single women creativity

**BetterLateThanNever** · 01-01-2008, 01:49 PM

LOL talked to one of my single girlfriends about a month ago and she was telling me this idea that she had for getting a mixer that she wanted and didn't have the $$$ to buy.

She sat down and composed an email to send to all her married friends. Basically, to paraphrase she said "Look let's face it, looks like i'm not going to ever get married and i'm not having children. So i'm never going to have a bridal shower, wedding gifts or baby shower gifts. But in the past i have given many of you numerous gifts for these occassions. There's a mixer i want that cost $200. I've sent this email out to 20 people so if each of you sends me just $10 then I can be on the receiving end for once.

Believe it or not she did get about $150 towards teh mixer. LOL I say good for her!!!!!Wish I had thought of the same.

**Ceashels** · 01-01-2008, 01:52 PM

That is very funny and I'm glad her friends were able to share $10 dollars of their wealth to give her such a gift.... as well as a good story to tell.

**lwlynch** · 01-01-2008, 02:28 PM

that was sooo good..

**latierra84** · 01-01-2008, 02:52 PM

good for her!

**starsapphire** · 01-01-2008, 02:56 PM

I have a dear friend who used to live here but moved to a big city 3 hours away to attend university a couple years ago. She is single and in her 50's and lives on disability. She is an art major and had an opportunity to go to Paris for a semester this spring to study abroad but was a few thousand $$'s shy of being able to do it. In September she mailed out (snail mail) a very thoughtfully written out letter to all friends and relatives saying basically "Heres what I want to do, here's how much money I have for it, and here's how much more I need. I love you if you don't send money, I love you if you do, and it won't change anything between us if you don't send money."

She's received $1700 so far

But her plans have changed a bit, so she sent another letter which we received on Xmas eve saying (basically) "My plans have changed some, thank you so much for all donations so far but I have to postpone until Spring 2009 when I will be going to Italy instead (which she said is even better than Paris), this will give me the opportunity to create and sell artwork to come up with the rest of the money that I need. I also have to move to (a smaller town an hour away from me, yay!) So write me back and let me know if you want me to return your donation, or what you would like me to do with it."

She is a wonderful person and my best friend, and I really wanted to send her some money but the timing was bad since DH was getting ready to have surgery and we weren't sure how our money situation was going to be with him off work for 3 months. But now that she's postponed, that gives me the opportunity to send her some money later this year for her trip which I am happy to do.

**Ebbie** · 01-01-2008, 03:17 PM

I'm single, in my 40s and so is my sister. That's one of our minor gripes...that we give so much for everyone else's "life events" but won't be on the receiving end because we likely won't marry or have children. Even if you think of all the stuff we buy for our brothers and sisters children...birthdays, graduation, xmas...it goes on and on. The reciprocity is just really out of whack when you're single.

Another example...my grandmother used to give quilts to her grandchildren when they got married. Of course, no quilts for us! It wasn't until she died that her remaining stash of quilts were divvied up and we finally got one.