Why don't people RSVP? Rant of the day....

**Daisygirl** · 09-27-2007, 05:34 AM

I am so irritated. I sent out a lot of invitations to Rachel's party this weekend. Today is Thursday and as of this moment I have only heard back from 6 people out of 20 invites. What's up with that?

So today I am sending Rachel to school with instructions to get her friends phone numbers and I must proceed to "telemarket" the other parents. I imagine it will go something like this.

"Hi, this is Karen, Rachel's mom."
dead silence while the parent processes who the heck Rachel is and why her mom might be calling
"I'm just calling to follow up on the invitation that Rachel sent to your daughter to her party this weekend. We really hope to be able to expect (fill in the name)"
"Oh, ummm, I never got that, um, WHO are you again?"

Deep sigh. Do the kids really not pass these things on, or do the parents just have no manners? My kids get an invitation and I can hardly get through the front door pass the kangaroo that used to be my child bouncing in front of me with a little envelope!

**baxjul** · 09-27-2007, 06:49 AM

The parents have no manners!

Last year I gave out 11 invitations to dd's birthday slumber party. Only 2 RSVP'd. Luckily, I went with the idea that all would come, and got the goodie bags, etc. because they all showed up. A couple of them called that morning to say they were coming!! Good luck!

**pita1213** · 09-27-2007, 07:31 AM

yes i'd have to say it's the parents. i always call and let the parent know if dks are going to be able to attend. half the time i have to get directions anyway so it kills 2 birds with one stone. but its rude not to rsvp. if seen rsvp by dates on some of the invitations and always try to rsvp before then.

**Laurie in Bradenton** · 09-27-2007, 08:11 AM

Its both faults. Kids do have a tendancy to bury things in their backpacks but most do remember if asked, "Anything for me to know about?"
We host 4 parites a year and I almost NEVER get any RSVP's. Our 3 garden parites get maybe 10 folks call or catch me at the dance club but the other 90 I call and check with. For our Christmas party I don't worry about it. We always have enought food and the White Elelphant Ornament exchange I always buy 2 or 3 extra for anyway. Since I've learned the hardway about not calling I make sure I call and have taught DD the same.

Laurie in Bradenton

**mom21ofeach** · 09-27-2007, 08:27 AM

I feel your pain! I mail the invitations because it is against school policy to hand out invitations to a party unless every child in the class is invited. Even with mailing, the RSVP rate is low. I wait until about 2 days before the party and call. I say something like, "I'm trying to get an accurate count for food and prizes. Is Sally going to be able to make it on Saturday?"

Good luck!

**Dancing Lotus** · 09-27-2007, 08:34 AM

I cant understand why people are so rude. I never get RSVP's back and yet all the invited personal show up!

**genesisgirl** · 09-27-2007, 08:44 AM

I just assumed it was because most people don't know what RSVP stands for.

Sometimes people are just plain thoughtless, though.

**DAAC3DEC** · 09-27-2007, 09:53 AM

I HAVE TO AGREE THAT IT IS THE KIDS AND THE ENDLESS BACKPACK, BUT EVEN ADULTS (AND EVEN FAMILY) ARE RUDE AND MANNERLESS, RECENTLY HAD ONLY 2 FROM MORE THAN 30 INVITES RSVP!!!! AND ABOUT HALF WERE FAMILY!!!! IT IS A COMMON COURTESY THAT NO ONE DOES!!!

**monkeywrangler71** · 09-27-2007, 10:09 AM

My daughter has never given me the invitations. I usually find out about parties about an hour before they start. On the rare occasion when I know about it ahead of time, the invitation has already been lost so I just ask her to tell her friend that she will be going since I don't have the phone number to call.

**Jaded** · 09-27-2007, 11:34 AM

I used to unload my sons' backpacks every day to see what was stuffed in there. Even shook out the books. LOL

You wouldn't believe the stuff I found! Yes, people are rude, but seriously, kids do forget to tell parents stuff. I had a mother call me once to invite my son to a party, but she didn't really want him to come. She wanted an "all girl" party (her daughter was 5), and her daughter INSISTED that my DS come to it! In fact, ALL the little girls insisted. She called, but made it clear she thought her daughter was "too young" for a mixed party. I thought that was HILARIOUS! Anyway, I politely declined, figuring that I didn't want my son to feel unwanted at the party, but it was so funny!

**leezza** · 09-27-2007, 11:42 AM

Boy oh boy could I go on a rant about this subject:

RSVP
Thank you notes
Get well soon cards
Grief cards

I think a lot of people are so, "ME, me, me" that they have forgotten their manners.......I try so hard to remember and write everything down, keep a calendar.

leezza

**DAAC3DEC** · 09-27-2007, 01:01 PM

Originally Posted by monkeywrangler71

My daughter has never given me the invitations. I usually find out about parties about an hour before they start. On the rare occasion when I know about it ahead of time, the invitation has already been lost so I just ask her to tell her friend that she will be going since I don't have the phone number to call.

I STARTED A RULE, IF I DON'T RSVP THEY DON'T GO.....AMAZINGLY THEY ARE PROMPTLY SHOWN TO ME...........I DON'T LIKE IT WHEN THEY DO IT TO ME.............

**DAAC3DEC** · 09-27-2007, 01:02 PM

Originally Posted by leezza

Boy oh boy could I go on a rant about this subject:

RSVP
Thank you notes
Get well soon cards
Grief cards

I think a lot of people are so, "ME, me, me" that they have forgotten their manners.......I try so hard to remember and write everything down, keep a calendar.

leezza

I AM SO WITH YOU HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

**changed4life** · 09-27-2007, 10:32 PM

I'm fresh.
If they show up and didn't respond, I say, "Oh, I didn't expect you since I never heard from you."

Then I welcome them in and say I'm glad that they were able to make it.

I only do this with the habitual thoughtless people.

It lets them know they should be more thoughtful next time.

Rude, selfish, and self-centered people are not on my A list for sure!

**baronmom** · 09-28-2007, 07:40 AM

I will always RSVP when I get an invitation. I even sent a note along to school with my son one time to RSVP to a party that the invitation was lost. I didn't have the phone number, so I just wrote a note to "Cole's Parents" I know I hate it when people don't RSVP. I have had it happen many times. As a matter of fact, I had planned a birthday party for my youngest, and only 1 person RSVP'ed on time. Finally the day before, I got another one saying that one of the kids that couldn't come could now come. I had already canceled the party because only 1 person said they were coming. The nice thing is that the one person who said that they would come, still brought a gift to my son. I thought that was so nice of them.