Worry

[fernykins]

Subject: Worry!



> HOW TRUE!!!
>
>
>
> Is there a magic cutoff period when
> offspring become accountable for their own
> actions? Is there a wonderful moment when
> parents can become detached spectators in
> the lives of their children and shrug, 'It's
> their life,' and feel nothing?
>
> When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital
> corridor waiting for doctors to put a few
> stitches in my son's head. I asked, 'When do
> you stop worrying?' The nurse said,
'When they get out of the accident stage.' My
> mother just smiled faintly and said nothing.
>
> When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little
> chair in a classroom and heard how one of my
> children talked incessantly, disrupted the class,
> and was headed for a career making
> license plates. As if to read my mind , a teacher said, 'Don't worry, they all go t hrough
> this stage and then you can sit back, relax and
> enjoy them.' My mother just smiled
> faintly and said nothing.
>
>
> When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime
> waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come home, the front door to open. A friend said,
> 'They're trying to find themselves. Do n't worry,
> in a few years, you can stop worrying. They'll be
> adults.' My mother just smiled faintly
> and said nothing.
>
> By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being
> vulne rable. I was still worrying over my
> children, but there was a new wrinkle. There
> was nothing I could do about it. My
> mother just smiled faintly and said nothing. I
> continued to anguish over their failures, be
> tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in
> their disappointments.
>
My friends said that when my kids got married I
> could stop worrying and lead my own
> life. I wanted to believe that, but I was
> haunted by my mother's warm smile and her
> occasional, 'You look pale. Are you a all right?
> Call me the minute you get home. Are
> you depressed about something?'
>
> Can it be that parents are sentenced to a
> lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another
> handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of
> human frailties and the fears of the
> unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue
> that elevates us to the highest form of life?
>
> One of my ch! ildren became quite irritable
> recently, saying to me, 'Where were you? I've
> been calling for 3 days, and no one answered I was
> worried..'
> I smiled a warm smile.
> The torch has been passed.
>
> PASS IT ON TO OTHER WONDERFUL PARENTS
> (and also to your children! . That' s the fun part)



>Fern

[emily_hope]

Such a true story. Thanks for sharing.

[Dixie]

So true!
You never stop worrying about your kids, regardless of their age.

[Marie78]

I think children worry for their parents too. When I was little I worried that something would happen to take them away from me. Now as an adult I worry about that still, but I also worry about their well being and happiness. It's the circle of love .