I never realized how depressing valentines day is for some.....

**frugalfoster** · 02-15-2008, 12:12 AM

My dd (21) broke up with her long time bf 3 weeks ago. Today was really hard for her. Then, as I was standing in line at the bakery, I had a woman say to me, "I hate this day, it's so depressing, I'm single". She was a nice looking woman, but she was having a rough day. You know I never realized how much pressure society puts on people on valentines day. It's all about love and hearts and candy and flowers, but for those with no significant relationship it becomes about aloneness. It's sad really..............

**IntlMom** · 02-15-2008, 12:19 AM

I've been married to dh for 15 years. He has been out of town all week. No card, no chocolates, no dinner out, no flowers, no balloons, no nuthin. *sigh*
To his credit, more than a few times on the phone he said happy valentines day to me........oh well, just another day on the prarie.

**HisDaisy** · 02-15-2008, 12:44 AM

My DH is working long hours this week due to the state wrestling tournament and basketball playoffs (he is a newspaper sports reporter), I have seen very little of him today. It was kind of hard. He gave my flowers, chocolate, a stuffed animal, and a card. I like the stuff, but I would have preferred him. He said that we would do something when work slows done, but it never seems to.
I know this is bad, but everytime a local team looses in the playoffs, I cheer. It means one less thing to pull my DH away from home.

**bluebird728** · 02-15-2008, 01:30 AM

I was widowed last year. Nuff said.

**wulong32** · 02-15-2008, 01:53 AM

Originally Posted by HisDaisy

He said that we would do something when work slows done, but it never seems to.
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Im in the same boat your in.

**joyofsix** · 02-15-2008, 06:48 AM

Am I the only woman who thinks Valentine's day is stupid? (I of course married a man who wants me to do something). Really, I would rather he do something for no reason than because it's some pre-determined day. And I'm just not into romantic, gooshy stuff. He did get me a carpet cleaner one year, I loved that. I must have been out of the room when they passed out feminine personalities. Sorry it's rough for others..

Jo · 02-15-2008, 07:07 AM

Originally Posted by bluebird728

I was widowed last year. Nuff said.

Oh, I'm so sorry...it must have been a hard day for you.

I really do hate it, as a single...and I remember it being REALLY hard during those emotional teenaged years. What woman doesn't love flowers, being made to feel special and loved....and it's such a cruel reminder that no one feels that way about you.

**jamie79** · 02-15-2008, 07:26 AM

Try being a military spouse when you can spend alot of holidays and other days away from your spouse. If they are home thats good enough

**PrairieRose** · 02-15-2008, 08:46 AM

Originally Posted by jamie79

Try being a military spouse when you can spend alot of holidays and other days away from your spouse. If they are home thats good enough

I've thought about that a lot and I'm sure you're right Jaimie.

**McD** · 02-15-2008, 09:17 AM

It was a rough day for me. Zac is in Iraq and I was pretty upset. It was a harder holiday to be apart than I thought it would be. I didn't want the commerialized stuff...I don't need flowers or chocolates or stuffed animals. All I wanted was a hug and a kiss. That's it. Just one hug, one kiss.

Talking to him on the phone, chatting on email, and him sending flowers made it better though.

**i.m.cheap** · 02-15-2008, 09:54 AM

Originally Posted by joyofsix

Am I the only woman who thinks Valentine's day is stupid? (I of course married a man who wants me to do something). Really, I would rather he do something for no reason than because it's some pre-determined day. And I'm just not into romantic, gooshy stuff. He did get me a carpet cleaner one year, I loved that. I must have been out of the room when they passed out feminine personalities. Sorry it's rough for others..

No you are not. I feel pretty much the same way. For all those missing their spouses, though, I feel the greatest sympathy.

**Daisygirl** · 02-15-2008, 10:23 AM

Some years are harder than others. I just try and focus all the love I have for my little girls. I had a little twige of loneliness but sometimes I am just so glad not to be with someone I DON'T love that it is just another day for me.

For all of you that are missing special people yesterday, I am so sorry. It must be rough.

**emily_hope** · 02-15-2008, 11:00 AM

My DH always remembers to do something special for me on Valentine's Day, but I know so many people who are alone and feel unloved and don't really have anyone to celebrate with. And then I know some who have loved ones, but their loved ones do absolutely nothing and it makes them so sad. Others, still, would really like to be able to do something really special like sending flowers, but can not afford it and it makes them feel bad. I think it is a very sad day and it would not bother me one bit if it was erased from the calendar.

**stinkbug** · 02-15-2008, 02:07 PM

Well, my dh and I don't *do* Valentine's day. We try to treat each other special and respectfully every day. He came home and told me about all the pathetic men and women clamered around the cards and flowers, jewelry, etc....ugh. So, I've been really sick with a sinus infection and he's been out of town. He stopped and got my RX, made me dinner (rice and hot milk because my stomach was yucky) and tucked me into bed and kept bringing me cold clothes for my head till I fell asleep. Some people wouldn't call that romantic...but I call it love.

**Holly** · 02-15-2008, 04:57 PM

I guess I'm the odd woman out then because I love Valentines Day.
We don't have a lot of money but he got me a new DVD and I made him an extra special breakfast. Got him candy.
I think its great that theres one day
devoted to Love .
Theres so much hate in the world I think its great.