March 7- Daily accountability

[AdamantEve]

WELCOME ALL!

Our creed is simple: No Judgment, just love, support and understanding. Through mutual SUPPORT and understanding as a TEAM, we'll experience a HEALTHIER LIFE together!!


ACCOUNTABILITY to ourselves and our teammates will help each of us to acquire a healthy lifestyle. Lending SUPPORT to others will help us strengthen ourselves.

We all share such precious life stories and maybe for the first time we found a place where we can be HONEST with our feelings and how we act out with food. For most of us it is EMOTIONAL EATING that gets us every time. It has many names; COMPULSIVE EATING, RESTRICTING, BINGEING, OUT OF CONTROL EATING, NUMBING, SELF-MEDICATING, whatever you call it we struggle with food and can't figure out why it is so hard!!

Some of us here are dealing with eating disorder (ED) issues but we all find the accountability to others and ourselves a much-needed resource!!!... COMMUNICATION with each other on a regular basis will keep us strong!

Did I eat mindfully?

Did I take care of and nurture my body?

Did I practice self acceptance and avoid negative self talk?

Did I use my tools of recovery? These may include meal plans, water minimums, journaling, etc.- Whatever works for YOU.

Did I share my experience with food for the day somewhere I feel safe and nurtured? This may be here, in this forum, with a therapist, a close friend, a group such as OA, etc.- Again, whatever works for YOU.

Did I select a word, phrase, and/or quote for the day?

[AdamantEve]

Hi Elphie, I didn't get a chance to post to you last night.... I'm glad that you are recognizing when you check out during meals. Sending you hugs!

Have a nice Saturday, everyone!

I scraped by OP yesterday, it was so hard to do. I almost cracked after dinner. I feel sick and flushed and I think it's from eliminating sugar. I just feel icky. I'm going to be meditating on keeping my abstinence today. Thanks for listening!

Did I eat mindfully? Yes.

Did I take care of and nurture my body? Yes.

Did I practice self acceptance and avoid negative self talk? Yes.

Did I use my tools of recovery? These may include meal plans, water minimums, journaling, etc.- Whatever works for YOU.
Yes. Ate OP, exercised on Wii fit and posted here. Had tea between meals.

Did I share my experience with food for the day somewhere I feel safe and nurtured? This may be here, in this forum, with a therapist, a close friend, a group such as OA, etc.- Again, whatever works for YOU.
Yes, I posted here and I talked to someone on the phone.

Did I select a word, phrase, and/or quote for the day?
Keep going.... remember that thinking about eating compulsively and eating compulsively are two different things. I don't HAVE to act on the urge.

[TheRootedNomad]

Eve, Sorry to hear your feeling yucky. I hope today is easier for you.

Did I eat mindfully?Yes

Did I take care of and nurture my body?Yes. I spent extra time consciously on things like my toenails an extra conditioner for my hair and so forth. I also oiled my skin down with vitamin E oil and I can feel the difference in it still this morning. Where Elphie has posted about feeling sometimes about not deserving to eat helped me acknowledge that I generally feel like my physical self doesn't deserve taken care of as it isn't what I want it to be. Which leads me to.....

Did I practice self acceptance and avoid negative self talk?
thanking my body for everything it has done for me even with the abuse and neglect I dish out. I made a promise to try to do better and look at things from that perspective. I would never willingly let my own kids go all day with nothing to eat nor would I let thier day be filled with binge after binge of sweets, yet I've been known in the past to do that to myself. I am going to start looking at things from a neglectful or not neglectful perspective I think, and see what happens.

Did I use my tools of recovery? These may include meal plans, water minimums, journaling, etc.- Whatever works for YOU.I did a very short bit of mirror work, I also did some meditation that I found helpful.

Did I share my experience with food for the day somewhere I feel safe and nurtured? This may be here, in this forum, with a therapist, a close friend, a group such as OA, etc.- Again, whatever works for YOU. Only here, but again here is helping tremendously.

Did I select a word, phrase, and/or quote for the day? no

[Patty A]

TheRootedNomad,
"thanking my body for everything it has done for me even with the abuse and neglect I dish out. I made a promise to try to do better and look at things from that perspective." and "I am going to start looking at things from a neglectful or not neglectful perspective I think, and see what happens."
THANKS so much! This is two things I haven't even thought of.
I plan on writing these down and looking at them often as I think these would make it easier for me to look at this way also. I know I often feel my body has betrayed me, and if I would look at it from the angle of what it has done for me instead of what it has done TO me that it would help me feel better about many things. I also hadn't thought at all about neglect, I would never dream of having a family member neglect themselves the way I neglect me.......
I can't begin to tell you how much your words struck me this morning, I guess it was what I needed to hear!
Thanks for sharing!

[elphie]

Eve, I hope you are feeling better, I like your quote for the day because sometimes all we can do is keep going. And how do you like Wii Fit? We are thinking of getting it with our tax return (ds already has a Wii so we just need the board and game) but I was scared off by the idea of it displaying my weight, calling me obese, and making my mii fat. Are these issues for you that make you not want to step on the board some days?

GG- I'm so glad you are realizing that you deserve the same care that you offer to others. This can be so hard because we, as women, are not generally taught to think like this. In our society "good" wives and mothers sacrifice themselves- I'm glad you are seeing past that. I also like that you are thanking your body for all it does. I haven't done this a very long time and I needed the reminder, thanks.

Did I eat mindfully?

I realized yesterday that it is really going to take some time and concentrated effort on my part for me to pay attention to my food. Like Eve, my mind wanders even when I don't actively try to do something else. Perhaps it is my ADHD or perhaps it is just years of unconcious eating but it feels very unnatural to concentrate soley on my eating. I'm going to keep working on it though.

Did I take care of and nurture my body?

I got plenty of sleep, spent some time in the glourious weather but did not have time for a walk.

Did I practice self acceptance and avoid negative self talk?

I caught myself critiquing the roundness of my face... not its natural shape but a shape induced by weight so I am having to learn, through my mirror work, to accept this new shape... again, it feels unnatural but I'll keep working on it.

Did I use my tools of recovery? These may include meal plans, water minimums, journaling, etc.- Whatever works for YOU.

I was very busy yesterday and managed to push myself to the side. Progress, not perfection.

Did I share my experience with food for the day somewhere I feel safe and nurtured? This may be here, in this forum, with a therapist, a close friend, a group such as OA, etc.- Again, whatever works for YOU.

here

Did I select a word, phrase, and/or quote for the day?

Surrender is my current mantra but I didn't rely on it much yesterday.

[AdamantEve]

GG~ Thanks for the encouragement I'm glad that you did something nice for yourself yesterday! Keep going...


Hi Elphie~ Yes I like the wii fit, but yes it does weigh you when you do a body check in (although I think you can skip this step and I am actually going to try this out today to let you know if you CAN skip it). It does make your mii fat- tell you if you are overweight/obese according to it's measurements. If that is something that triggers you, i might second think it. I will definitely check into the body scan thing first. That part isn't a trigger for me. In the UK, it weighs in "stones" instead of "pounds" and my math skills aren't quick enough to figure it out (and that helps)... when it fattens up my mii, etc... well i can let that go for some reason too. I think there are ways to lock the body information part too, with a password, so... let me check all of that out and see what happens. i'll report back to you.

Today's messages made me think of something that my T used to say to me when I was getting treatment... that was "what would it look like if you treated yourself the way you treated all of your friends and family? your nieces and nephews?" That really struck a chord for me... and I remember how I started slowly treating myself better, letting others in more and finding happiness again. The effects are cumulative, right? i've had a little backslide in the last year, but i'm not waiting until i fall all the way down before i pick myself back up this time. i believe THAT- for me- is progress.

Sending big hugs all around.