Insecurity, anyone deal with it sometimes

**Palooka** · 07-20-2007, 10:30 PM

Not sure where to post this, but a mod can move it.

I can't believe the older I get, the more I am conscience and "worried" about what people think about me.

If anything I am just myself. For instance, there was a certain place I was involved in and I started to think that the people did not like me. I withdrew myself.

But then I found out that they missed me more than I would think and I also did not realize how much they did accept me. I just never saw it.

I just feel like a dumb butt sometimes. One hurt word against me and I just want to give up. I just never saw the whole outcome though. You know that that one person words can make you give up but there is more people that do like you. Hmmm, I could go on, but I will leave it at that.

Anyone want to share, bular.

**FrugalMomof3** · 07-20-2007, 10:41 PM

I feel like that too sometimes. Sunday is my bday and I feel old, I am always looking at how my hair looks and all that fun stuff even though I stay at home sometimes all day, everyday. So I know how you feel.

Lately I feel like I am worthless, my DH doesnt love me, my family doesnt love me and as with my DH I understand why I feel like that but with my kids, I dont know. I sometimes feel my neighbors talk about me, which probably isnt true and that no one likes me so I too shy away and stay home.

**Palooka** · 07-20-2007, 11:12 PM

Frugalmomof3, you should send me a pm sometime. I have been "attracted" to your situatition (I can't spell) for sometime. I mean a connection that I know what a step parent goes through, and how they get no credit at all, no matter what they do, or how hard they try.

I found a good link on the net. If you want it, I can send it.

**Palooka** · 07-21-2007, 12:29 AM

I sometimes wonder if I should seek help. In a professional kind of way. Like how do you know? I am not trying to sound like a downer at all. Just curious.

**Its_Donna** · 07-21-2007, 07:25 AM

I started to feel that way and then also found out that I am starting menopause. ( I just turned 43 on 7/19)

...my doctor suggested I take estroven which I purchase OTC. I'm also not ashamed to say I take 20 mg. Paxil daily and I'm not sure if it's the combo of both or just the Paxil but I am so content now, so happy, don't care what others think, so relaxed and stressfree. Living a simplier life has also helped me.

I seemed to also start having problems with anxiety and any little stressful situation would cause me to crawl into my cave.

Sometimes even noise would overwhelm me....like when we are on a road trip and DH and DS want to listen to the radio a little too loud. So I say with me...it was all the hormonal changes that where/are taking place. Now my Paxil and my Estroven are my good buddies..I LUV my Estroven and Paxil

**Dancing Lotus** · 07-21-2007, 09:27 AM

Oh boy, do I know how you feel. I assume that everyone I meet doesnt like me. If I met some one and we exchange numbers or plan to meet again and then I dont hear from them I assume they didnt like me. This is really hard for me becuaese I was miss popularity in high school. I was in a moms group and stopped going becuase I thought I wasnt liked but of course that wasnt true. I have no idea were all this comes from.

**pip** · 07-21-2007, 01:39 PM

I'm going to blame it all on perimenopause. When does it end? I'm almost 48 and I'm feeling more insecure than ever. The hormones are just all over the place in my home...three teenagers, me, and hubby is in his early 50's and he's been acting strange the last several years. Man, I hope it all passes!

**i.m.cheap** · 07-21-2007, 03:41 PM

I can relate! Things have started looking up for me, though. The first thing I did was vow to start taking better care of myself, eating healthier, and taking a multi-vitamin every day. I also got a bicycle, and started getting out and riding three days a week. I have lost 25 pounds in the last three months.

Then I took the big plunge, and enrolled as a full-time college student for the fall 2007 semester. I will be a 45 year old freshman! Am I scared? You bet I am! But I think if I succeed with the classes, it will bolster my self-esteem even more. Baby steps...

I wish you much luck dealing with your own feelings.

**kallik** · 07-21-2007, 07:31 PM

I've worried about what people think about me all my life. Luckily, the older I get, the less and less I care. I too am proably going through perimenapause. I am 45 years old. I checked out a book on the subject, which I haven't read yet. Do whatever gets you feeling better about yourself.

**Palooka** · 07-21-2007, 08:57 PM

Donna - that is interesting. I deal with generized anxiety disorder. I wonder if that could be part of it. I have not been on meds for a few years though.

Maybe it is a hormonal thing. I also don't get to socialize as much as I used too. And sometimes I don't want to because I know the way I will feel. Hmmm.

**Jskell911** · 07-21-2007, 10:56 PM

Boy oh boy, can I relate! I have struggled with clinical depression and PTSS since I was a teen and now I am starting with the perimenopause (just started the estroven myself). Also, since my son was diagnosed with Asperger's it seems very likely I have that as well.

The whole "no one likes me" thing can really get me in the gut sometimes. Thank God, I have a wonderful DH, son and Mom! That's all I can say.

I just try very hard to brush off the fear of what other's are thinking about me and try to remember that I am a good person with a lot to offer and it is there perogative to like me or not, but I am not going to change.

I hope you do figure out the root of this, esp if it's a new thing for you.

**Its_Donna** · 07-22-2007, 07:28 AM

This menopause thing really BITES!!

And my DH (he is nearly 50 y/o) is suffering sympathy menopause..he has become so grouchy and negative...I'm gonna start putting Estroven in his Cherrios

**pip** · 07-22-2007, 01:23 PM

I should look a little closer at Estroven....I'm already taking a women's multivitamin, time release vit B50, evening primrose oil, iron, and St; John's Wort, all of which are helping me, I believe.