hugs and prayers to all
mom25rn so sorry about your daughter I understand how u feel. prayers for u
thank u for all the prayers for me I am not well right now
Please continue to pray for my cousins daughter the doctor only gave her a 20% survival rate with the chemo and radaition.... so my heart is broken praying for a miracle..hugs and good night
Sounds like everyones having quite the week and today esp.
As of now Mackey will prob. have surgery on the 21st or 22nd of this month. I spoke to the specialist. He is on the internet-experienced and well known. Apparently the recovery time is 3-6 months w/ the most critical time being the first 2 months. the second possibility is a congenital defect. I just feel so sad for my baby and stressed out. $1350. is the magic number currently.
Kinda downhearted today.
Talked to Dbro during this in Kmart today while i wandered aimlessly wasting time while Mackey was getting xrayed. His wife is still mourning heavily for her dad and my Dbro is way under employed. At least the house fiasco is over. I laughed because his 13 year old has hatched into the gloomy/no one likes me stage. Don't miss that.
DD and i got into it over Dbfs' total lack of manners. Leaving the bathroom door open,ignoring any requests to use more polite language deviod of cuss words and endless discussions about baxxs. I told her i needed a break. I made an off hand comment about circus life. Apparently his mom is or was a carney? Like i'd guess that. And now I am a snob? Really? Tired just tired. You'd think when you get up specifically to drive someone to school and use your car and gas they could at least shut it? Maybe next time I will pull over on the highway and just sit there?
thinking about you all but I need sleep so comments to follow later,
Your daughter sounds like a challenge. From what I understand she has her
own apartment, vehicle, and a job.
So she abuses her car, and your budget has to fix it.
And then she abuses you verbally.
And your household has no grocery money for the month.
I would not have given up my grocery money to bail her out.
If your hubby wants to give you grief also, then let him have a go with the
budget. Use your money for what bills you have to. Put a password on your computer.
I think it's called tough love. She has to learn to stand on her own two feet.
Just say NO.
Even though my heart is aching in so many ways, I'm going to try to have a good day. I swung by my grandparents' graveside again today. The sun is shining today, and as I was driving by it's like the graveyard was calling me in to visit their plot. Today was the first time I whispered and "talked to them". There are so many things I wish I could say in person...ask my Grandma...and just hug them both. I wish I could ask my Grandma if there were ever times her heart was aching because of things my Grandpa said. (Neither of them suffered from depression, so I'm not sure how much she'd understand in the way of how my DH is acting.) How did she deal with problems? Or was life just 'perfect' for them in their marriage. I wish they weren't gone. I'm not sure if this hole in my heart will ever heal. I so want to see them again.
That being said, I'm going to continue to talk to God and try to walk/work thru it with Him. He never gives us more than we can handle. God can do all things.
So I look to Him to have a better day. I'm going to try to get some stuff (housework) done around the house. DH set out about 10 shirts for me to iron. I think he thinks I have all this time on my hands or something. :sigh: Anyways, I'm going to try to get them all ironed and start into cleaning all the bathrooms. That is my goal before he gets home on Friday. If I get anything else done above and beyond that, then that'll be a bonus.
Morning ladies. Worried about all of you who aren't posting. I woke up with a sore throat and the sniffles today. Didn't get a cold last year, looks like I will make up for it this year. Probably this crazy weather, warm one day, cold the next. I wish it would just be winter, then spring. This is crazy...
FW - Oh man, so sorry to hear about Mackey. You aren't a snob, I can't imagine someone coming to my house to use the restroom and not shut the door!
QM - You will get through it.
Ladytoydream - I hope all is well with you!
oheoh - perhaps you should go to the ER if you aren't feeling well! Prayers for your cousin's daughter.
Well, I'm on phones today, taking customer support calls. Gives me a new appreciate for the people who have to do this all the time. Luckily the phones aren't very busy today. Well, I'm going to get back at it. I hope everyone has a great day! Hugs and prayers to all...
qm hugs to u .. please take care of your self...
mom2 5rn u have the Patience of a saint... Don't it is not healthy for u.. do not let your daughter abuse you just becasue u gave birth to her does not give her that right.. as far as the boy friend geeze....
.hugs and prayers to all
I am feeling better so I am cleaning house but I am going to take my time with it...
told hubby last night that he needed to take more off of me... we will see we have had that talk before and it goes in one ear and out the other.. hugs
QM-let them fall. Heal in your own way. I still would like to tell my gram stuff and she died when i was pregnant w/ DD! I never got to tell her that this baby was ok after 2 that were not. You'll be ok in time.
Well,I got the mess w/ the college mostly straightened out. They are crediting $2650. back to my CC today. They still haven't cleaned my Ds's machine so $50. will be held back until then. Which means eventually I should get everything back. No dorm fees or computer fee. Finally,yeah! I figure it should be off the charge balance w/in another 5 days?
Also the mortgage mess is resolved. That did cost $50 in a stop payment but Oh well on that one. We are back to the correct balance.
Ran to the C.U. and dumped my bday check and CC points reward to cover the hamb and cat food I got yesterday. Really juggling lately!
Getting frazzled already trying to keep all the dogs seperate so Mackey and Yogi don't make the leg swell. Haven't made the appt. for surgery. I need a day to chill and formulate ALL my info needs,my head is swirling from yesterday.
Got sidetracked getting fur off the furniture,need to mop places so i can get the 2 new pieces in. 3 days in enough to have the neighbors talk?
Playing w/ the idea of dying the mop still. Such a nasty job when its long not to mention smelly. At least its free as i have the dye.
Heres a kind funny one (as in oh what a dork I am?). Our snow had all melted except for these few snowballs in the back corner and on the side back of the yard. Odd? So it snows and melts and they stay the same again?hmm. Then I realize I do need to get better glasses than just readers. The "snowballs" are tufts of plush batting from stuffies Yogi has snuck outside and shredded. Now I will have to set aside some time to go pick them all up.lol Duh? Dum,dum,dum,dum dum!
Going to go have a shower now while water in the tea kettle is starting to boil. Then I'll have some green tea while cleaning the ensuite bathroom.
The sun is shining which is nice. Wish it could warm and brighten my insides. :sun:
After this post I'll go take a couple Tylenols. It might help with the ache. I'm hoping DH is having a better day at work than yesterday...probably not though. But I'll keep praying for him...and me.
Thinking of all those that are ill. Think of those that have had their SI crushed the last few days. Thinking of those with job and money woes. Thinking of those with relationship woes and sending a big hug to all of you.
Things are going fine here.
Made a list of things that need to be done before his surgery. I want to be home and not running errands, so I can keep an eye on him. He will work right up to his day of surgery.
One nice thing, that happened is that his youngest son is going to take the day off and go to the hospital with us. Then he can help his dad get in his vehicle easier than our truck with 17 inch tires.
We bought some small size wood from the neighbor, so I can fill the wood burner. I don't want propane heat turned back on.
Groceries should be fine except for a last minute run for milk and bread.
He is hoping for 4 weeks down time. I am betting closer to 6. It's going to be interesting, that's for sure.
ugh grandma has invited the priest over for breakfast I am not a morning person..he is very Godly man. I really love him he is a good man... I think it in appropiate for him 2 be with 2 women in pjs ugh ugh ugh....don't feel like this....
The shower and green tea helped to lift my spirits. I got the ensuite bathroom clean....even got to washing the floor. Then did a little banking before one of the daycare kids woke up from her nap. Doing the banking reminded me that I need more no-spend days. I really want to plan better and make my goal of 12 no-spend days this month. So far today I haven't spent a dime. Nor do I plan to.
After dropping DD2 off at her Girl Guides group this evening, I plan to walk DD1 over to hers and walk the puppy at the same time. DH has been complaining that I don't walk our puppy enough and that she's not getting enough exercise. It's true, but what can you do when you care for 2 to 6 children throughout the day? :sigh: Maybe going for the walk will give me even more energy and strength.
Forgot to take my Tylenol. Sitting here just reminded me how much by back is aching.
QM- sorry about your dh emailing you like that
Hope he has a better day so you dont get the brunt of it .
i have found 5HTP can make a huge difference for me in how i deal with stress-when i dont take it the littlest things can make me upset angry depressed when i do take it those same things are just teeny bumps i glide over. Its over the counter in vitamin area and not $$ either . maybe you can sneak some into dh each day
ladytoysdream- re dd1 yes she has an apt that she choose to move in to because she cant get along and learn to take turns etc at home- lives with a friend .she has a PT job she has to pay her own rent utiities - we gave her the car in HS - ( freed me to work and to be away from her as much as possible when she was in her moods on way to and from cheer stuff ) she is not in school this semester plans to apply to colleges in fall i think but isnt 100% sure what she wants to do. did her first 2 years at community college . i have no issues with normal repairs oil changes etc when they are in college - but hers are just irresponsible .
dh is living in a cloud i said the beginning of this year i wasnt using CC anymore to cover car repairs etc we need to pull it out of budget and cut elsewhere - i guess he didnt believe me because thats what we did . and he is thinking i am just being dramatic i guess saying what it was to go for . i am handing the bills to him next month . good luck to him ! i am saying NO but she comes in at 3 am and gets in the puter i am asleep - my area is password protected the younger kids area isnt - and she would just wake them to find out the password for the non mom section . i am slowly leaning more and more to something bipolar like going on with her. i dont think tough love works with that because you cant rationalize with them , i talked to a friend today who has a biploar sister so much of what she has done sounds like DD . especially the lying and no remorse ever.
FW - snob- phish - i would be asking my dd is her BF was some sort of exibitionist or pervert leaving the bathroom door open - and my husband would have escorted him to the door if he kept cussing after being stopped to ask ( although he seems to tolerate dds abuse by ignoring it - for some reason cussing sends him over the edge )
Omamma just stay in your PJ's if you are not feeling well maybe you will get an extra blssing for your health from him a priest is just a man - maybe he studied the bible more and is doing mor of Gods work than non priests ( and sometimes not !) but he is still just a man in a black suit .
M25Rn-sounds like bipolar to me too. I've had a couple friends w/ it.
DH is telling me he's a kid,he's nervous. I am thinking passive aggressive and immature. He comes up behind me and just starts giving me a back rub. shouldn't he ask?
He just has such a loud,rough way about him. Dh says all kids are thing way in this generation. I am trying to tread lightly but I feel compromised,in my own home yet!
BBL
Thinking bi polar also mom25rn hugs for u momma
ladystoy dream hugs for hubby and prayers for a quick recovery. fw2 my hubby grabs my boobs oh it annoys me back rub would be fine but he has gerabbed them for years.... the boy hate to say it probably was not taught any better..if it gets serious u may have to teach him. hugs to all
prayers for all..
Ohsmom-I don't want to raise another one!I did mine. lol My dad still does that to my Dmom when she's on the phone w/ me! And it was DD's BF w/ the back rub. She was out of the room so it was weird? Am I just that Anal? I really don't know this kid.
Went to dinner at a thai place w/ a good friend. She bought my dinner (much to my suprise as I didn't expect it). We went to Target. it was nice hanging out. She has 4 kids and works,so it is seldom she has the time to hang anymore.
I saw another lady I used to hang out w/ and shopped deals w/.
It was nice to catch up for a few minutes.
I found some nice jeans for Ds for $6.50-$7.50. I told my friend Ds prob. would make me take them all back. He is very specific about what he likes!
ok That was wierd my son's friend done that to me and hinted that he liked older women... I am like don't think so...it was the hardest thing for my that his friends thought I was "hot...."
I undersatnd not wanting to raise anther childbut boy when as moms do we ever get done. my 23 year old inmature son is marring a girl that is 18 and a junior in hight school. so I am raising her..and she is difficult well the preist has come in hugs
Ohsmom-funny true story!
Dgram invited the priest over for tea and cookies. They did that a lot back then but Grandpa wasn't religious and it was a new but older priest so it was the first time. A few other ladies had come too.
Well long about that time grandpa had taken it into his head to get that skunk that was lurking in the outhouse, The ladies were setting down to tea when there was a loud boom. Grandpa came running by covered w/ ,well the stuff that usually hit the fan. He had shot at the skunk w/ a shotgun and the range being wide hit the hole. Poor GRANDMA? Grandpa was using some colorful language as he went by too apparently!
May your visit have gone better!
I stayed up all night doing dishes,made a dent. DD and I are doing more. I told her do it or OUT. I think she understands me using paper plates and plastic spoons while she lazes is over. She was whining it's too much! Then don't let it build Up! Duh. I suck by the way. Just so you guy understand...
So as I am ready for bed dh comes in and says DD1 here with some birthday gifts for you .
She brought me a very nice. Card that was actually very mushy ish which is so not like her. A pink rOse with a piglet balloon ( I use to love piglet ) and a dozen krispy kreme donuts for everyone.
I thanked her and gave her a hug which she made a face she thought i didnt see but a yearfrom now she would say i never hugged her when she gave me a gift so i did .
Everyone had some donuts and they kind of abandoned me with her .
She was hyper chatty. I really just wanted to go to bed i was exhausted and had a headache but was afraid to mention it and have her flip on me. so i was up till 11:30 when dd2 was yelling from her bedroom for quiet and dd1 decided to leave
Anyway. I am not so naïve to think this means things are fixed and I don't trust that she won't flip on me in a day about something.
But she either feels bad or wants her taxes done .. Only time will tell.
i unblocked her cell # this AM. At least for now . Feel like its wrong to leave blocked after this.
I was reading a lot of articles today and somedays I really think she may have some narccisistic bipolar tendencies . Or manic depressive issues ( actually read that some can flip the high and lows several times in one day which was one of the reasons i thought it couldnt be that is how quick she can flip from all happy to freaking someone 2 rooms away is chewing cereal too loud .)
Ok my depression has passed. It is what it is and just roll with the punches. Back to the grind.
I did not want to go to my 1st class this a.m. but glad I did. Was bored for the first 40 mins but then the teacher found out there was a ballet performance w/our local symphony orchestra happening right then (was a performance for school kids - I was wondering why there were loads of children in the parking lot) so we got to go watch the first half of that. I didn't want to leave but had to go to math class. Math twisted my brain today. The prof. said we wouldn't be doing much with this particular section thank god. I still have to suffer thru the homework though.
I have no class tomorrow (scheduled cancellation) so that will give me time to start on one of my final papers. I want to get it out of my hair since one of my other classes is backloaded with work and I don't want two big projects going on at once.
One of my profs and I are toying with the idea of me being his research assistant. He needs help with revising one of his textbooks. I'm giving it a trial run this weekend to see if this will work out for him and for me.
I'm sending out good vibes to those who need them. Some of you have way more patience than I ever would with grown kids behaving badly. More power to you.
fw2 that was a wonderful story about the preist going to tell it over supper..
mom25rn she tried she may want something but for a brief second she was a loving daughter hang on to that hugs.. happy bithday sweetie belated
star good luck with the job hopefully it works out..
there seems to be many missing u are missed when u can please jump back in.
the priest visit went well he prayed for grandmas health I smell bacon so she must have cooked supper...
I done too much yesterday so today I watched a movie hubby wouldn't like sex in the city2..
the clothes were awesome.. scenery beautiful. even though she is married to Big/ aiden and carrie will always hold a place in each others heart.. but carries heart belongs to big...
I guess that is life one particular old boy friend forever has a piece of my heart.. but I choose to give it to my hubby.. He is all the man I ever need...that's a song ain't it
Good evening ladies. Beautiful day here today, it waas 37 when I left work this evening. Spent some time outside with the dogs. I caught a cold yesterday, feeling kinda blah tonight. Going to vacuum in a bit, then make some tea and get comfy on the couch.
Star - glad you are over your depression. Being a research assistant would be great!
FW - wow, you must have lots of dishes! Your priest story cracked me up, I can just imagine it.
oheoh - Glad your breakfast went well. Please don't overdo it. Don't you go to the doctor soon?
Momto5RN - Sounds like your daughter made an effort, I hope things get smoother between the two of you.
Well, there are a lot of people missing from posting, I am worried about you all! I'm going to go make some tea, I'm freezing. Have a great night everyone! Hugs and prayers to all!
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