What Do I Get My Mom This Year?

**SammiesMammie** · 11-30-2007, 08:54 AM

Hi,
You guys are so helpful, and I have no one else to really talk to other than DH and he's no help..My Dad passed away in April of this year, and (okay I'm crying already) I bought my Mom her first Christmas card that didn't say "Merry Christmas Mom and Dad"..it only said "Mom". Was a VERY strange and sorrow-filled experience.

Not only is this her first Christmas without my Dad, their 52nd Anniversary is December 18th. I want to buy/make my Mom something truly special, but I don't know what. I thought about buying a star (a real star, like in the night sky) and having it named after my Dad, so when she is down here in Florida, and my Dad is buried in Michigan, all she has to do is look up at the stars, and she will find him...corny idea???

I am so lost trying to comfort her, and myself..that I can't think of anything. PLEASE help!!! And also, should I still send her a gift or a letter for their Anniversary?

TIA,
Phyllis

**lwlynch** · 11-30-2007, 09:48 AM

oh no, the star is sooo great.. i think that is wonderful.
my prayers are with you for your loss.

**frugalfarmwife** · 11-30-2007, 09:53 AM

I think that's a very sweet, kind, sentimental and wonderful gift to give her, she'll just have to look up and it's there for her.

Sorry for the loss of your father.

kj

**ktsmama** · 11-30-2007, 11:00 AM

Maybe you could make a small donation in memory of your father to a organization that he and your mother were involved in. That is kind of a gift that keeps giving.

Also, just for your mother, I would give a gift to encourage a hobbie or something to get her out so she will not be sitting alone and dwelling on all of the things going on.

This Nov. was the fifth year of my dad's death and it was pretty rough on me, so I know how you feel. You and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers.

**SammiesMammie** · 11-30-2007, 11:42 AM

Originally Posted by ktsmama

Maybe you could make a small donation in memory of your father to a organization that he and your mother were involved in. That is kind of a gift that keeps giving.

Also, just for your mother, I would give a gift to encourage a hobbie or something to get her out so she will not be sitting alone and dwelling on all of the things going on.

This Nov. was the fifth year of my dad's death and it was pretty rough on me, so I know how you feel. You and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers.

That's what I did for his Birthday this year...He worked for The American Red Cross for 30 years (a wonderful charity IMO) so my sisters and I sent a donation in his memory...I am also sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad..I personally didn't think that I would take my own Dad's death as hard as I am, and it seems to be getting worse, not better..maybe it's just the Holidays.

My parents were able to spend Christmas with us last year, and I was SOooooo Blessed, because in my heart, I knew it was my Dad's last Christmas.

**emily_hope** · 11-30-2007, 12:00 PM

I think the star is a very sweet idea. I also agree with ktsmama about a gift that would encourage a hobby. My Dad has been gone for 5 years and going places and having something to do has helped my DMother tremendously. I will keep you in my prayers.

**leezza** · 11-30-2007, 12:54 PM

Phyllis,

How about putting together a nice scapebook: you could add special pictures, anything you may have that was written by him, any sayings ect...

I did this for my sisters son when we lost her he was only 8 so I am keeping it until he is an adult.

But I think your mother may like something like this. My mom told me what bothers her so much is that no one will talk with her about my sister. So ask your Mom if she wants to swap stories and share things, JMHO.

leezza

PS. I am so sorry for you loss, and yep all the holidays are different.