No longer will I ....

**homesteadmamma** · 10-06-2005, 11:08 AM

Lay blame on others/other things for my weight.

I don't blame it as generic just because my great granny, my grandmother (on both sides) and my bother were/are overweight. It's not generic!!!

No longer do I blame dh because he picks up a Pepsi for me everytime I say I'm not drinking Pepsi anymore. It's not his fault!!

No longer do I blame friends for asking me out to eat at restaurants or taking me for dessert (you know the chocolate kind). It is not their fault.

No longer do I blame the fast food restaurants. It is not their fault.

No longer do I blame the cost of fruit or veggies being high. It isn't their fault.

I'm taking ownership of my weight problem. It's because I like to eat and eat the wrong things. It's because I spent the $$ on Pepsi and junk food that I didn't always purchase the fruits and veggies I should have. It's because whenever dh brought the Pepsi home, rather than saying NO, I'd take it and then go out and get more. It isn't the fast food restaurants fault - all I had to do was say "were not eating there". It isn't friends fault - I could have had a nice salad instead or a fruit salad.

It's so easy to blame others, generics or costs when we are overweight rather than taking ownership and saying it's our fault. It is the consequences of overeating in most cases - (other than those having to take medications that cause the weight increase or have an illness that does), along with the consequences of not excersising. For me, I'd rather be sitting in front of the computer than walking or biking. I'd rather be quilting that lifting weights.

It's difficult to take ownership, however it's given me the incredible feeling of being "free" in my LFL program. Now instead of blaming others/other things when I eat something I shouldn't, I take responsibility for it. Am I where I want to be in this, not 100% however I'm a whole lot closer than I ever was before. There is still one thing I blame my weight gain on - it has been the hardest to say "it's not because of that". It is coming though and I can't wait until I can say I'm no longer blaming this one issue either.

Over the past couple months, this has been a real journey for me to come to the place where I'm at in regards to taking full responsibility for my weight.

Ladies I'm finally getting this whole weight thing!!!! Will I have failures, of course I will. Just like frugality we all fall off the wagon every now and then. Now though when I've had a bad day or over ate, I get right back up and back on the program. It sure does feel good.