Need Cheering Up Today :(

**Libby** · 10-19-2007, 12:54 PM

Just came home for my lunchbreak - my boss said I could return a lil later then normal if need be....she wants me to calm down. Hence me coming to check out the village.

We had a conference call this am, and well let me just say it ended w/o resolution which was the whole point of the call and has left me not only feeling drained but hurt. I may be sensitive but I know when Im being shushed, pushed aside or put down. I actually got in trouble for speaking out on something only I would know about but when someone else started talking about it and started yelling at me on the matter - they were not told to shush which signals to me that there are being favourited. My own team held me back/pushed me back by not letting me speak and voice my ideas for resolution. I got sold out by my own team and I actually feel belitted or treated like a child! Watch I'll be angry for feeling like this later but for now....Im still irked - BIG TIME!

So for the rest of the afternoon, I am left feeling a lil less then wanted and of any use right now. Im the grunt work person and thats it. Speak only when spoken too.

OY! Thanks for letting me vent. I need ideas on how to cheer up so Im not so grumpy later after work or throughout the evening.

**frugalfarmwife** · 10-19-2007, 01:05 PM

Aww, hugs, I hate it when things like that happen and they happen to me often at work. I just remember what my hubby always tells me:

We work to live, not live to work.

It's only a PART of your day, it PAYS for your real life, let it slide and just keep in mind your bigger goals.

I know, it still gets your knickers in a twist tho, it does mine!

Or you can do what I do that makes me giggle, envision walking up to the boss (mines a REAL SOURPUSS) and pinching his/her cheeks and saying "awwwwwwww, whosabunnywhosabunnywhosabunny?"

Giggle, hubby told me to do this and it DOES work!

hugs,
kj

**DAAC3DEC** · 10-19-2007, 01:13 PM

I am sorry, big hugs!!! On the upside it's Friday, you won't have to see them for a couple of days......

**Drgnfly423** · 10-19-2007, 01:17 PM

I'm so sorry! Work can really make us go crazy sometimes.

I have to remind myself often that it is not my "real" life. The people I am around are not my friends...etc. I am paid to be here, I would not be here if I wasn't paid.

Usually when something like that happens to me, I try to come back with my "happy face" on. Nothing bothers bullys more than not responding.

I hope this helps...have a great afternoon and a wonderful weekend!

**frugalfriend** · 10-19-2007, 01:18 PM

Aww Shorty, I'm sorry!

I hope the rest of your day goes much better! Go back in with a smile on your face and try not to let them get you down. Try thinking of what you're going to do when you get off work ~ go do something fun tonight!

**gentledenny** · 10-19-2007, 01:19 PM

Well, is better that your team let you down then you letting your team down. YOu did your job and that is all that is required of you. Give them the best 8 hours or however many hours they pay you for and go home and be yourself and be proud of your work.

**gentledenny** · 10-19-2007, 01:20 PM

Is so easy giving advice since i havent worked since 1992.

**Rompers1** · 10-19-2007, 01:38 PM

As my husband likes to say "You can't change how people act, but you can change how you react to them."
I hope your day gets better!

**baxjul** · 10-19-2007, 01:39 PM

Awwww, I hope you are feeling better later!

**ktsmama** · 10-19-2007, 04:45 PM

I hope that the rest of your day is going better!!

**Its_Donna** · 10-19-2007, 05:20 PM

Big Hugs to you. When things happen to me at work I just start thinking of my long-term goal of retiring early..how I am living simply, being frugal and planning out the day I can go part-time or just quit and go with DH on the road. These thoughts always make me happy and relaxed as I know it won't be mucj longer...just 10 more years of the

**Libby** · 10-21-2007, 04:26 PM

Thanks for all the support everyone

My Friday afternoon actually got worse - well not as bad as what I had originally posted however Friday is my crazy day...its pretty sad, I know crap will happen so I dont even think of taking that day off. I took a longer lunch and that helped me big time to calm down. My boss is still worried about me, she called me over the weekend to make sure I was alright. I had told her on Friday evening when I was leaving to go home that I'd get over it but for the rest of that day nothing I can do but just get over it. That feeling just stuck with me.

But I had a family issue to deal with Friday night and partially on Saturday and now here I am back to my old self...trying to tidy, clean and purge!

You know that saying "If it doesn't kill you, it will only make you stronger'? I think thats the best way to describe my life in a nutshell. I seem to always be able to 'survive' a lot of crap. Go figure.

I love this village - a great sounding board, place for tips and SUPPORT!

LOVE YOU GUYS!