Ugh! So disappointed in friend

**Cricket1** · 10-19-2007, 08:27 AM

My dh is out of town until tomorrow so I invited a few friends over from work. They're all nice and people I enjoy spending time with and chatting with at work. One is a female, the other three are males. Well--the one I'm most friendly with (the female) just bailed out on me. She's tired. Well, her kids are in school all day--take a nap!! We're planning the get together for the evening. So she's not coming and now it will be me sitting around with three guys. I'm fine with it because they are all nice and fun, but WTH???? It would be nice to have another female around. KWIM??

**Dancing Lotus** · 10-19-2007, 09:36 AM

I'd cancel but thats just me. A married woman should not be alone in her home with three men. sorry your friend let you down.

**latierra84** · 10-19-2007, 09:43 AM

geez ya i know what you mean. and now its like you dont want to cancel on them because its three people that youre friends with at work that would know if you were really sick or not and things like that.

**Dancing Lotus** · 10-19-2007, 09:47 AM

I don't think you need to make an excuse or anything. Tell them that their will be not other females at the party and you are not comfortable with that so you have decided its best to cancel. IF they truely are as nice as you say they will totaly understand and if they don't understand then they aren't the friends that you thought they were and now you know.

**carlitasway** · 10-19-2007, 10:08 AM

If you feel uncomfortable being just them and you then just say something came up. If you do feel comfortable have them over for some fun. I personally think men and women can be friends and hang out but I'm not that conservative when it comes to that stuff. Or if you still want to hang out but not at your house when they come get your things and head out somewhere. Maybe go out to eat or bowling or something.

**annymoll** · 10-19-2007, 10:19 AM

I would go ahead with my get together. Have a great time!!

**Cricket1** · 10-19-2007, 10:26 AM

I, too, think that men and women can be friends. I'm not uncomfortable with any of them, I'm just bummed that my girlfriend can't be around. It's nice to have another female's perspective. My dh knows these people and I'll tell him what's going on when he calls later. If the situation was reversed and I was away and he was having a get together and only the females he works with showed up, I would be absolutely fine with that. I know them and I would think nothing of it. I would probably get a good chuckle of his sitting around in a "sewing circle" just as, I'm sure, he would think it funny to sit around and listen to these guys talk sports.

**Dancing Lotus** · 10-19-2007, 10:41 AM

Originally Posted by Cricket1

I, too, think that men and women can be friends. I'm not uncomfortable with any of them, I'm just bummed that my girlfriend can't be around. It's nice to have another female's perspective. My dh knows these people and I'll tell him what's going on when he calls later. If the situation was reversed and I was away and he was having a get together and only the females he works with showed up, I would be absolutely fine with that. I know them and I would think nothing of it. I would probably get a good chuckle of his sitting around in a "sewing circle" just as, I'm sure, he would think it funny to sit around and listen to these guys talk sports.

I didn't say that men and women can't be friends.

It sounds like you have your answer, have your friends over and enjoy it.

**lwlynch** · 10-19-2007, 11:05 AM

Just enjoy yourself....

**Libby** · 10-19-2007, 12:34 PM

Originally Posted by Cricket1

My dh is out of town until tomorrow so I invited a few friends over from work. They're all nice and people I enjoy spending time with and chatting with at work. One is a female, the other three are males. Well--the one I'm most friendly with (the female) just bailed out on me. She's tired. Well, her kids are in school all day--take a nap!! We're planning the get together for the evening. So she's not coming and now it will be me sitting around with three guys. I'm fine with it because they are all nice and fun, but WTH???? It would be nice to have another female around. KWIM??

Though I have read the thread - I say go ahead with it and have fun. But tomorrow is Saturday so her kids are in school all day on a Saturday? In either event she had prior notice (at least a day?) so I can see why you're bummed too *hugs* Hope you have fun!

**bumplett** · 10-19-2007, 12:49 PM

I totally get what you mean - now you won't have another female brain to convince the guys when they are wrong about something!

**Cricket1** · 10-19-2007, 01:44 PM

Bumplett--LOL!!! That is EXACTLY what I mean. It will be three against one!

**vverkin925** · 10-19-2007, 01:52 PM

I have a suggestion - If you can handle adding extra people, tell the guys what happened and ask them to bring a "date". Of course, I'm assuming their dates would be women but it might be a good excuse for them to ask someone out and for you to meet a few other women!

**Viv** · 10-20-2007, 06:10 AM

If the day before you came back from a stay someplace, your DH has a quiet gathering in YOUR home, of 3 ladies from work, 'cause the man that was invited couldn't make it at the last minute...

If it doesn't change the dynamics, or your gut feelings, go ahead with it.

Maybe the guy who didn't come was having second thoughts about being surrounded by lady co-workers...( maybe he thought the conversations might include "personal" issues..)

Hope what ever you decide goes well...

Just a Grannie in Michigan

**Edna_E** · 10-22-2007, 04:37 PM

I don't think I'd have even noticed the dynamics - so I'm obviously pretty thick skinned about such things. As long as your dh does not feel threatened, I think you are fine. As far as the "3 against 1" goes, play it up and make fun out of it!