? #4 for the 14th what makes your partner you soul mate?

[momtoadiva]

Today's question (oh and ladies thanks for the post I have throughly enjoyed reading each of your post to each of my ?'s it's been fun).

Is your mate your soul mate and why?


I'm not sure about soul mates anymore since my ex totally destroyed that part of me but I do know I love my Dbf soooo much.
He treats me like a queen
If I want to be frugal he's on board (as much as he can be, this isn't a lifestyle he's accustom to but he's trying though falls off the banwagon here and there) but If I want an expensive purse he makes a way for me to buy it, I wanted this house he said buy it.
He treats my kids like they were his own and refers to them as our dd or ds.
He's a romantic
He's kind
He pampers me
He takes care of me
He spoils me
He treats me like a lady (insisting to open doors for me etc)
He's truly concered about my well being in everyway
He watches horror movies and chick flicks with me even though their not his bag
He tells me I'm sexy and smart
He misses me when he's on the road and gets homesick
He never complains about my cooking or even sometimes the lack of it
He's supportive in everything I believe in

My thought on this question is maybe after posting we could write a few of these down and give them to our better half on Valentine's day or use them in a love note and let them really know what they mean to us and how they make us feel.

[Michelle68]

I'm not sure about soul mate, but my DH is absolutely my best friend. Our 18th anniversary was on Feb 10th and I still love being with him. He loves our kids. He treats me wonderfully and is sweet, funny, gentle and loving. He is a truly good man and is totally on board with me in frugality and for our financial goals. Not only that, he is totally supportive of me and he tells me I'm the smartest person he knows. (Obviously hasn't met many people. )He tells me I'm the sexiest woman alive, even though I know he must be totally blind and/or delusional. He's a great guy and I know I'm very lucky to have him.

BTW, Tammy--it sounds like your DBF is a keeper.

--Michelle

[Cricket1]

I don't believe in soul mates, BUT my dh rocks. He's my best friend and there are many awesome things about him. One of the best things (and this is going to sound so UNromantic and UNcouple-like) about our relationship is that we give each other space. Neither of us are the jealous type. We totally trust each other and allow each other to have our own interests. We like spending time together, also, don't get me wrong. But sometimes it's just wonderful to be able to get your own space and not have to explain it.

[Jskell911]

DH is my White Knight. He really is. Not sure if it's anything I can put into words. He is certainly not perfect, but he is my best friend. He not only knows me, but actually understands all my quirky ways. And loves me all the more for them.

[FrugalMomof3]

HD is not my soul mate, I see that now, wish I had seen this years before. I wish I could say he is and oh how I thought he was but I can say however he has provided for me and my family well and I thank him for that.

You ladies with your knight and shining armor, God Bless you, I envy you.

[stinkbug]

I absolutely believe in soul mates, and I was lucky enough to find mine. Actually, it's more like the missing piece to my puzzle....and vice versa. It's hard to explain to others.....I just know that I love waking up with him each morning and can't wait to see him walk through the door every night. It's been this way from day one.

[kittykatstrong]

I love my DH. When we go out for dates(not very often, but when we do) I get butterflies in my stomach. Or I will be sitting across from him at dinner and look across the table and my heart will swell with love. When I see him act great with the kids I fall in love with him all over again.

Life here is not a bunch of hearts and rainbows. We disagree sometimes but for the most part we are happy.

[mikandmari]

I was so lucky to meet my soul mate when I was just 18, and he was 22. On our first date he made me laugh. We've been laughing ever since!

[jamie79]

I dont believe in soul mates. Dh is my best friend. On Sunday is our wedding anniversary and we have been thru alot in the last 22 yrs. He works hard and everything he does is for me and the boys

[suki]

Hubby and I first met when we were 5 years old at a community Easter egg hunt. For years, I wondered what happened to the kind little boy who, when he saw a big bully kid running up and grabbing eggs just as I was reaching for them, came over and helped me find eggs and stood guard while I reached for them.

I also had childhood memories of going to play at a boy's house one day while our parents were doing farm work. He was kind and it made quite an impression because even into adulthood I'd look down the road where I knew the house was and puzzle over what ever happened to that kid.

My hubby and I were great friends all throughout our school years. We rode the same school bus. He had a crush on me in Jr. High and I almost let him kiss me at the fair, but chickened out for fear of damaging our friendship.

We both moved off to college, I married and had 2 kids. Then, I divorced. After my divorce, I woke up one morning having had a vivid dream about hubby. I became a little concerned because I hadn't seen nor heard from him in years and couldn't figure out why he appeared in my dream. So, I called his parents and tracked him down. We talked for hours.

Without talking again, we both moved back to our hometown for different reasons within a month of one another. We ran into each other at my brother's house, helping him with constructing his log home and got in trouble for talking more than working.

It wasn't until we started dating and reminiscing that I discovered he was both the little boy who helped me at the Easter egg hunt and the little boy whose house I stayed at once (I recognized the kitchen as soon as I walked into his mother's house and knew it was him).

Considering he's haunted me my entire life... I'd say he's my soul-mate.

I love everything about him... mostly that he puts up with me and he's been a really great dad to my daughters. He's more frugal than I am, but always tender. For Valentine's Day this year he gave me Gerber Daisies... they aren't blooming yet. He started the seeds recently and they are just germinating. He says they are difficult to grow but he hopes I will enjoy them for many months. Now, how sweet is that! That's just a small example. He really is quite thoughtful.

Things are tough for us right now. He has an as yet undiagnosed neurological problem that the docs believe is either MS or ALS or something rare. Even with his pain and difficulties, he's my partner and we face things together. He supports me and stands beside me... I could ask for nothing more.

[forHISglory]

I'm not physically beautiful and I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer. But that must be our little secret because Hubby tells me I am perfect! I had low self esteem before meeting him. Don't get me wrong; I had a good life and had accomplished some goals and dreams. But I was always comparing myself to others, and I always came up short. It took someone who loved me unconditionally to teach me that I was worthy just as I was. He opened my heart and taught me to love.

Why do I love him?
-He's funny and clever.
-He's hardworking.
-He's responsible and stable.
-He's a good provider.
-He's well respected in his career, and in our neighborhood.
-He's a good daddy and grandpa.
-He treats my parents like his own.
-He's always ready to help.
-He shares my dreams (and I share his)
-He writes little notes to me on the bathroom mirror
-He lets me smell the new can of coffee first.
-He keeps cars, truck, house, etc. well maintained.
-He tidys up and takes out the garbage.
-He takes me out to Chinese even when he wants Ponderosa
-He gives me backrubs even when arthritis is hurting his hands.

Hubby is my best friend, and I just thank God for putting us together all these years.

[Hannahs mom]

In the case of my DH and I, we are more the opposites that fell in love. He likes oldies, I like new music. He likes meat and potatoes. I like Italian. He likes to stay up late,I'm in bed by 9:00. I'm somewhat sylish, he's not. He's got a temper, I'm passive agressive. I like to read, he hasn't read a book since hs. I'm romantic, he just doesn't think like that. Even though we are soooo different, we are really best friends. We been together for 9 years, married for 8.

[pammy]

I really feel my hubby was the missing piece of me. And we both knew it the second we looked into each others eyes when we were set up on a blind date. We were set up because both of our friends said the other was perfect for us. They were right. Here is why he's perfect for me:

-He makes me laugh. So much sometimes my sides are hurting and tears are rolling. He's a big goof, funny all the time. I'm the serious one, so I keep him grounded. Pefect together.
-He's beautiful. He tells me I'm beautiful and sings songs about it, I think he's nuts. He causes heads to turn and girls to flirt but never notices cause he only has eyes for me.
-Even though my daughter is not his, she became his when dd was 12. He's been more of a father to her than I could have ever imagined and she loves him totally, calls him dad.
-He would die for us, of that I have no doubt.
-He's my best friend and we have a blast together. People wonder why we don't 'go out' all the time. It's 'cause we have so much fun on our own we don't need others to fill a void.
-He's the hardest working man I've ever met.
-Because I've always had my daddy up on a pedastal, I said I would never marry again, unless that person was up there with my dad (which was saying a lot). Lo and behold, there he was.
-He puts up and gets a kick out of my quirks.
-He allows me to do whatever frugal things I want and happily contributes.
-He thinks he's the luckiest man alive because his wife isn't materialistic, lol. He found this out shopping for a wedding ring, which I insisted be small, plain, and able to wear well (ie. no honker thing sticking up that I could use as a weapon on my finger, no siree).
-My family loves him dearly. Sometimes I think more than me, lol.
-He's just a great guy. He's always taking up for the little guy that's getting picked on. Even in old days if that meant getting jumped by 8 people to defend the little guy and beaten to a pulp, didn't matter. He won't allow someone bullying the weaker, no matter what. I respect that.
-He thinks he can't do anything but I think he can do anything. He's proven it time and again.

I could go on and on...

[thriftstorequeen]

We complete each other! The areas where he is strong I am weak and in the ones where he needs help, I fill in. We have grown closer together every passing year. We love being together! We do things apart from each other to help keep thing interesing. He misses me when we are apart as I do him. He had a health scare this past month(everything is fine,PTL) and I found myself wondering how I could ever go on without him. He treats me like a queen and I treat him like a king. He says he fell in love with me when I was a little girl in the 5th grade. I had a crush on his cousin. He says he never had the nerve to ask me out. We were later fixed-up on a blind date when I was just about 16 and he was almost 19. We've been together ever since. He is the BEST!!!

[momtoadiva]

Love'm girls I do...Suki you had my eyes tearing up and ForHisGlory "he lets me smell the new can of coffee first" rofl that's too dang funny. With so much breaking up out there these stories are so great, it's so refreshing to see that there is the happily ever after YAY