Need suggestions please

[FrugalWitch]

My DH and I will having our 5th wedding anniversary on Jan 27th. I need suggestions on how to celebrate but this is our situation:

1. DH has to work that night. Calling in is not an option.

2. My Momma is totally bedridden, we have absolutely no-one who will come sit with her to give us a break. Whatever we do will have to be done here, (sigh)

3. Having wild and woolly nookie at my Momma's is just psychologically impossible for me. My stepfather sexually abused me for 10 years and this house just holds miserable memories for me. (DH is doing his best to be understanding about the situation, we very rarely have $ex since having to move in with Momma...but I can't relax and enjoy it here sorry if TMI)



DH does want to grill out on the Tuesday after our anniversary, but I really wanted to do something on the actual day KWIM?

Any suggestions?

[Ceashels]

Are you able to check with your local hospital/hospice/adult day care center for a night of respite care? When my father had ALS it was offered as an option for long term care givers thru the support meetings my Mom and I attended. AARP may be a good resource for finding things like that as well.

There may also be a nurse or nurses aid that are willing to help out now and then. Is there any place where you can advertise for someone to provide a few hours of evening care?

[FrugalWitch]

Thanks for the reply and suggestions. We can't afford to pay anyone right now. We should be getting a grant in late Feb or early March that will pay for some respite care.