AWKWARD :S

[champagnium]

I work in an emergency shelter for homeless women, and a childhood friend of mine was just brought in as a client. I hadn't seen ehr in years, but I had hear she was having a hard time and was sufferering an addiction. Well I went downstairs to make a cup of coffee and when I went to go back upstairs I literally ran into her...it was so shocking..I didn't know what to say...she was embarrassed, and I was embarassed for her. We kind of chatted while going up the stairs and I said it was nice to see her and she said she was happy to see a familiar face and I directed her to her room.
I just feel really bad and kind of shaken up.

I am fully aware that it truly can happen to anyone, I just never expected someone I know to be here. It's so very sad. I just hope she's able to take advantage of the resources. It's really really bothering me tho, I feel kind of shocked and disconcerted. I'm always friendly to the ladies and look them in the eye and ask them how they are or say good morning....I don't know if talking to her like the others will embarass her more....very very awkward.

Just wanted to tell someone, and can't say anything to anyone I know because of confidentiality. Thanks for listening

[Dancing Lotus]

That would be awkward. I don't have any advice but to treat her the way you do any other person that comes into the shelter. Treat her with respect and don't act as if it makes you uncomfortable in any way. She will probably do well to know you aren't judging her.

[Jerseygirl]

I worked in a shelter and had issues running into people after they had left, when I changed jobs I actually had to interview two of them. I would treat her like everyone else. You can never go wrong with polite, professional and unless she initiates personal, I would avoid it. Good luck.

[dolphin]

I would think that talking to her like the others is the thing to do and if she feels comfortable speaking to you on another level, it would be good for both of you. You're doing a wonderful thing to help so many who need so much.

[Athena31]

Poor gal I would let her initiate things if she so chooses and just be kind if you run into her again. She may just want to be "unknown" if you know what I mean?

[MVS0122]

I work in a drug treatment center and run into this sort of situation a lot; I don't know if it ever really comes easy for me but I do the same as you did - I tell them that I'm really glad they are here and to let me know if I can help.

[champagnium]

Thanks.....when I go back Monday I will definitly be the same with her as everyone else. I am just so not wanting to make her feel any more uncomfortable. I hope she can really move forward in a postivie manner.