EXH won't take possible allergy seriously

[Daisygirl]

Perhaps I have mentioned this before, but if anyone failed to get the message, my EXH is a moron! Yeah, baby, if you are reading this I am talking about YOU!

I tried to have a normal conversation with him about DD7's possible allergy. He agreed that it sounded realistic. So I told him we were going to totally keep her away from it as an ingredient, particularly over the next couple of weeks while we got it out of her system.

The idiot smirked at me condescendingly. He said, "You can do that at your house if you want. Trace amounts won't hurt her, it will only make her itchy. You are going overboard like you always do."

I asked him what he would do if the doctor said she should avoid it entirely and he smirked at me again. "Whatever I want, I'm her father."

Then he suggested I was showing signs of Munchausen's by Proxy (the mental illness that causes someone to make their children sick on purpse in order to get attention for themselves - he saw it on an episode of Law and ORder, otherwise he would not know such big words) And then he slammed the door and left!

Why on earth would he want her to be exposed to something that makes her feel bad!!!!! I will raise high holy he!! about this if her test turns out that she has this allergy.

It is a good thing you don't have to have an IQ test to produce sperm, otherwise I would be childless!

[wildflowerpa]

Stupidity should be painful AND against the law. Be sure to get a report signed from the dr and take it to your attorney. That way you'll be covered.

[emily_hope]

Some people just always want to do what they want without any concern for others. My oldest DD was told by the doctor at a young age that she didn't need to be around cigarette smoke. At the time her Daddy and Step-Mom smoked. I reported what the doctor had said to them. They continued to smoke in the house, they would just go in another room and close the door... DUH. Where do you think all the smoke goes when you open the doors again?

[Lady_V]

Pfft... weren't we going to lynch him???

Get the allergy test done, have her allergy documented. Have the doctor sign copies of the results and recommendation to not have (whatever she is allergic to).

Have the doctors office send a copy to your lawyer and a copy (return receipt requested) to him. Even if you have to pay the $ to send it... have the doctors office send it and make the exh sign for it!

If TweedleDumber decides to give it to her after all that, it could be considered child endangerment. One way to get the weasle out of their lives. If he wants to give it to her, just to spite you, then obviously he doesn't have HER best interests at heart.

[mommy4ever]

OMG... munschauser by proxy?? You don't fit that description at all... what a doorknob.

Anyway, do what you can at home to eliminate the eggs at home.

Get the testing done, and as was mentioned get the results sent registered mail to your x. Talk to your lawyer about it. If he's putting threats out, doesn't care about his daughters well being, then you need to make sure the powers that be are aware of it.

And get yourself some soy powder to replace the eggs, and keep on baking 1 tbsp soy flour for each egg and a little water. No one will know the difference.

[Missy]

I am allergic to fish. At one point I was given a delicious dinner. I ate heartily and didn't give it much thought. Spaghetti is usually a safe dish. 4 hours later i was in the hospital. I needed a mcahine to breathe for me and I was ...to put it mildly, very very sick. I was going to die.

my step knew i was allergic to fish. But decided trace amounts wouldn't hurt me. So she added Worcestershire sauce to the spaghetti. Check the label...anchovies. She didn't add a gallon of it to the sauce. just a teaspoon or so. maybe a little more, maybe a little less.

trace amounts do hurt.

[Daisygirl]

My gosh, Missy. WHat a horrible story. That must have been terrifying.

I like your idea Lady V - that is exactly what I will do.

We are having some initial testing done today. Maybe it is nothing, but I will be glad to know the results, one way or the other.

[luv-my-lexi]

Pfft... weren't we going to lynch him???

WE WERE.....LETS GO DO IT NOW!!!!!! What an absolute moron....people die EVERYDAY because of food allergies.

[FrugalMomof3]

I also agree with lady_v, that is child endangerment if she IS allergic to that particular item and he doesnt keep her away from it.

What a moron is right.

[happimommi]

Good luck with the testing. I agreww with waht others have said, it is child endangerment if he continues to give her something she is allergic to. Some people have to control everything no matter the cost to others. Hang in there.

[forHISglory]

The morons are out there for sure. Years ago I read a Dear Abby (or something similar) column, where the parents wanted to know how they could give away their baby boy. Seems he was highly allergic to smoke, and the parents did not want to quit smoking, so they decided to give away the baby.

Your ex sounds somewhat like this. "I don't want to inconvenience myself, so I'll let the baby be sick." Argh!

[Cricket1]

And the idiot of the day award goes to.....

[IntlMom]

Nothing more to add....he's just a moron. Sorry you have to deal with him.

[AmeliaM]

The thing is even if this is more of a nuisance barely there allergy now it is possible for it to grow worse later.

I have a friend who is allergic to strawberries...as a kid it was just a rash but now as he's gotten older it's much worse-he actually drove past a strawberry field in bloom and couldn't fig why he was having issues breathing until he passed the farm's sign...and he loves them but can't eat them. My fiance also has allergies...and I'm very careful....one of the items I don't like anyway so it's not an issue w that one(mushrooms),but he is allergic to tomatoes(though he can eat some brands of sauce-and he has to drink milk w the meal) and banana's-he actually stopped breathing after his mom first gave it to him. He was in the hospital for days. To this day the smell makes him sick. I have a friend whose kid took after her cousin-he is allergic to gluten,eggs, and so much other stuff...it'd prob be easier to say what he isn't allergic to.

I agree I would consider it child endangerment-also get her a medical ID bracelet w her allergy put on it....heck the way he is I'd have her tatted w it(very small in basic ink) sounds odd I know,but I bet he'd want her to remove the bracelet/necklace. Tell her doctor what's going on w your ex and make sure anyplace like hospitals and doctors she goes to-anywhere that has a record on her has this new information put in her file. It may help her some day. Have her let you know if he tries to be interesting and has her take Benadryl or something for allergies....that way you can inform her doctor. Like I said though this is a mild allergy now-she may or may not get through it. It may stay mild...it is so hard to say.

[annymoll]

I would not make a fuss, until the tests came back. I would have her older sister assist her with avoiding the eggs while she is visiting, or send little snacks and foods on her diet. Once the tests came back,with results,I would go over them with him, and ask him if we could work on her diet together. If he refused, then I would exercise my legal options.He does not sound like a good man. Why in the world did you choose this man to be the father of your children?