I really want to become a full time homemaker

**fluttermuffin** · 11-08-2007, 05:50 PM

ahh, how I would love to just give my notice at work and become a full time homemaker.... husband isn't convinced that we can make it on his income alone... *sigh*

**thriftstorequeen** · 11-08-2007, 05:57 PM

Funny how things are. I think it would be good for me to go out and work but my hubby doesn't like the idea. I do hope you can get the chance to stay at home if that's what you would like to do. I do enjoy being home and I find plenty of stuff to keep me busy.

**Drgnfly423** · 11-08-2007, 07:29 PM

I'm getting close to being a SAHW. I can't wait. DH is getting a raise in December. We will be able to reevaluate and see where we stand. From one hopefully future homemaker to another...good luck!

**starsapphire** · 11-08-2007, 08:19 PM

Ah, thats my dream too, to be a SAHW but its not gonna happen unless things change drastically money-wise. As of right now, the best I can hope/plan for is early retirement.

DH and I know a married couple, a Dr. and his wife who is a SAHW. She has got it made. Beautiful home, housekeeper, she goes out and does her own thing. And she is not happy. Blames her husband for her unhappiness. I don't get it.

**mommy4ever** · 11-08-2007, 09:40 PM

I"ve been on both sides. Being home can be very hard on a woman, if she doesn't have a circle of friends. I was a young SAHM. None of our friends had kids. I had no one. I hated it. Then I worked for a bit, and I missed my kids way too much. So I returned home. Now it's 12 years later, and I'm STILL home. I do home childcare to subsidize as we have accumulated quite a bit of debt, but I'm home. We hope that we have it down where I can eliminate the daycare and concentrate on building my own business and just having time for me. DH understands that for the last 12 years I've been on the job 24/7 and could use a break from that at least for a few months..lol

I think I'll be very lonely though, without my kids, all at school. I don't have any friends, but I guess it's an opportunity to meet some other ladies then.

**mikandmari** · 11-08-2007, 10:29 PM

Originally Posted by fluttermuffin

ahh, how I would love to just give my notice at work and become a full time homemaker.... husband isn't convinced that we can make it on his income alone... *sigh*

Do you work full time? Could you maybe switch to working a part-time job?

I work 20 hours per week. It's the best of both worlds. Although sometimes I think my husband would like me to work full-time.

**baxjul** · 11-08-2007, 10:56 PM

My dh didn't believe we could make it either, but after my hours were cut back, I was only paying for gas and childcare. We are much better off with me being home.

**monkeywrangler71** · 11-08-2007, 11:08 PM

Originally Posted by starsapphire

DH and I know a married couple, a Dr. and his wife who is a SAHW. She has got it made. Beautiful home, housekeeper, she goes out and does her own thing. And she is not happy.

Probably because she has no responsibilities anywhere. It's hard on your self-esteem if you don't feel you have a purpose.

I love being at home. I'm an introvert, so I don't feel isolated in the house and I can't believe how much money we save with me at home.

If you really want to stay home, sit down and work out how much working costs you. Include gas, parking, clothes, lunches, misc. expenses (office collections for weddings, people selling you stuff for their kids, charity drives, etc), taxes - including the tax implications for your husband if you quit, and most importantly all the frugal things you aren't doing because you're too tired from work. The actual numbers might surprise you and your husband and it may not be as impossible as it seems.

Good luck.

**pip** · 11-09-2007, 09:48 AM

It is hard on your self esteem if you don't have some responsiblities. Too much time on your hands to reflect on your own happiness/unhappiness. I've done it both ways. I'm glad that I was able to be home with my kids while they were growing up, but now that they are a bit older and not needing so much from me (well, the supervision and emotional needs of teens never seems to end), I'm finding that I need something else for me to do that will help me feel productive and worthy. Just a little something, not a full time job because there is plenty of home responsibilities that still always fall on me. I hope you can find what works for you and your family.

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 11-09-2007, 04:20 PM

I just got to shift into the role of SAHW about 2 weeks ago and I'm LOOOOOOVING it!! I'll be starting back to college in January, so it'll be a homemaker/student dual role...I'm thinking I'd like to just be a SAHW forever, though... I only have 6 more classes and I'll have an Assoc of Arts so I want to finish that up...

**IntlMom** · 11-09-2007, 05:28 PM

I love being a stay at home mom/wife. I enjoy the "simpleness" of it. I don;t mind the quiet when the older kids are at school. I had a few years of both of the boys being in school before we went to china and adopted our daughter last year.....I loved it! I got caught up on scrapbooking, did lots of bible studying, the house was always super clean, and I got really into baking. Now with our daughter being a toddler, some of that has gone by the wayside, but I am enjoying this too.......anyway, I love being home!

**Cricket1** · 11-09-2007, 09:28 PM

I currently work about 15 hours per week and I wished I worked more. I'm looking forward to next year when both of my sons are in school full time and I can work more hours. I think I would like about 25-30 hours/week. Being at home drives me crazy most days!! I'm definitely an extrovert and like to be out with people.

**fluttermuffin** · 02-11-2008, 03:27 PM

Well, hubs and I have hashed this over and come up with a plan. Effective June 1st, I'm going to cut back to a PRN status at my job. That means if they need help, I'll get a call... its up to me if I say YES or NO. I figure it won't be any troube putting in 12-24 hours a pay period. That will be plenty to cover any incidentals. We decided on June 1st so that I have chance to change my mind if I want to.

I've been working since I was 15.... full time since I was 18. I did take time off when my DD was battling cancer as a baby, but that was WAY more work than any outside job. I'll be 41 in March and would really enjoy the opportunity to be more of a housewife. Garden, learn to can, cleaner house, laundry caught up, more meals from scratch, hand crafted gifts for family....

Husband is ok as long as I'm "sure" we can financially make it. By June 1, we'll have over $3000 in savings and our credit card paid off by then...

doing the happy dance at the thought...

**momofslg** · 02-11-2008, 03:50 PM

That's great. I'm sure you will be happier at home. It's great that you can pick up some shifts if it suits your schedule. Have fun and enjoy!!!!!!!!

**momtoadiva** · 02-11-2008, 03:56 PM

Sounds like a really great plan WTG. You sound like me & we are close to the same age I want to stay home too even though both kiddos are old enough to fiend for themselves I love the simple life non of the hussle and bustle of getting up with the chickens fighting traffic and then the stress of the job. YAY for you