Advice on getting spouse on board with budgeting

**tkn4lif** · 08-06-2008, 05:28 PM

Originally Posted by Buckeye5

does he think you are a miracle worker and can make debt disappear??

Who knows! Lol. I know Im not though.

I have put everything down on paper today. I plan on sitting down with him tonight to discuss. Wish me luck!

**hippytreehugger4ever** · 08-06-2008, 07:12 PM

Originally Posted by MrsMcDowell

My dh used to be horrible about buying junk from the gas station. At the end of the month, I totalled up what he spent on all that junk--it came to 500$!!!!

I didn't get mad, stomp my feet, cuss, or scream. I waited til he came home that night and asked him what he would do with 500$ if he could spend it on whatever he wanted.

then I explained what he really did with 500$.

He has gotten WAY better.

I would have shot mine dead in the street with all of the neighbors watching and then run over him repeatedly with the car if he ever did that

**cab54** · 08-07-2008, 04:28 PM

I believe that all you can do is be an example.

**mombottoo** · 08-07-2008, 05:33 PM

Patience...lots of it!!! My hubby is never interested in the financial crap...that is until I tell him we can't afford something he wants...then all the sudden he is interested until he gets what he wants & then he's back to normal.

Sometimes both partners aren't on the same page when it comes to financial stuff. I figure for us at least since we are on the same page when it comes to investing and keeping our bills paid we are okay to a point. There are some days though that I'd like to make him do the grocery shopping, gift shopping, etc...just so he knows how much it drains the budget. Then again if I do happen to take him grocery shopping he puts stuff in the cart and I don't see it until it's being put on the belt...ugh!!!

**tkn4lif** · 08-07-2008, 08:21 PM

It got heated last night at out mini meeting, but after a while we both calmed down. In the long run I think its going to run smoother now that he understands a few things.

**Greebo** · 08-07-2008, 09:06 PM

Originally Posted by tkn4lif

It got heated last night at out mini meeting, but after a while we both calmed down. In the long run I think its going to run smoother now that he understands a few things.

That sounds positive!

**alternativelyfrugal** · 03-01-2012, 09:47 PM

Getting on board with being frugal is not the same as getting on board with budgeting.

Instead why not focus on the goal of growing your net worth every day. Paying down debt, increasing income, all the important stuff.

Focus ion the goal, not the method.