I'm upset regarding food basket

**mmy2grls** · 03-11-2008, 10:25 AM

I recieved a call today from a church, they got my name and number from my daughters playgroup leader. They asked me if I would be interested in an easter basket with a ham, vegetables, potatoes, and rolls.

What upsets me is that is that the playgroup leader thought I was needing this. Maybe i'm over reacting but I feel the playgroup leader should have asked before passing my name on.

I told the church I was all set with food but this lady was persistant that I take it. It would help plus I can invite my parents over for dinner for a change. I have never recieved a food basker before and kind of feel wierd about it.

**Holly** · 03-11-2008, 10:30 AM

It was a gift of Love from the preschool leader.
Except it in the spirit it was given.
Invite your parents and enjoy
Easter

**Ceashels** · 03-11-2008, 10:32 AM

I agree with Holly. It really is a gift that was given with the best intentions. It will make this holiday even more special for you and your family and what better way to use it than to share.

**suki** · 03-11-2008, 10:33 AM

When groups call around like this, one does not have time to ask if it's okay. They need an answer and a count pretty quickly. I've received those calls and had to provide names off the top of my head for them.

Plus, you likely would've denied help you could use... it's a gift, accept it graciously.

**mmy2grls** · 03-11-2008, 10:33 AM

You are right, thank you

**mombottoo** · 03-11-2008, 10:38 AM

I'll never forget when my kids school called one year to let me know we were getting a food basket for Christmas and my kids were picked to do the "Shop with a Cop" program...I was mortified!!!

But, I realized that they were trying to be kind and sucked it up and accepted their generousity. I also made a promise to myself that when I could I would help others in the same way we had been helped. Take the gift, say thank you and invite your parents to dinner.

**MirandaK** · 03-11-2008, 10:39 AM

And it's times like this that we need to remember that to people who do not live as frugally as we do...sometimes they misinterpret our situations because it is not how they would live and assume that there is need there that doesn't necessarily exist.

I can understand how you would be disconcerted by such a gesture. The girls are right...it was well intentioned.

**Hannahs mom** · 03-11-2008, 10:44 AM

My mother in law is a widow and the community she lives in gives her a big fruit and nut basket every year. She doesn't need it and felt bad about it at first, but now knows that it's just a way to show they care. I agree, take the basket, enjoy the food, and pass along some type of random kindness to someone else.

**mmy2grls** · 03-11-2008, 10:50 AM

Originally Posted by mombottoo

I'll never forget when my kids school called one year to let me know we were getting a food basket for Christmas and my kids were picked to do the "Shop with a Cop" program...I was mortified!!!

But, I realized that they were trying to be kind and sucked it up and accepted their generousity. I also made a promise to myself that when I could I would help others in the same way we had been helped. Take the gift, say thank you and invite your parents to dinner.

Mortified is exactly what I felt. I'll happily accept it. I have never had an Easter dinner at my house before, so this will be nice.

**joyofsix** · 03-11-2008, 11:17 AM

We've had people leave things anonymously on our porch. I was horrified. Did we seem that poor. Then I realized as others have said that it was intended in love and that it would be uncharitable of me to be upset. Pass on the favor to someone else.

**perSue** · 03-11-2008, 11:21 AM

i can understand how you feel about "accepting charity"... i'm kinda the same way.
but if this gives you an opportunity that you wouldn't normally have (inviting your folks for dinner), then by all means accept in...as the others said, in the spirit it was given.
i dont think they'll think you "need" help so i wouldnt worry about that.

it's a nice thing... go with it.

it doesnt happen every day!

**Ali Lee** · 03-11-2008, 11:33 AM

Accept it with a smile...how nice. ..

**Samigirl** · 03-11-2008, 11:53 AM

Originally Posted by MirandaK

And it's times like this that we need to remember that to people who do not live as frugally as we do...sometimes they misinterpret our situations because it is not how they would live and assume that there is need there that doesn't necessarily exist.

I can understand how you would be disconcerted by such a gesture. The girls are right...it was well intentioned.

Very good point Miranda. Sometimes I think others around me must think we're struggling, when in fact we do quite well. We just have different priorities.

I agree with the others...be gracious, and try not to take it to heart. It was done with the best of intentions. Pay it forward someday, and enjoy your dinner!