.. ect). sometimes we do things with dh's co-workers/friends and i feel like i have nothing to bring to the conversation. most of these people are older than me and i know that that has alot to do with it (in my situation). whenever the folks we're with are my age or close to it, i have no problem making conversation. but when they're older or i know that they've got advanced degrees, i start to doubt the things that i say and i just sit there and dont say anything instead of joining in on the conversation.

good for you for deciding to go back to school. im sure that your dh has good intentions wanting to finish himself and feel like he's taking care of you. but this is more than just getting a degree or title. there are feelings of self worth involved. YOU GO FOR IT!

[Michelle68]

Go for it, Ann! I think that's a wonderful idea.


--Michelle

[Mom23boys]

I think it is great that you are going to take the time to do something just for you! Good luck with school!

[pip]

I wish you the best.

[Mamaw]

My 2 cents:
First, let me say that any education you receive has great value even if you never," do anything with it" I went back to school, taking two or three classes each term, while working full time. My DH and his family all thought it was a waste since I was working at " a good job" already. I tried repeatedly to explain that their definition of a good job and mine were not the same. I also stressed how important being educated made me feel and how much I loved sitting in a classroom, listening and learning. Exchanging new ideas. Thinking of things in a different way....It was a waste of my breathe. The family has never really understood in the least. DH, while not really understanding, at least supports my goals just because he knows it makes me happy. I have been called a professional student and also a money waster ( due to fees, books, etc) All the same, I do not regret a single class that I have taken and I will probably take more in the future. There is just too much to learn to ever, ever stop. So my dear....get your fanny in gear and go for it! Learning is the best thing in the world. Have fun, enjoy, kick butt and go back to school.....OK...now stepping down from the soapbox....