What's allowed/not allowed on these boards?

**zenmama** · 12-31-2007, 04:07 PM

Originally Posted by changed4life

I've noticed several instances lately where questions that were posed or personal opinions that were given have caused one individual to attack another and it's been unjustified.

Isn't this an open forum where people are free to "share" their thoughts or beliefs without being judged or attacked so long as they don't single out an individual or become hurtful or mean?

And, since this is an open board regarding our financial life and people already post their personal information in their signatures, why would asking questions about such information be "nosey" if we are either trying to investigate matters for personal improvement or to help another?

Is there a forum moderator who can clarify how these boards are supposed to run and/or are the rules posted somewhere, because lately, I don't like what I see and am unsure how to involve myself here. I also feel like I'm walking on eggshells regarding getting involved in posting here.

I think some individuals take things way too personal and make life here a little uncomfortable.

If someone can point me in the direction on what's acceptable and what's not, I'd appreciate it. Thanks.

I know what you are referring to, and as I said on that particular thread, I took no offense to the question... I've also noticed tails getting ruffled alittle more in the past 2 months and chalked it up to 2 strongly opinionated members who I think enjoyed riling people up. I was disappointed in the turn of tones being used as I too consider this forum a highly respectful and truly inspirational place to exchange ideas, etc. I've also greatly enjoyed your posts. So keep going and know you're input is welcomed.

**northernmom2boys** · 12-31-2007, 04:16 PM

Originally Posted by zenmama

I know what you are referring to, and as I said on that particular thread, I took no offense to the question... I've also noticed tails getting ruffled alittle more in the past 2 months and chalked it up to 2 strongly opinionated members who I think enjoyed riling people up. I was disappointed in the turn of tones being used as I too consider this forum a highly respectful and truly inspirational place to exchange ideas, etc. I've also greatly enjoyed your posts. So keep going and know you're input is welcomed.

couldnt have said it better myself

**dolphin** · 12-31-2007, 04:57 PM

I've been a member for almost 7 years and have made a few 'faux paux's myself. Not saying you did but sometimes, the written word doesn't express our true feelings or just asking a question may set someone off.... I have also seen a few posts recently that are not quite in the spirit of how Frugal Village actually is. You're fine, just try to move on. If someone does 'flame' you, don't hesitate to let Sara, or a moderator know as soon as possible so it can go no farther.

Isn't this an open forum where people are free to "share" their thoughts or beliefs without being judged or attacked so long as they don't single out an individual or become hurtful or mean?

If you have a specific subject that you feel 'might' be controversial then it might be better to go to the Debate Forum and post it there. I rarely go to the debate forum myself because I don't like conflict of any kind online and even though people are just expressing their opinions, those opinions sometimes hurt feelings. I've had my feelings hurt enough in real life and don't want it here. Also, remember, you can choose to not read posts by certain members and you set that up in your user settings.

The main 'rules' are in the "User Terms of Agreement" that comes up when you register. I'm sorry but I couldn't find that right away but I'm sure Sara could provide it for you. It's just the normal, don't cuss, don't flame, don't be ugly to other people type of agreement.

Remember, if you have a problem, Sara is always willing to listen. She's been there for many of us for years. Bless you Sara. Changed4life you're doing fine, just hang in there and you'll see what a truely wonderful community this is. Carolyn

**changed4life** · 12-31-2007, 06:20 PM

Thanks for your responses, ladies...and Dolphin for directing me around the boards a little better. Now I know who's in charge (I'm rather new here) and wasn't sure how to contact anyone.

I think I'll use emoticons more often. They help to deptict our emotions along with the written word so we can eliminate those hurt or misunderstood feelings more often.

See you on the boards...

**Persimmon Lace** · 12-31-2007, 07:29 PM

I find you to be an honest and open person. Your drubbing over your post was, IMHO, tacky and as rude as what you were accused of. Simply pming someone with a suggestion is much better than some of the stuff that went on in that particular post. you are as entitled to your question as anyone. Hang in there and don't take it personally.

**Dancing Lotus** · 12-31-2007, 07:47 PM

Okay , so I got nosey and had to find out what you are talking about/
WOW frankly I am surprised it turned ugly. I didnt see what the problem was.

Anyways we should all feel free to say what we think without feeling like we will be attacked. But on the flip side we should be mindful of the way we say it.

**Sara Noel** · 12-31-2007, 08:25 PM

My main policy here is I don't want posts that disrupt the flow of the forums or interfere with other user's use and enjoyment of the forums. That about covers most situations that go against the rules.

I guess I better start posting more again too. Pretty soon, people won't believe I'm even a real person.

As for strong personalities...well I've got one and we all see how quiet I am. lol

Members that are here a while learn who has what beliefs and convictions and that helps.

Although some people thrive on drama, I like to think the majority of members here have the best of intentions.